Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

Social worker is coming at 2.30 to talk and meet with me and the helper Social Worker D I have been calling her. SWD is coming at 2 till 4. But now that I am at home they are not sure what they can do to help!! They better not back off and leave me to do it all at the moment. I am just too stressed to deal with it. Things are still pretty sticky between us all. Its not a quick overnight fix coming home on the sick.
The girls are not suddenly becoming angels! mores the pity.,
I am going up to my room to continue with some ironing. Can do that infront of the tv.
Just wishing away the days waiting for the estate agents to let me know if we are allowed that house or not.
I hate ironing.
But its got to be done.
Trying to stay focused and upbeat. Getting nervouse about DS's meeting with the Youth Team today at 4pm. Got to go to get ready for that too.

shaz_mum_of__2

Mooloo forgive me for asking a personal question ....................Have you recieved any counselling to help you deal with these difficult times ,i can say hand on heart it worked for me ,i too was a put a brave face on it type and didn't realise how much i had bottled up until i went after a few weeks i felt like a weight had been lifted

Shaz

Savvy_sewing

On Friday when the "enough was enough" moment happened, I asked the doctor for some councilling. He said that he would refer me, but it will take time before someone contacts me.
Today the social workers wanted to know what I planned to do while I was home, and what they could do. I said that I want them to do all the same things that they were involved with in the first place. That all I will do is guide the girls and over see that they do what they are supposed to do. That I still want and need help. That I am ill and I cannot do it all. yes I have plans to move and I will hopefully then get some family support but at the moment nothing has changed except that I have hit the end of the road between trying to work and do all of this and not working.
Today I am very sore. I did some ironing, and a few bits of pottering, but nothing heavy as my arm/neck is really bad at the moment. My hip is not much better either. By the time I got back from the Refferal Team for DS, i was limping. Walking to and from the bus is only about 10 minutes each end, so I should not be struggling that distance. But I am today.
My sons meeting was about an hour or so. It went well I think. He will have to go to meetings about crime awareness, victim awareness and other things that hopefully will stear him away from the wrong route. It can be changed to another one in the new place if we do get to move.
Am not sure if no news is good news, as we have not heard anything back from the estate agents as yet. The waiting is quite tough. Not knowing if we are going to have to pack up and get out of here in a matter of days, or if we will have to find other ways and means to move.
The school in Towcester is going to have a meeting with us on Tuesday to see if there is any of the things that DS does that they do. Mean while I need to find out from the school, the exam board and all the different levels he is currently at.etc. We also have another meeting on Tuesday with a Social Worker for DS( Bit late me thinks!)
The biggest stress other then the not knowing, is trying to sort out twin2 with her money. Not 5 minutes ago, she admitted to hiding the loans from me. I have told her that I cannot help her, if she is lieing to me, or evasive etc.
I am not a miracle worker, money is going to be extremely tight, and I cannot bail her out financially at all.
The social workedr A said that the baby BBJ will still have to remain on the register becuase of twin2 rather than the original worries of the father. He has been behaving himself of late, except for the coming around here all the time, when he thinks that I am out.
The meeting is coming up on the 1st I think.
Got to go and check out the dinner I put in the oven, or we may be eating burnt sacrifices today.

Savvy_sewing

Well I am really tired and sore today. Not sure if the ironing over the last few days has done it, or the driving that I did on Sunday and Monday.What ever the reason I am too past it. Emotionally and physically I am exhausted.
Want to get motivated to some of the tasks that I will need ahead of me. Decluttering etc Looked at a declutter thread, but to be honest its not one that I will join, seem to talk more about what they have added then to what they were getting rid off. Its how to do it I need, and the motivation to do it. Well I have the motivation? should have. If I am going to have to move by the beginning of the month, certainly before my holiday on the 19th october then I am going to seriously have to get organised. So best I go and read that book that Hypno once suggested about finding the keys!!! mmmmm now where did I put it.????

shaz_mum_of__2

On one of the decluttering siyes i forget which one sorry it says if you bring something new into the house you should get rid of something old

Might be a good tactic for the girls and the DVD collection

Hope you feel less sore today ,i find driving the worse thing too that and reaching for something higher than my head

Shaz

Shaz

Eager_Elephant

Hi mooloo

I like the decluttering thread but of course now it is a new one - 18 mths on the actual doing it remedies are on the old thread.

Recently someone recommended this website

http://www.cindysporch.net/pages/yourhome.shtml

I have started reading it and I think it is brilliant.

Maybe this is something you could have a look at

EE

Savvy_sewing

Well its making me laugh if nothing else. I can relate to the "not me" references for a start.
Just trying to get enthusiastic about things and DS is running into problems at school so ihave got to go.

shaz_mum_of__2

Hope you are OK no posts for 2 days hope its because your busy organising the big move and not because of more problems

Shaz

Savvy_sewing

Hello, well life has not been a bed of roses. Problems and more problems. But I walked away from them on Saturday evening and went to stay with the BF, it was a lovely romantic evening, and a wonderful Sunday, until I had to come home just after 5pm.
Unfortunately in the 23 hours I was out, nothing was done. Except Eat. No washing up,no washing. No tidying. all the work that had been done over the previous few days was wasted.
We were still waiting to hear if we had the new place or not. The Estate agent was waiting to hear from our current landlord.
It was an aganising wait, and with BF not wanting to join in and be a part of it, I couldnt discuss it with him.
The twins let me down badly. They cannot do anything on thier own. Not even the carrot that they may get to move.
When I got home last night, I shouted at them, and then holed myself up in my bedroom with a cup of tea and itv. I switched off. I could not face the mess.
This morning after getting DS up, and sending him to school, I pottered and started to clean up, (twins had sort of washed up last night, after my anger!!), and tryied to get the girls organised for babies breakfasts. It still took twin 2 nearly an hour to get down stairs.!
Just before 9am I got the call I was waiting for. Dispite my landlord refusing to give a reference, the new landlord has agreed that we can have this house, and it will be ours by the weekend. We need to get the deposit sorted out, and he needs to draw up the agreement. But as its such short notice the house will not be Cleaned. (Well it was clean when we looked at it, and it was empty of occupants, so its only a bit of dust etc left from the builders, I can cope with that!!).
I was straight on to the phone to my BF, however not surprisingly he is upset that I have made this decision and has decided to take a back seat in the process of moving, and is not willing to help. He believes that I have enough help as it is.!! So he will take his time out now. (Really this is when I need him the most, to support and help me motivate through all the pain etc that I am currently going through!).
I have told my parents and the biggest of mooloo's after I had told him.
Now its all systems go. (Except its lunchtime now, and babies had to be put down to sleep.). I am supposed to be at physio in two hours, and I have a doctors appointment at 10 to 5.
This evening I am going to load up the babies toys, that are too old for them, and take them in the car with me to Towcester, leave them in Biggest of Mooloo's garage, as I am stopping at my parents tonight, with DS, and going to the school in the morning, to see if we can get him in.
I also took the bull by the horns and telephoned the childrens father, and told him that we are moving that way, and that DS will still need to do his work experience, and also could he discuss the possibility of DS doing an apprenticship at his place ASAP as we dont think he will get into school, to do all the things that he was doing here anyway. He said that he would have a word with his boss.
The school here said that if DS moves and cant get into school at Towcester then I can technically educate him at home. That then he can re do his GCSE's at college next year if he isnt doing the apprenticship.
Is there anything else that I can think of to do today.?
Will have to think about the telephone, broadband and the TV. So I may not be on line straight away.
phew think thats it at the moment???

Savvy_sewing

I have an appointment with the council here to finalise my benefits etc, on Friday lunchtime. I am waiting to hear from my neck physio, as my BF has not been able to do the necessary to help me. I cant manage withougt the continuation of the exercises and the hands on needed to keep my head moving and my arm free.
Just been on internet banking to check my accounts as I will be needing every penny and will need to know exactly where I am. No more allowing things to slide. The back up slush fund I managed to save all year, has now technically gone, as its on the deposit on the new house. Unfortuantely the way things have gone, I have to pay for the two properties for the month. Expensive and stretching me to the limits. But its got to be done.