boyfriend says he can't upset wife!!!!

caroleann

Errata wrote: »

I've just had a nicecupofteaandasitdown and I've read the tea leaves!
This is what they told me -

He will lick his purely superficial wounds
Creep round to his wife
She'll get fed up with him AGAIN and tell him to take a hike
He'll get his haircut and buy some new clothes
He'll go out on the town in a big way
A blonde 30 something will latch onto him
He'll tell her all the right things and rattle her bones until she screams
She'll expect him to take her out 4 nights a week and spend lots of lots of money on nice caffs, bars etc etc
He'll think he's in his 30's again and a helluva lad
She'll think he's a middle aged bore but she enjoys the high life which she's making sure he pays for
She won't go walkies with him for a cheap date
She won't walk anywhere 'cos she wears 4" heels all the time
She'll expect him to take her on a pricey holiday in the summer
She'll be with him for just as long as it suits her and until she spots a bigger fish
She'll dump him by text

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Aren't tea leaves wonderful.

OMG, you are WONDERFUL:rotfl:

Errata

caroleann wrote: »

OMG, you are WONDERFUL:rotfl:

My pleasure. There's a good belly laugh in most situations, it just has to be found

Caroleann's jobs for this evening -

Drink wine
Eat chocolate
Watch Britains's Got Talent (this is not a punishment)
Start planning summer holiday
[STRIKE]Get details of motorbike maintenance classes[/STRIKE]
Plan new decor for bedroom (if broke, whitewash is still cheap)
List all ex's positives and negatives, add up and believe the totals
Post on MSE
Swear
Keep chin up
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Errata

caroleann wrote: »

Thanks Larmy,
I'm going to be strong, as for his weasling, yes I think in about a week he'll try to get in touch with me, the funny thing was, I wrote a letter to him a week ago and had it ready to give to him if he let me down, which he did!!! It said I hope I never have to give you this letter but if I have its because you have let me down and our relationship is now over, dont ring, text, e mail or call at my house as you wont get an answer, also, to not do this to any other unsuspecting woman out there as its cruel and I feel used, so maybe when he reads it he wont try his weasling ways, I would have him back tomorrow if he came with a legal document prooving he'd instigated divorce proceedings, that aint gonna happen :mad:

A straight F-off would have been sufficient.

caroleann

Errata wrote: »

My pleasure. There's a good belly laugh in most situations, it just has to be found

Caroleann's jobs for this evening -

Drink wine
Eat chocolate
Watch Britains's Got Talent (this is not a punishment)
Start planning summer holiday
[strike]Get details of motorbike maintenance classes[/strike]
Plan new decor for bedroom (if broke, whitewash is still cheap)
List all ex's positives and negatives, add up and believe the totals
Post on MSE
Swear
Keep chin up
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You crack me up, never thought I'd laugh out loud tonight:rotfl: You have put everything into perspective for me and a big smile on my face, you are a clever lady, i love reading your posts, theyr'e MAGIC, xxxxx

Errata

Good, keep laughing it makes fewer wrinkles than frowning.

Seriously, give yourself plenty of treats and plan lots of things to look forward to - because you're worth it.

You're not going to get over it in 5 minutes, it's been traumatic and your life has been turned upside down. You might find yourself in a while thinking he wasn't that bad really, and wishing he was back in your life. This is part of the normal process and it will pass and you'll find yourself in that happy land where any time you think about him the thought is immediately followed by 'the !!!!!!' (can't use the real word, this site ain't The Sun).
There's loads of unattached blokes out there, usually unattached for a very good reason. But don't let that stop you looking.
Meanwhile, enjoy your daughters, your home, your friends. They'll always be around and be there for your. Blokes come and go like snow in April.

larmy16

I went out with a "separated" man once - I vowed never ever again - he may not have been still living with his wife, but the emotional ties between them, bitter as they were, were no way finished with. I ended up in a very painful triangle which caused me so much emotional pain and confusion.

Eventually I had the courage to end it, but then got myself into an even worse relationship with a violent (not at first) bully. That lasted just under a year. I was so afraid that he would kill me or my son. It was horrendus.

Hence a gap of about 10 years before I had the courage to try another relationship.
I have met a very nice man now, DIVORCED, but with a wife who is in and out of his life due to their son. She had an affair but would return like a shot if he let her.

It seems the older you get, the more complicated these relationships are, with us all hauling around past hurts and in some cases like yours Carolann someone who just wont go away!!!!!!!! Believe me I know how you feel. Too long to go into. I read somewhere if a relationship causes you more pain than pleasure then its just not worth it. Luckily for me mine is a lot more pleasure, but its not without its problems - but then whatever is?

Thinking of you

.

caroleann

larmy16 wrote: »

I went out with a "separated" man once - I vowed never ever again - he may not have been still living with his wife, but the emotional ties between them, bitter as they were, were no way finished with. I ended up in a very painful triangle which caused me so much emotional pain and confusion.

Eventually I had the courage to end it, but then got myself into an even worse relationship with a violent (not at first) bully. That lasted just under a year. I was so afraid that he would kill me or my son. It was horrendus.

Hence a gap of about 10 years before I had the courage to try another relationship.
I have met a very nice man now, DIVORCED, but with a wife who is in and out of his life due to their son. She had an affair but would return like a shot if he let her.

It seems the older you get, the more complicated these relationships are, with us all hauling around past hurts and in some cases like yours Carolann someone who just wont go away!!!!!!!! Believe me I know how you feel. Too long to go into. I read somewhere if a relationship causes you more pain than pleasure then its just not worth it. Luckily for me mine is a lot more pleasure, but its not without its problems - but then whatever is?

Thinking of you

.

Thank you so much Larmy, it helps to know I'm not the only woman who has been in this kind of relationship with a man,I keep asking myself 'Is it me?' and I know its not.......but they wear you down and make you feel its you thats being unreasonable, he called me that last night! I almost went purple!!!:mad: you know when someone is just being STUPID and then they say its you actually, he blames his daughter, she will never speak to him again if he asks for a divorce from her Mam, 'They are so close'. I told him my daughters both saw their Dad hitting me, abusing me verbally, left me and stopped paying mortgage, (We worked together in our own business so my income ended when the marriage did) had to borrow the mortgage money every month till house was sold, was heading for a refuge as he wouldn't sign documents on the day we exchanged contracts, and guess what? they still speak to him, God it hurts like Hell, but blood is thicker than water, so no, he has'nt a leg to stand on.
I'm on my own again, licking my wounds and have learnt a good lesson, life goes on, I'm a great believer in fate and all things happen for a purpose, good to hear you have found a good one, hold on to him, they are few and far between, xxxxxxx

Errata

he blames his daughter, she will never speak to him again if he asks for a divorce from her Mam,

Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear. Nothing is ever his fault, is it. He'll always find a scapegoat. You're well shut.

caroleann

Errata wrote: »

Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear. Nothing is ever his fault, is it. He'll always find a scapegoat. You're well shut.

Your'e right, he wants to stay 'The Goodie' with wifey and kids, what do they really expect? his daughter is almost 22, she knows the full story, her Mam left her two years ago and her 3 brothers, her Dad looked after them all, he told me the story of their first Christmas alone, he went shopping with her to Asda and broke down in the aisle, then got so drunk on Christmas Eve he could'nt get out of bed on Christmas day to cook the meal and she did it.
She might be upset that the marriage is going to be finally over if he goes for a divorce, but why???? they have been apart over two years now, could she be wanting them to get back together? Anyway I agree, him thinking she wont speak to him again is c--p, and using that as a reason is even worse, told him he hasn't the b---s to divorce her and thats the bottom line.

Errata

Bluntly, of course he looked after them -they were all in the same house, what else was going to happen ? Him walk out as well?
Caroleann, this may sound harsh, but I think he's a 5 star bullshi!!er.