The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

Wol2

jo1972 wrote: »

Can I join this challenge? I tried out the Jan challenge but cracked completely by the .......erm.....2nd :undecided but am ready to start on this one on Sunday. Going out with the girls tomorrow night so shall be nursing a hangover on Sunday, what better start to my sobriety!!

Hello Jo...and welcome.

I hope I speak for others when I say..of course..you can join..and well done for posting...it takes courage so congratulations!! No judgements here...just do your best..If you waiver...we're here to help support you..and we really hope you achieve your aims.

Enjoy saturday night...and we look forward to seeing you here from sunday onwards. No pressure...just as and when you feel able....but mutual support is a given...so please feel you can post here even in your darkest hour of temptation!! As i said before...no judgements here...just helpful advice and mutual support..to kick a habit..and ££££'s saved as an added advantage!!!


Much love
Wol2
xxx

greatsite_2

Can I join, have put on over a stone in weight over the last year and the only difference is my wine intake, a few glasses of wine a night, so as of Monday will only have a couple of glasses Friday to Sunday, really hoping this will help shift the stone in weight

Sea78

oh dear - really tempted to have a glass of the now opened wine (no, not me, b-i-l arrived and got ready to go out and had a drink before he went out) as William has just projectile vomited all over me big time. Ewww.....

jo1972

Sea, just say NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :eek:
























*Mind you, projectile vomiting is enough to send me to drink!*

ms_london

Hello!

This is something I have been pondering for a while. I dont think I should drink with the meds I am taking (an underactive thyroid), I havent been told this, but if someone said 'You shouldnt be drinking' I wouldnt. I dont drink at home, just when I am out, it just affects me a lot more than 'normal' people and it takes me ages to recover. (Perhaps that is my answer!).

I am trying to lose weight at the moment, and have only been out a few times - I just think that alcohol is a big part of life in todays society, and going out and getting hammered seems to make you seem like a fun person, and you can laugh about it the next day at how drunk you were, how you dont remember much etc etc. Is it only me that thinks this is wrong?

I've been there and done that, so not criticisng others, just trying to work it out in my own head and see what others think. I started drinking at 19, so perhaps considered a late starter, and I have been drinking since then (I am now 27), that is a lot of years of doing that to your body.

susieh_2

Evening/morning,

I've been reading this post with great interest, everybody has there reasons for being here and everybody deserves respect and tolerance.

I would like to give mine, and apologise in advance if it becomes long and boring and am def not looking for sympathy as things are turning out ok, and on reading the posts think its now just habit.

Here goes.... will shortcut when can

My oh & I decided for all sorts of reasons in 1994 to go into pubs as managers, paid a monthly salary, home etc, so excited & never really drank at all, rented our home out through an E/A, everything rosey, fell pregnant with 2nd child, tennant did'nt pay rent, neighbours rang to say they'd done moonlight flit we had to go to court to get tennancy agreement overturned before we were allowed back in - house totally trashed - no trace of tennant - by this time 6 months had past, used cc & loan to pay mort as wages not brill due to accom being inc with jobs and started to have a couple of drinks. Fast forward, cleaned up and sold house at £8k loss. Also sold endowment policies to try to get back on top of debt incurred during 8 months.

Never really managed it, but kept ticking over and stopped drinking altogether and then unplanned, fell preganant again in 2001 never felt so ill & could barley walk, visited doc & ante natal who said everyting was fine, but on Sun eve. Feb 13th 2001 crippled over with pain & waters broke & OH called ambulance to take me to hosp while mum & dad came to look after boys, then he came up. Doc didn't know how to use scanner & had to wait till Mon am when scan dept opened, they said I'd lost my waters but baby was still alive, told to go back to ward and wait for consultant, he never came and at 2 p,m, went to loo and lost my baby down the toilet. It turned out it was a little girl, I was 22 weeks gone.

Went home and struggled to get over it & oh & I slowly grew apart, but carried on, debts getting worse & couldn't see any way out.

Fast forward 12 months and was on jury service, what a nice break!!! and on the 2nd Monday was given the day off for solicitors to do something ??? and needed to go to chemist for prescription for son, pub was on bus station and chemist 1 min away across road, for reasons still unknown a car stopped and some jumped out & beat the s**t out of me, my face was completley battered. My mum worked on the local A & E and had to be warned I was on my up, I was totally un recognisable, my kids wouldn' t come near me, I couldn't talk, eat, see for weeks and had to have surgery on my face. The police did arrest someone and we had 3 line ups (another long story), but I couldn't pick him out. My hubby was arrested on a threat to kill, it wasn't
him, being in a town centre pub it did'nt take long for doormen and other publicans to find out who it was. I know for sure that nothing happened to him.
I started drinking again as I was sure my attacker knew who I was and were I lived and could'nt sleep at night, every noise and I was wide awake and a couple of bacardi and cokes knocked me out as I wasn't used to drink. A couple gradually became a couple more & although I functioned during the day I could'nt wait for the kids to be asleep so I could relax with my couple of bacardis, I found it increasingly difficult to talk to people, but because we ran a pub I had to be seen & started to play the bandits so I did'nt have to talk to anyone & yes theres only 1 winner & our debts got worse, how I hid it for so long, God only knows. We had to go on aDMP with CCCS

Fast forward again and our pub was sold & we had to become tennants, because we had no home to go to and because of our debts. To start with all was fine till they put the rent & beer prices up. We ended up in arrears with everything except staff wages, tax & NI payments as they were more family than staff and had supported us through so much. Drinking a bit more now, because without it could'nt sleep at all.

In the end we gave up and left, finding private rented accom with the help of mum & dad & then declared b/r, paid for by mum & dad. Hubby went to do a degree & worked part time & I worked part time. Drinking cut down drastically, but still enjoyed one or two at weekend.

Dad had heart attack 12 months later, but thankfully recovered and retired and paid for us all to go and see my brother and his family in Australia in Jan 2006 for a month. My sister and her family came too, so we were all together for the first time in 8 years it was great. Stopped drinking execpt on social occasions. Came home, hubby passed degree, got 2:1 and I started working at jobcentre, everybody so pleased for us.

Brother decided to move home to be with family and let his 2 girls know us and we were all so excited.

Dad fell ill again, a great mystery initially & then diagnosed with the big C in July we went though hell and I started drinking again cos everytime I went to bed all I could see was Dad and mums face. Dad died on 5/12/2006. He was my best friend, he was only 61.

The drinking really started to become a problem & mum wasn't/isn't coping at all.

It's been ongoing now, at least 2/3 bacardis every night, but never till everthing done and so it gets late when I go to bed, though never missed a days work through it, though do feel really groggy some days.

My hubby now has a good job & mum (and dad) has just given us the deposit for our new home and received the official mortgage offer today so should moving in 3/4 weeks time.

Hence again I'm sat here feeling quite sad (although elated at being able to move on its bitter sweet), I miss my dad so much.

I now have no reason to be up at this time of night having a drink, its just a habit which I am finding so hard to break (about a litre of bacardi a week) and am hoping that when we move, as the house needs quite a bit of decorating etc., I'll be so ready for sleep I wont need anything at all to help me and all my dreams will be of happy times memories and not the nightmare I feel I've been in for the last few years.

Thanks in advance for reading my ramblings, you're the first person I've ever told all this too, except my dad.

Good luck to you all

susieh

Merlot

Susieh,

offering you a hug, you have been through the mill.

If you think you have an addiction to drink then contact your GP, they will offer you help.

Merlot.x.

Sue-UU

Hi suzie,

What a lot to cope with in seemingly a few years, my heart goes out to you, really it does. I can't help but agree with Merlot though, do your best to go and get help, I'm sure your dear Dad would wish you to. He'll be so happy to, in time, to 'see' you get your life back as it should be and for you to feel a lot better for it in every way, your hubby and the youngsters too. You've done well in taking the first step in coming on here and getting it all off your chest, tomorrow is a new day Suzie, try to make something good happen in it, then try for the same in each new day.

Meanwhile we're here for you, to help you along with your 'habit' which it sounds as though you could crack again one day soon. Pour yourself into the house, do it for you Dad, your Mum too as it may well help her in her sadness. She and you are still in your early days of grieving yet, let yourself do so thoroughly and never hold back from shedding tears, it's nature's way and you'll be surprised how it will benefit you. Encourage your Mum to do the same, in time she also will heal, though she will do so more quickly and thoroughly with your help.

I wish you all the very best susie and am sending loads of hugs your way. Take care and good luck with the house, it could do wonders for you.

Love, Sue

In_Search_Of_Me

Morning all; ths really is a tricky one isnt it! There is a definate fine line between addiction and enjoying a drink & we all have to decide which category we come into. Hugs all...

Superheavy

Morning guys, and good luck to all of you who are fighting to stop drinking....I've tried plenty of times before, and never lasted over 6 months. At the moment, I'm in enforced teetotalism because of a total lack of money available to drink with. I'm trying to live on £40 per month for food drink and household supplies, so there's not much beer money in there.

However, I do find I tend to have one binge soon after payday, where I'll buy 10 or 12 cans and just let go. I know I shouldn't, and it's not much spread over a month...but its still money better spent elsewhere!

Good luck again guys.