Shutting 11 year old in bathroom

Poppy9

I wouldn't lock my DD in the bathroom as I would think of worse cases scenarios i.e. access to razors, swallowing shampoo, over even drowning herself.:o Too many risks there IMO for an angry child but then I'm the sort of person who thinks of all the bad things that could happen.

My DD (13) has always been very well behaved and has never been in as much trouble with me as I was with my mother as a child. When she does drive me mad I tell her to get out of my sight into another room. We both calm down after about 5 minutes and make up. I do recognise that sometimes I am as much to blame as DD for these outbursts as being tired and stroppy is not just the domain of teenagers!:D

ALIBOBSY

Must admit I don't like the idea of locking them in. My middle dd has a massive temper problem, but the best way to deal with her is to try and side track her before she goes into full strop. I have occasionally shut her in the hall or in her room if she is angry and trying to hit us or her brother. But I wouldn't lock her in. I feel its important she knows I am there outside the door both to calm her down and so I am there when she does calm down to reassure her(and get an apology).
ali x

morg_monster

I would also worry about all the potential dangers in a bathroom for a lone child, even one of 11, (chemicals, razors, pills etc) but I guess it depends on the temperament of the child - if they were of the attention-grabbing type then it might present too many different & dangerous ways to REALLY get mum and dad's attention. At the very least there are a lot of ways to make a massive, fragrant smelling mess in there - and that is communal space rather than their own room! However if they are basically sensible and it is just a chance for them to cool off then it seems OK to me if they have nowhere else to do this. I personally would try and find an alternative though.

Zazen999

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I could understand if you said she was having tantrums etc, but it depends on the level or rudeness/naughtiness etc. 30 mins is long, and I don't agree with the locking bit for their own safety. The 1 minute per year, once they have calmed down should be enough...

The best way to get results though is the threat of no access to the things my OH's DD loves...

a66y31

my kids are only 8 & 5...usually make them stand in kitchen for 30mins...thats works for the younger ones...and if they are really bad and still dont do wat they are told...tv gets taken out of their room for a nite...or a week..works a treat...I will carry on using the tv technique until they are into their teens also. So I say take the luxury items off them and pocket money if they get that..lol

angel81uk

I'd have concerns over the safety of being locked in a bathroom, but so long as "dangerous" items are out of reach/locked in a cabinet I agree it could be preferable to locking them in a bedroom. Especially having seen a neighbour lock their children in their room only for them to try and climb out of the first floor window! Bathrooms generally have smaller windows.

30 mins is quite a long time, but these things depend on the individual. If that's how long it takes for her daughter to calm down/realise the error of her ways then so be it. However I wouldn't want to lock a young child in any room for any length of time unless I remained close enough to make sure everything is ok. If her parents are locking her in the bathroom then going downstairs and out of earshot to carry on with the washing up etc I would be concerned.

pulliptears

If my DD is in trouble she stomps off to the bathroom and locks herself in!!

I usually leave her to it and she comes out herself within half an hour, calmer and happier.

bestpud

pulliptears wrote: »

If my DD is in trouble she stomps off to the bathroom and locks herself in!!

I usually leave her to it and she comes out herself within half an hour, calmer and happier.

Lol, mine have done that too! It's a blimming pain when you only have one toilet though!

Re the question: I have to say I am pretty uncomfortable with the idea of locking a child in the bathroom. Well, anywhere really, but their bedroom seems a much better option out of the two.

That said, if she is otherwise happy and not overly distressed at their chosen punishments, then I don't think there is any need for you to take action of any kind. It just wouldn't be my choice!

pulliptears

bestpud wrote: »

Lol, mine have done that too! It's a blimming pain when you only have one toilet though!

Re the question: I have to say I am pretty uncomfortable with the idea of locking a child in the bathroom. Well, anywhere really, but their bedroom seems a much better option out of the two.

That said, if she is otherwise happy and not overly distressed at their chosen punishments, then I don't think there is any need for you to take action of any kind. It just wouldn't be my choice!

Agreed. Ive spent many a night trying to talk her out of the toilet because Im desperate for a wee, and if I try and unlock the door from the outside the little sod holds the lock inside!!! She is 10 and a half.....

ALWAYS_POOR

It is the 'locking' of the door that I find abhorant. There should be no need for locks on any doors in a family home, not even the bathroom. In our house if the bathroom door is shut tight that means there is someone in it - dead easy and it never ever fails. And it is courteous to knock on bedroom doors before entering. Locks on doors can only lead to problems, I have worries about children being unable to get out, fires, accidents when people can't get out and rescuers can't get in and all sorts. (Not that I'm a worrier, lol).