The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

Sea78

Well, I haven't caved, but it doesn't help that he's gonna have been drinking since 4pm and will come in who knows when. Should be fun. He doesn't remember what he says int he morning, but it doesn't make it hurt less.

barshamhillbilly

Stick with it Sea .. don't give in to it , stick with us instead as Jo said

Must be something in the air this weekend ????

BHB

elantan

jo1972 wrote: »

Thanks all



I feel a bit better now, just took the car out for a drive to blow the cobwebs away and have been thinking that maybe I need to see the doc on Monday to discuss my current state of mind. I've never really believed in happy pills cos I always thought you just need to remove the problem to feel sane again, but as I'm having problems removing the problem maybe I need to try and feel a bit more sane before hand!

xx

jo i so connected with this ..i was suffering from depression but i didnt know what the problem was this went on for over a year i did everything from excercise to growing veg starting new hobbies etc to try and get out of it (having read that excercise was good for depression) nothing was working and i didnt want to go to the dr's to be put on tablets i prided myself with my ability to deal with things (i usually am very good at this) but this time eventually i had to go to the dr's it was getting too much and i didnt know of anything else i could try myself ...

i went to the dr's and he prescribed prozac ...i decided then and there that i would only concentrate on breathing that was it ..i let the tablets do everything else ...within 2 weeks i figured out what the problem was and sorted it i no longer needed the prozac truth be told it wasnt in my system anyway ...(the best way to describe it would be a couple trying for a child they become very immersed in getting preganant sometimes though when they stop trying it happens )

i went to the dr but he thought that was just the tablets kicking in and that was why i was feeling fine he wouldnt accept that no it was because i had figured out what was wrong with me...i agreed to stay on them for another month which i did then i returned to the dr and he tried to keep me on them i said no and was determined i was coming off them so i was weaned off them it took about another month or two to happen but it did ...

the truth of the fact is i have never looked back and now have new coping mechanisms to deal with any situation should it arise in future ...but what i will say is prozac helped me(kinda like a placebo effect) it enabled me to breathe ..it allowed me to hand over my problem and in doing that i saw the solution...

i hope this helps my thoughts are with you

susieh_2

Hi All,

Love this thread, if I don't get chance to read anything else on MSE each day I always make sure I catch up whats happening every day with you all, even though I haven't posted since day one (think I was a bit embarrased that I poured out my feelings), congrats to all, you are all brill ( especially Jo, keep strong and you keep going girl) you have my complete admiration.

Best wishes & Love to you all

Susieh, ( sat here covered in paint, back breaking, worried that our first house since b/r will be ready to move into next Sat!!!)

Jacks_xxx

Aww ((((Sea)))) :wave: What a weekend we're all having! Is it a full moon??? :rolleyes:

You've really made me think about what an @r$e I might be when I've had a few, and if I might have hurt people.

(sorry - I didn't mean to be all me me me, but that's just struck me like a sledge hammer )

I hope you feel better about things [strike]tomorrow[/strike] today chick.

Jo :wave: So really - even though he was an @r$e about how he went about it - he's expressing his feelings of worry for you and your health when he goes off like that...? And tapping into the scared feelings he had about his Mum when he was a littl'un...

Blimey. That puts a bit of a different complexion on it. How're you feeling about it all today honey?

I'm really sorry about DS. How blo0dy irresponsible of the school is that?! My daughter's school only allowed hats and sunglasses at Sports Day last year after 150 of us threatened to keep our kids at home it if they didn't - after mass faintings and sunstrokes the year before!

Elantan :wave: I found your post more than a little bit inspirational sweetie. I sort of know what you mean about having a breathing space, taking the pressure off and suddenly being able to sort things out. I'm not sure I can go your "brass neck" route yet though. I really hate hanging out my dirty linen so to speak. I'm the queen of putting a brave face on it no matter what.
It would work though! :eek:

SusieH :wave: I'm glad you're still around cherub - and don't be embarassed about blurting it all honeybun. That's what this thread (this site!) is for!

ZTD :wave: As always my sweet, I blo0dy love your take on things! Bless your cotton socks. :A

BHB :wave: There's definitely something going on! I meant to ask you...how did you get through that barbecue the other day without drinking? That's the hardest thing for me.

ISOM :wave: Best thread ever chick. How goes it with you my lovely? I'm all behind on posts as usual! WooHOO! on the no spend, no drink & no smoke week. I'm just sorry I can't say the same.

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Originally Posted by winebox
Gosh Jacks that is SO ME. I just don't have the courage to say I will stop altogether, makes me panic (erm, not good sign then? but but.....:eek: ). Don't even want to go there, it's the cutting down ie control when I AM drinking that I want to do but can't get a handle on. I have a new master plan now (just stop YAWNING will y'all?); actually, have just decided to save it until I see if it works. Bit of a drag elsewise for you dear readers.:rolleyes:

Phee, Jo, good to hear from you at last! We was worried!

SO glad I'm not the only one honeybun - and please share your plan asap cos my wagon has rolled away without me this weekend!

Right...I'm off to wake up the rest of the household cos we're leaving for the carboot in less than an hour and I need help squeezing the pasting tables in the car!

I had 3 vodka and tonics yesterday and I can't even claim I was pressured into it.

Love to everybody not mentioned, (and everybody who was of course!) and I looked up our theme song:

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=fZ9LOPWrZwk

"Get back on the wagon woman!" :rotfl: Love it.

Love Jacks xxx

elantan

jacks for me it became nessecary (sp) i as being bombarded with questions ...humans as a race are nosey creatures and people kept wanting to know why i wasnt drinking i was more scared than brave i was scared i would cave in and have a drink if i kept getting asked....when i said it for the first time whilst it was an incredibly hard thing to say i did feel strangely liberated (if that makes any sense) it got easier everytime i say it and i dont get the questions or the looks as much ...however a few close friends have tried to challenge me i think to help them feel better about their own drinking...i have stood resolute and explained this is what i feel for me what they feel for themselves is up to them..... i now havnt drank since the date on the bottom of my sig the thing is i dont know what my date is it has became meaningless (yet very meaningful) to me now i have realised that i can do it when i set my mind to it for me this has been the greater lesson

elantan

wine box sorry i missed your origonal post about a new plan of action thanks to jacks for quoting it ...i know you feel you dont want to bore us all if it doesnt work i can understand that .. but can you accept that while if it doesnt work for you it might really help another? i too would be grateful if you shared ...please dont feel forced by my saying this it isnt aimed at forcing you...it is aimed at letting you know alot of people here (including myself) really appreciate your input and any advice you can give ....thank you either way

barshamhillbilly

elantan wrote: »

wine box sorry i missed your origonal post about a new plan of action thanks to jacks for quoting it ...i know you feel you dont want to bore us all if it doesnt work i can understand that .. but can you accept that while if it doesnt work for you it might really help another? i too would be grateful if you shared ...please dont feel forced by my saying this it isnt aimed at forcing you...it is aimed at letting you know alot of people here (including myself) really appreciate your input and any advice you can give ....thank you either way

here here as they say

nearly-there_4

Good morning

I've sat for the last half hour, reading the new set of posts and boy have you lot moved me to tears..........................so much of what's been posted in the last 24 hours, is what I can relate to as I have been there too..................losing feelings of self worth, no longer being able to trust gut instincts, poor decision making, too much self blame, so much tiredness, depression, failing relationships, losing sight of the bigger picture................and (forgetting to) breathe as Elantan so eloquently posted!!
Wow!! you've hit a nerve with me......................I often thought I was travelling this difficult path alone..................and it's been a very lonely journey at times................but now I know that all along you guys have been there with me..we've just been at different stages.
Wow!! (again).................kinda seeing that journey in a different light now. Thanks for being here.............right here, right now.................biggest hugs ever.
I'm off out for a big walk now...................gonna take some of the biggest deepest breaths I've ever taken...................thankyou for being there for me...............hope I'm there for you too. xxxx

barshamhillbilly

Can't really follow that NT. :T

Have a great day everyone

Best Wishes
Andy