i have had the morning of my life ahhhhh

bunty109

Seeing as he reckons it isn't him, I'd tell him that you'll have to ask every other male who has been in the house if it is them: your dad, his dad, his mates etc. - just so you can be sure Sky aren't lying to you You could even say that perhaps it could be his brother "again" and say you are going to have to tackle him over the expense: it might make him think twice about doing it again even if he still won't admit it.

kylieM_2

Robpw2 - god i would never tell his mum, I have told my mum he doesn't know.

kittiej - if I kicked him in the boll**ks I would expect to be put on my a**e :rotfl:

floss2 - If he has bought them, prob quite a lot, I am praying he has just been given them.

bunty109 - honestly he would have no issue with making me look a plonker in front of sky.

I will tell you my new plan - the PC, sky and so on, are downstairs, so I am going to try and stay up until he goes to bed first

bunty109

Kylie, I'm sure he wouldn't worry about you looking stupid with Sky, but how would he feel if you asked people he knew if it was them watching the !!!!!!?

Personally, I would "ask" his family. Perhaps the embarrassment of his parents knowing might have more effect than you being upset!

grey_lady

Kylie get a grip, he's making a tit out of you.

puddles

The continued lying would mean the end of the relationship for me - a relationship without trust is not worth having.

As for the !!!!!! - maybe I'm old fashioned but I'd never dream of having !!!!!! in the house as I'd see that as very disrespectful to my wife. Then again I'm not one for !!!!!!, I'm lucky enough to have everything I need in my wife.

kylieM_2

wow, this is so split, some people saying "whats the problem with !!!!!!" and some saying "kick him out".

I am in a rut

My relationship isn't at all bad really, its just this one thing, which I put down to me not being able to 'get down to business' for the last couple of months. He prob feels quilty that he has done it, due to everything that has happenend.

puddles

The !!!!!! issue aside, as everyone is different and what's right for one person isn't for another but that's just personal preference.

What would concern me more is that rather than wanting to get through it together he's hiding things from you. You've been together for 4 years so I'd assume you are well beyond the stage of getting embarressed, maybe a big 'clear the air' chat would help you both to get through bad times together?

My wife and I had a few 'bedroom' problems a couple of years back and I sat her down and opened up in a way I never thought I would. It made so much difference to our relationship - her self-esteem rocketed, she became far more secure and things have never been better. We're expecting our first child in May so it must have worked out for the best

Lotus-eater

!!!!!! in usual amounts is not a problem, I use it, my wife knows, I have no reason to hide it from her.
But lying isn't good, if it were me I would make sure it was talked about and sorted out. Look I don't care if you use it a bit, but just get stuff off the web, its free fgs.

kylieM_2

first of all puddles congrats to you and your wife.

I said in an earlier post that I had a termination (even though I was on the pill) a couple of months ago due to depression and losing my job. Sorry I always feel I have to justify myself. anyway I have had after problems, which I feel has started this from him as he has quite a high sex drive.

I agree I don't think he is embarressed, I think he just doesn't want to upset me.

Definatly not my self-esteem lol I am quite vain

kylieM_2

LMAO :rotfl:

If only it were true