The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

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There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say...:beer: but this time with water!!
PS have amended this slightly as I have decided that I will try for the moderation way! That means for me not drinking over the recc limits (bottle & a half of wine for me!) but I know at times this will be a struggle plus I'm aware that others want to do the same.
For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say...:beer: but this time with water!!
PS have amended this slightly as I have decided that I will try for the moderation way! That means for me not drinking over the recc limits (bottle & a half of wine for me!) but I know at times this will be a struggle plus I'm aware that others want to do the same.
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Hopefully with the support from everyone, we can give each other pointers and motivation - which will then go hand in hand with saving money!
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I'm still a newbie really but the again bit implies to me that failing to give up is an option. Giving up should be viewed more as choosing not to drink and regaining control over your lives - not a giving up/will miss it kind of negative spin.
I've chosen not to drink for getting on for a year now and I'm really passionate about the choice to not drink....OK the money and health saving part is great too. I know now that "just one drink" is one too many as it leads to many more and I don't really know how much that would ultimately cost. I am lucky to be where I am now as I so nearly lost it all.
I do enjoy the occasional drink out - very occasional as I seldom go out - but I don't really enjoy the wine I regularly drink at home, on my own, and in front of the computer, when I could be doing something much more useful and enjoyable with the time. And I hate having a hangover for no good reason like I have today.
We can all do this, and feel better about our selves for it.
Firstly well done on doing so well. I hope you are proud of your achievement!
While I can understand where you are coming from I think we are all different. If you choose never to drink again the that is fine and if you feel you have no option but not to drink then that is your journey and I respect you for that but...
The simple fact is that for me drinking is an option but I choose to give up because I want to, not because I have to. Plus I will miss it! and I am not saying that I will never drink again! Like sea' I want to give up the drinking at home on a regular basis but stil intend on having the odd glass of wine when I go out, because its a rare occurence anyway!
In addition I want people to feel that they can come back if they do fall off the wagon and TBH the title was because I did try in Jan, failed miserably so here I am (again!).
So, in short, we'll have to agree to disagree on the title. I hope this wont stop you staying with us and offering your experence and contribution which I imagine is significant!
I'm not saying I'll never drink again but am taking things one day at a time in all ways.
I'll certainly stick around, though....just don't expoect me to talk about falling off!