Dbc 1 - Mot 0

ampersand

Triker wrote: »

Oopsy I don't know if it was my posts with quotes that have made the page
HUGE, I've amended them but it doesn't seem to have made a difference.

Apologies if it was moi.:o

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We're ok now triker - I know how I felt and apologised/'fessed up in print this small:o

Tiglet

Triker wrote: »

Oopsy I don't know if it was my posts with quotes that have made the page
HUGE, I've amended them but it doesn't seem to have made a difference.

Apologies if it was moi.:o

It's still wide 'cos Merlot quoted your link to the pic of Wolfie Smith.

smashedbooboo

Morning all, Hope you have a good day today MOT. Do you have any national trust properties where you are. Reason i am saying this is because my friend who i am staying with is taking me to look at a house that belongs to the national trust. It is a gatehouse. Only one bedroom, but thats fine for me. Nearly all the houses in the village where i am are owned by the national trust as they came as a parcel as part of the estate they took over. The rents are usually reasonable as well. Also are there any other big country homes near you. They often have properties to rent. Usually in the countryside near the stately homes. Maybe worth looking hun. Just an idea. Good luck chick x x x x

Former_MSE_Andrea

Hi everyone

Firstly, can we thank the majority of contributors to this thread for the support and warmth they have show MumofTwins, who's going through a very difficult time. There have been some concerns raised (from multiple users) that people are donating away from the board. While we do realise why people might be doing this (the community support is fantastic) please do remember we can't encourage this as we have no way of regulating the destination, or any problems that may arise.

Likewise, the Debt Free Wannabe board is for people who have money concerns and we are worried about people donating money they might need themselves.

I'm sure you can understand our concerns and would just ask to keep donation discussion away from this thread and stick to the incredible moral support.

Thanks everyone,

Take care

Andrea

Merlot

Tiglet wrote: »

It's still wide 'cos Merlot quoted your link to the pic of Wolfie Smith.

Sorry, I go back and edit it, so hopefully it'll be better.

Edit: I''ve done it, sorry, I didn't realise it was my post causing the problems.

Merlot

ladylove2uk

i have been following this thread for a while now and posted my best wishes to mot and the twins and i still hope goes great for them but i now find myself in a simular postion and would like son help and advice ive posted it on this thread as i just dont know where else to post and to be honest my head at the min is not on this planet i will give you all a bit of background etc

my son was involved in a seriouse accident 20 years ago when he was 5 he was left phycically and mentley disabled so i looked after him did all his care needs etc and went for compensation as the person who knocked my son down had no licence or insurance

i spent 15 years fighting through the courts etc as well as looking after my disabled son plus his 5 brothers and sisters as well as coping with my own mobility problems anyway 5 years ago i won my sons comp case for him but put it all in the court of protection etc so nothing could be said that we had spent his money etc and i thought this was only right as my sons dad who was my husband and i had diveorced some years before

i now have a new partner who me and my children went to live with 7 years ago hes a wonderfull man i was getting physical abuse etc from my ex husband etc so my new fella moved us in to his home we spent 3 wonderfull years living in his home then was asked if we would usesome of my sons compensation to buy a house to fill disabled sons needs and make things easier for me to care for him and give us all a better life

now after 12 months of looking into this asking questions etc i was told dont worry etc your safe there wont be any probs etc so we thought well he is our son its not as though its a stranger or not even family

now due to my son having head injurys etc he has mood swings and in october he upped and went to stay at his sisters i had spent 9 hrs searching for my son before i new that my mother and farther come 20 miles had picked my son up etc the 5 days later i heard that he and his sister had been to so the reciver who i appointed to deal with sons money and they had been given money for a rented property plus money to buy furniture etc and had moved into a house within 5 days nobody had seen if the property was sutible for my son which in my opinion it isant theres too many dangers

anyway ive woke up this morning and recived a letter from his solicitor saying shes sending the valuers in and putting this house we live in on the market so me my partner and my 2 sons still at home have nowhere to go we wont even have furniture as when we moved we moved from a 3 bedroom house to a 5 bedroom they put all new furniture in etc as i see it it was bought with sons money so i think it will go to him im sorry if im rambling but i just dont know what to do were to turn i feel like i gave my life up to care for my son and now that ive helped get him to be able to live a little of a normal life im kicked in the face and i cant even discuss or tell me my new fella till tomoz as hes greiving today for his mother

so ive turned to you good people just for some pointers

angie

Merlot

Ladylove2uk, firstly huge hugs, I do hope the kind people in the know on this thread will help you, sorry I just don't know enough to help, but I wanted to post and let you know that your post has been acknowledged and you are not alone.

Merlot.x.

locutus2003

Just echoing Merlot really. So very sorry to read your awful story. Unfortunately I know nothing about this so cannot really advise - but have a big (((((hug))))) to be going along with in the meantime. I'm sure someone will have some more useful advice soon.

xxx

Triker

ladylove2uk wrote: »

i have been following this thread for a while now and posted my best wishes to mot and the twins and i still hope goes great for them but i now find myself in a simular postion and would like son help and advice ive posted it on this thread as i just dont know where else to post and to be honest my head at the min is not on this planet i will give you all a bit of background etc

my son was involved in a seriouse accident 20 years ago when he was 5 he was left phycically and mentley disabled so i looked after him did all his care needs etc and went for compensation as the person who knocked my son down had no licence or insurance

i spent 15 years fighting through the courts etc as well as looking after my disabled son plus his 5 brothers and sisters as well as coping with my own mobility problems anyway 5 years ago i won my sons comp case for him but put it all in the court of protection etc so nothing could be said that we had spent his money etc and i thought this was only right as my sons dad who was my husband and i had diveorced some years before

i now have a new partner who me and my children went to live with 7 years ago hes a wonderfull man i was getting physical abuse etc from my ex husband etc so my new fella moved us in to his home we spent 3 wonderfull years living in his home then was asked if we would usesome of my sons compensation to buy a house to fill disabled sons needs and make things easier for me to care for him and give us all a better life

now after 12 months of looking into this asking questions etc i was told dont worry etc your safe there wont be any probs etc so we thought well he is our son its not as though its a stranger or not even family

now due to my son having head injurys etc he has mood swings and in october he upped and went to stay at his sisters i had spent 9 hrs searching for my son before i new that my mother and farther come 20 miles had picked my son up etc the 5 days later i heard that he and his sister had been to so the reciver who i appointed to deal with sons money and they had been given money for a rented property plus money to buy furniture etc and had moved into a house within 5 days nobody had seen if the property was sutible for my son which in my opinion it isant theres too many dangers

anyway ive woke up this morning and recived a letter from his solicitor saying shes sending the valuers in and putting this house we live in on the market so me my partner and my 2 sons still at home have nowhere to go we wont even have furniture as when we moved we moved from a 3 bedroom house to a 5 bedroom they put all new furniture in etc as i see it it was bought with sons money so i think it will go to him im sorry if im rambling but i just dont know what to do were to turn i feel like i gave my life up to care for my son and now that ive helped get him to be able to live a little of a normal life im kicked in the face and i cant even discuss or tell me my new fella till tomoz as hes greiving today for his mother

so ive turned to you good people just for some pointers

angie

Hi there, my advice would be to see a specialist solicitor asap with all your previous documentation re the courts decisions and what you've spent and why.

I think it may also help if you have Dr's reports re his mood swings and head injuries because it may come down to the capacity of your son to make rational decisions re his own care and use of his money.

Surely if the court felt that your son would be capable of making rational decisions re the compensation then they would of awarded the money straight to him when he became 18 years or 21 years.

Just a thought anyway, good luck.

Triker

Also there is the point that you have been the main carer for your son for all this time thus sacrificing your career and all plans have been to accommodate his needs including where you lived.

Just something else to mention to your solicitor.