Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

Hello, Saturday night the baby behaved for me, didnt wake up until 6.10 in the morning. I enjoyed looking after him, with Twin1. We worked together well, when we had had breakfast/babies too, we gave them a bath and then left at 10.30 to go to see biggest of Mooloos and her BF. It was a lovely day. Although we got caught up in road works, and then Silverstone traffic, so it was nearly 12 before we arrived. My parents came as well. So it was lovely to see them, they took photos of the babies etc. We had a sandwich and watched the Monza grandprix together (my dads passion), and then I managed to go for a walk to see my best friend, who I havent seen in about a year. She has moved back in with her mum. Her Dad is ill and needs a carer. My friend is retraining to be a nurse.
Walking past my old house etc was strange. Nothing much has changed in the 13 years since I lost that one.
We stayed and had dinner, with Biggest of Mooloos and her BF, he goes into hospital again tomorrow for major reconstruction to his shoulder as far as I can make out. He was covered in bruises and a few stitches here and there. I felt for him.
It was about 8 when we got back.
We didnt hear from twin2 until late, she didnt get back until way after 11 last night. I am not thrilled with her.
I missed seeing my BF dreadfully.
I am hoping that he is coming to see me today. I really want to talk to him. I hope that we can find a compromise.
Now I must have my dinner its getting late.

ps. BFs children are similar ages to mine, his youngest is only 3 months younger than my DS. His eldest is between the twins and biggest of Mooloos.

Savvy_sewing

Well its another morning, and another effort to move. Didnt use the teasmade today, made myself get up and down to the kitchen to make the first cup of the day. Washed up the dishes that were left from last night, as the girls cooked the dinner, thought I ought to wash up. Then I put my white wash on, as I want my dressinggown back tonight if possible.! Made lunches for DS and myself to save spending at lunchtime. (Also made sure he went off to school.)
Have made twin1 ssurface, and she is sorting out BGP at the moment, and I am going to go and wake twin2 before I leave. Thought if I stagger it, there would be less chaos in the kitchen.
Apparantly two different people involved with Social are coming to see the girls today. Social Worker C, and a new lady from Stonham support. Apparantly they do not normally support people living at home, but have been asked to intervene on this case as it is unusual.
I wonder what they will come up with.
Talked to BF last night, from the minute he arrived, I tried to tell him how I was feeling.
I didnt like some of the things that he had to say. But at least he was open and honest. Pity he was only here for 50minutes. (while boys at football)
Its also true I suppose that if I dont like being here at home how can he be comfortable?
I need to address that issue somehow.
Now though I am off to work. Even been thinking I ought to give tht up, for severeal reasons. Health, kids, and housework. Even the finances are not that brilliant at work. I think I am 15p in the £1 better off the council said.?
So thats £13.72 a month then or is my maths wrong?

Savvy_sewing

Well the day was a hectic and very busy day at work. I did ring home and ask the girls to hang out the washing, but alas when I got home absolutely nothing had been done. The sink was full of dishes, and the floor littered with rubbish.! apparantly the social people asked them lots of questions and they had to fill in forms. So nothing got done and the people where here for about 2 and a half hours???????
When I came home, feeling absolutely exhausted, I just about managed to get twin2 to wash up before she disappeared off to the hospital to visit a friend. I had a bath to ease the aches and pains. Thought long and hard about going to the BF but I didnt in the end. He said that I need to sort out the home first. So here I am.
After I had finished my bath I sorted out the dinner, and helped get the babies in the bath. Then twin1 finished off her baby and I took over my grandson. Then finished the dinner.
Twin 2 is still not back. (She has borrowed DS's bus pass to go to the hospital).
I am tired now. Had planned to do a few surveys etc, but each one I have tried I was not suitable for.
I am off to go and heat up a herb pad to put on my shoulders as I am in a lot of pain again.

Savvy_sewing

Been lurking on Hypno and a little of the £10 a day challenge.My life just keeps going around and around in circles.!
Daughters BF has had his operation today, and all I know is it went well. Thank god.
Unfortunately I have also had news from my estranged husband that his sister is not going to survive her brain tumor and is being sent home to finish her days tomorrow. Apparantly the tumor is too advanced and she is too ill to have Chemotherapy (is that how you spell it?).
Twin 2 is up at the hospital visiting one of her friend, who is in the similar situation as her, with the baby, just born yesterday. But the poor girl has nobody to help take her in, and has been told that the social are taking her to court to try to take her baby away from her.

My problems are insignificant in comparison. My heart is heavy today.

I cannot make up my mind what I can do, cant do, should do and shouldnt do. Except carry on living!!
Why is life so S**T.

webbie

Hi Mooloo

I have been away from your thread for a while and have often wondered how you are getting on - have found you again and caught up!

Please keep your chin up - you are a fantastic person and I think you are doing so well with everything. I am sending you ((((hugs))))) and will keep thinking of you.

Savvy_sewing

webbie wrote: »

Hi Mooloo

I have been away from your thread for a while and have often wondered how you are getting on - have found you again and caught up!

Please keep your chin up - you are a fantastic person and I think you are doing so well with everything. I am sending you ((((hugs))))) and will keep thinking of you.

Not sure I was that inspirational to follow really. Must confess that I dont really think that many follow this. Its more of a therapy for me. A way of me dealing with all the crap that life has thrown at me. But some days I realise that mine is not that hard when it comes down to other peoples.
I feel pretty humbled today. At least my girls are here with thier babies, even if they do drive me mad. They have thier babies with them. Twin2s friend may be about to loose the baby she just had yesterday. How crap is that.

Savvy_sewing

Twin 2 has come back home now. She is telling me about her friend. has been a very strange evening with such different items of news. I fear life is just not that fair for very many people. Night time for us here now twin2 is home.

MiniLaura

I found this link earlier and I know its related to scotland, just thought you might find it interesting

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/7617608.stm

Think Quarriers are scottish based, but wonder if theres similar studies in England that could help you with social services?

Might be more information on the website?

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo, I don't know if what is happening to Twin 2's friend will help them realise what could happen if you are unable to sort everything out for them.

But to try to be a little more encouraging, SS would not normally take the baby away permanently unless there were some serious concerns for baby's welfare, apart from the lack of accommodation.

If it is 'just' a lack of accommodation, then they might want to foster the baby until accommodation has been arranged. It is a myth that all you have to do to get a council flat is get pregnant: you often aren't offered anything until baby has been born! But then it's a vicious circle, baby can't go home with mum because there is no home to go to, and mum doesn't get a home until baby is ready to go home!

If baby is born early, or there has already been a concern registered as to whether mum will be able to care for baby, then council may well not have been able to offer anything.

It is a tragedy that mum's homelessness is often a key factor in babies needing to be taken into care ...

If there are concerns for baby's welfare, then hopefully mum will be offered a place in a mother and baby assessment unit.

But please mooloo, do not let this prey on your mind! I mention it in the hope that you can be more upbeat about it, rather than try to help! You have enough to do!

How's your son doing?

Savvy_sewing

MiniLauraRocks wrote: »

I found this link earlier and I know its related to scotland, just thought you might find it interesting

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/7617608.stm

Think Quarriers are scottish based, but wonder if theres similar studies in England that could help you with social services?

Might be more information on the website?

I read this link with interest. Infact I have emailed it to myself so I can print it later. (My printer has run out of ink at the moment!)
I am running later this morning as I am going to just take some nappies and sanitary things to Twin2's friend. Cant do a lot for her obviously and at the moment I dont actually know all of the facts.
As Savy Sue says it may bring a few things home to the twins, if they see that this girl is having all of these problems.
I dont have the funds or the space to help the girl much.
I believe that she has got accommodation near by. But I only know that she has had another child who is already in care. I didnt like to ask twin2 the whys and wearfores, also becuase as said, I have enough on my plate at the moment. But a few nappies will not kill me.
I will be a bit late going into work, but I have told them, and as I work through my lunch all the time, then they can let me get in a bit late!!.
Cant change the day to my day off as the shop is due a delivery today.
My day off is Thursday this week. So I have tomorrow to try and sort out the mess in my bedroom.
always seem to tackle the mess in the sittingroom and kitchen, and my room just sort of gets a bit of a shove under the bed and into the cupboard action.
Tomorrow its going to be a mission to sort it out, get rid of the old clothes etc. Lets face it, I work in a place I can donate it all too!!
Must go now, as I need to get dressed and go to Tesco before I go to the hospital.