The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

Needstochange

Jo really sorry to hear about your row. I bet he will wake up feeling guilty but if not at least you know you are being strong about your problem unlike him

Still running behind your wagon at the moment:o I think one of my major triggers is being awake:rolleyes: but I will kick this. I like the idea of not drinking alone so I think I will put my head on the block and say I will be starting this next week not Monday as there is a do after work I need to attend which will definately involve some wine. So my first "day off" for as long as I can remember will be Tuesday :eek: :eek: so please reserve me a seat in the beginners section.

jo1972

Thanks all

ISOM, thank you so much for starting this thread, I think you are helping untold people by letting them realise they may have a problem that they didn't know they had and others, that knew, get the courage to do something about it

YM, you have not spoken out of turn at all, you are a great support, thank you

NTC, good luck for Tuesday, we shall all be here for you and I hope and pray I shall be safely sat on that wagon when you jump onboard. If you need to rant or talk we are all here

I feel a bit better now, just took the car out for a drive to blow the cobwebs away and have been thinking that maybe I need to see the doc on Monday to discuss my current state of mind. I've never really believed in happy pills cos I always thought you just need to remove the problem to feel sane again, but as I'm having problems removing the problem maybe I need to try and feel a bit more sane before hand!

xx

barshamhillbilly

Afternoon All,
Just going on from what Jo said about taking prescribed antidepressants:

It wasn't until I actually went to the GP and got prescribed them that I actually felt good enough to cut down and stop the Alcohol. I know I have a long way to go but can honestly say at day 44 that the lack of alcohol combined with the happy pills definitely does help. I am much calmer, cravings have all but disappeared (though a nice cool one in the garden sounds nice sometimes - but not craved), I am sleeping much better and generally feeling well.

I would say though I did try it last year without quiting at the same time, with the same drug, but it didn't work anywhere near as well as quiting alcohol at the same time.
That combined with the acupuncture and support of you lot on here has got me this far.

I have to say though - it does help when your OH is on your side. If they are not then they should be! If mine wasn't then she wouldn't be my other half. Sorry - that sounded a bit harsh, but as I said earlier a few pages ago, I traded the outlaws in for some new ones

What I am trying to say is don't be afraid to ask for help from your GP or local centre, theres something there that will help you.

Hope that helps .... if not tell me to go pluck another chicken (My task for earlier on ..... Sunday lunch )

If in doubt DIY!
BHB

Jacks_xxx

(((Jo)))

Is it possible that he's projecting his feelings about his own dependency on "funny fags" onto you?

Or is he feeling insecure because you trying to deal with your issue is prompting him to look at his own?

I'm really sorry he did this where DD1 could hear.

Here's hoping things are better today chick.

Love Jacks xxx

jo1972

BHB, I'm going to see my doc hopefully on Monday, he did want to prescribe anti-depressants a little while ago but I refused them. You know what the funny thing is, you're all gonna think I'm nuts but, I'm frightened of taking pills (or any drugs in fact) that might alter the way I'm feeling and make me feel out of control....says she that gets trollied practically every night

Jacks, I think his outburst stemmed from the fact that he lost his mum to alcohol, he watched her leave a violent relationship taking him and his 2 brothers with her and went into hiding which is where she took to the bottle. It was a vicious circle that unfortunately she couldn't stop and died of alcohol related illness(es) a couple of years ago. I do understand his frustrations and anger, it must be horrible and heartbreaking to watch someone you love struggling with an addiction (any addiction).

OH woke up (eventually :rolleyes:) and apologised but said that some of what he said was valid and it was the drink that made it come out the way it did. It's not been mentioned since and I've not bought any drink but I know I do have one can of Stella in the kitchen which I forgot to tip away this morning (honest!).

Right, I gotta do dinner, DS has heatstroke from being out in the sun at school yesterday (I'm fuming :mad:) and is now being sick so I gotta keep a close eye on him.

I'll probably be back later instead of propping up the kitchen table with a beer in hand :beer:, oops, :coffee:

xx

Sea78

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Please - I am so about to go and get wine from the shop. I just can't take it anymore. My OH is a real ********** can't even begin to describe how upset I am with him. I've had enough and just want a bloody drink.

jo1972

Sea, don't do it! It might initially make you think you feel better, but then you'll feel you've let yourself down and have to deal with a carp feeling body tomorrow which will then lead on to more guilt and regret.

My OH was a bit of an ar5e yesterday and I gave in so I know what I'm talking about!

Rant on here, keep yourself busy, but ultimately go out to your kitchen and find yourself something sweet to eat or drink and change the taste in your mouth which might help ease the craving.

Good luck x

Sea78

Apparently my taking prozac is just as bad as drinking - so he says - i just don't know what the point is anymore.

jo1972

But prozac are prescribed and you will eventually be weaned off of them in a controlled manner. Alcohol is bought in the corner shop with no limit of how much you can buy or consume...

I don't get that either.

Please don't get upset about it, stick on MSE and keep your mind occupied.

ZTD

Sea78 wrote: »

Apparently my taking prozac is just as bad as drinking - so he says - i just don't know what the point is anymore.

He's just having a go and trying to hit any target that hurts. If you were sensitive to the accusation "having breasts like Pamela Anderson is just as bad as drinking" then that's what he would have said.

:grouphug: