2 boys and want a girl

LittleTinker

mamof4 wrote: »

i gave up trying for a girl..have one daughter and 4 boys.

I am the other way round to you.....I have 4 daughters and 1 son. The son is the youngest.

I have found it amazing how many people I have come across who have 5 children, 4 of 1 and 1 of the other. Loads!!

I always wanted to have 6 children but stuck at the 5.

Floxxie

I now have 3 boys although we have previously lost 4 daughters during pregnancy. I thought I would feel really sad about this last pregnancy resulting in a boy but I'm not at all - I'm just grateful that I have three healthy boys who are loved and looked after.

There are too many people who see the resulting boy/girl as a material gain. Personally I have accepted that I have had my girls; they just weren't meant to live with us.

Floxxie.

eira

Don't want to seem unsympathetic biut I reckon there are 2 vital factors in having kids 1)that they have good health 2)you allow them to be what they want to be. I have two daughters. The eldest was in to bugs and football from the start. She did ballet lessons-at her own request- but due to her dyslexia it was a catastrophe. I/she did try the pretty dresses route but she was one of those people who attract dirt and mess and looked less than pristine 5 minutes out of the door.

She is now studying Zoology at university and is (ok so I'm her mother) incredibly pretty but is resolutely into bugs (now microbiology), sport, and outdoor pursuits. She has never been a Barbie girl and it would have been cruel to squash her into the mould. Her younger sister is elegant (ok mother again) and has a way with charity shop clothes that makes her look like a fashion shoot but---. She's into martial arts
and animal rights campaigning.

Kids have to be allowed to be themselves not what their parents or society expects. And anyone who works with teenagers will tell you that a 'difficult' girl is infinitely more so than a 'difficult' boy. I still think the 'Barbie girl' is a myth

thriftlady_2

I had 2 boys followed by a girl. I really wanted the third to be a girl, so was overjoyed when she was born. Eight years later she (bless her) has turned out to be the most difficult/naughty/infuriating child of the lot. So, be careful what you wish for

*Louise*

eira wrote: »

I still think the 'Barbie girl' is a myth

Tr ust me- it's not a myth!!:D

I work with teenagers, and we have a few' Barbie' types. One girl has the nickname Pinkie because she always has to wear something pink. Others act in a feeble helpless sort of way and expect the boys to help them out all the time.

:rotfl:

sheilavw

I once read that the older you are the more likely you are to have a girl? Mine are both girls I had them at 25 and 31 then stopped as we were satisfied with two and they are quite close

CarolynH

Poppy9 wrote: »

I thought the male's sperm decided the sex of a child, so perhaps their diet is more important.

Poppy's right. Women have 2 X Chromosomes, men 1 X and 1 Y. If the father passed on the X, the baby is XX and female. If he passes on the Y the baby is XY and male.

(Geek persona going back under the stairs now! :eek: )

BusyLizzie_3

I have three daughters, two aged five and one aged three. The first two were conceived by IVF after more than four years of trying to conceive on our own, and the third was a natural surprise. I love them all dearly, but not one of them is remotely interested in Barbies or any other typically 'feminine' activity (though neither was I at their age!). I suppose what I want to say is to celebrate and enjoy each child for who they are, and not who we would like them to be.

poppyscorner

Hi thanks for all the replies,

Firstly can I apologise to anyone who hasnt got children/ has lost children who feels upset by my post I didn't mean to upset anyone.

The 'barbie' thing - what I was getting at was doing 'girl' things and in my day as a young girl thats what I was into I have no idea what little girls play with these days but I would love to find out.

I am simply being honest about how I feel what is so wrong in the desire to have a daughter it doesn't mean that I love my sons any less. DS2 is actually the mummys boy in our house and I love them both to bits as I already said BUT the longing for a daughter isn't going away whether that is because I have had a DD and lost her or some other reason I don't know I was simply trying to gage other opinion from others who have been in my boat.

As someone else said I don't wish to replace her but I feel a bit like I have missed out.

Boys are great and you are probably right in that if they said 'Mrs X you have a baby boy' I would love him and accept him as he was and love him all the same my husband and I planned 3 kids thats all we can afford to have and the fact that its our 'last go' so to speak is I suppose what makes me a little nervous and apprehensive of getting pg again.

Can't remember who posted it but I have also read the theory about having a bit a day or so before you ovulate is more likely to result in a girl than a boy.

Thanks again xx

LittleTinker

poppyscorner wrote: »

Hi thanks for all the replies,

Firstly can I apologise to anyone who hasnt got children/ has lost children who feels upset by my post I didn't mean to upset anyone.

The 'barbie' thing - what I was getting at was doing 'girl' things and in my day as a young girl thats what I was into I have no idea what little girls play with these days but I would love to find out.

I am simply being honest about how I feel what is so wrong in the desire to have a daughter it doesn't mean that I love my sons any less. DS2 is actually the mummys boy in our house and I love them both to bits as I already said BUT the longing for a daughter isn't going away whether that is because I have had a DD and lost her or some other reason I don't know I was simply trying to gage other opinion from others who have been in my boat.

As someone else said I don't wish to replace her but I feel a bit like I have missed out.

Boys are great and you are probably right in that if they said 'Mrs X you have a baby boy' I would love him and accept him as he was and love him all the same my husband and I planned 3 kids thats all we can afford to have and the fact that its our 'last go' so to speak is I suppose what makes me a little nervous and apprehensive of getting pg again.

Can't remember who posted it but I have also read the theory about having a bit a day or so before you ovulate is more likely to result in a girl than a boy.

Thanks again xx

Go for it .....if you are really lucky you may have twins