Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

Hello, Thanks Savy Sue, I will have a look at pigsback again in a bit.
I went to stay with BF last night, and he cooked the tea while I had a soak in the bath, with a book. (forgot to take my tea up or I would have drunk that too!). I told him what I had done during the day, and cried all over again!. But then we watched some tv together and relaxed. Had a reasonably early night, and slept quite well for me. I was able to then get up in my own time, and then come back home to see the newest Social workers helper.
she sat with the twins (once I eventually got twin1 out of bed!)< and went through what they say they do, and what they need to do. She is trying to establish a routine for them that is a little bit more explicit, and time structured then the lady from yesterday. I left her too it and went to the doctors. See I was a good girl, and did as you all said, and booked an appointment with the emergency doctor at 8.30 this morning when they opened. So at 11.30 I saw a doctor I have never seen before, but she was nice, and sympathetic. She has said that I need to have the antidepressants but to start on a much lower dose. That I must try to do it at the weekend, and build it up every three days. The thing is I work at the weekend, but I will do my best to start it on Saturday night, when I know that I dont have the shop to run on Sunday. (Incase I am too relaxed!! ha).
I have just taken receipt of a tumble dryer that one of my volunteers has sold to me for £40. I am hoping that that will help with all this rain that we have been having. But I have said that it is for emergency when its raining and they cant get stuff dry, not an easy option to just bung it in the dryer.
(fear of electric prises rising even more).
In the post I have received a FINAL Demand from the council for £25.10 that I apparantly owe from leaving the flat in February. First I had heard of it. When I have tried to pay for it, they dont take Electron. So I cant pay it. I am angry that they took from 2nd March to now to tell me I owe money. They say they sent me a letter in June. But there is no record of it in my files, and I certainly dont remember receiving it. I had been told that I didnt owe anymore when I handed in the keys on the 3rd March??????
I could call them a few names, but I suppose it would not be polite of me.
The twins have of course said that they will do the things the lady said etc etc. But I dont see much action since she went.
I am exhausted, and so I am going to go and have a rest in my bedroom. See if I can get some sleep. I feel very zombie fied today. Sort of complacent kind of feeling, with really tired eyes, and some what droopy shouldered, if you get what I mean.
Anyway the main thing is that there has been activity from the social services, but whether it will continue or not I really do not know.?
When I have had my rest I hope I will feel well enough to do some paperwork, and some filing. Oh and lots of shredding!!!

SuziQ

Hi Mooloo,

I think what you are feeling is a wind down after a severe bout of adrenaline over many days.Your body is now going the oppoite way to recover-hence feeling very tired,droopy etc. You are doing the right thing to listen to your body and rest whilst feeling like this. The emergency GP seems caring,and the good thing is that the lower the dose of anti-depressents,the less chance of side-effects ie tiredness. If needs be the dose can be adjusted up bit by bit. Sounds a sensible Doc!

I really hope this new regime works for the twins,I supppose you can't expect miracles overnight so give them a chance but don't be a slave to them!

I really hope you can recharge your batteries over the next few days.

Savvy_sewing

Well I managed a short sleep until eventually the shouts and protests of BGP woke me up about 5.30.
Twin 1 AMAZINGLY has cooked a concoction for tea. It was a bit different, with mince, onion, potatoes, and sweetcorn, served with spaghetti, but it was edible and I didnt have to cook it.!!
Twin2 is trying to settle her baby after his bath. She had done most of the housework that was done this morning, but I am not sure much else got done this afternoon. As long as they played with the babies etc.
I am hoping, but not relying on the help of thesocial.
I also thing SuziQ might be right, that my droop etc is after the adreneline rush of yesterday. Although I am not sure I would have called it adreneline, more like I would have called it Emotional Crisis!!!
Unfortunately I only have this evening left to recover. Tomorrow I have to be back at work for the next 3 days before I get a day off. Assistant has a few holiday days, and then at the end of next week she is off on her summer holiday.
I do not start to take the new dose of medication until Saturday night. (just incase I am sonked again, although the emergency doctor doesnt think it will, she said start to take it at the weekend. (When most people are not working, so for me that is Saturday night.).

Savvy_sewing

Been looking at the pigsback info and taking notes. Think I need to really study all these things a bit harder.:rolleyes:
So much has been going on in the house, that making extra money has gone by the wayside. Infact money saving has been a bit off as I havent managed to get my shopping done on line, now i dont have the help of my funds in my mothers bank. (after the robbery Parrots decided that it was not safe for me to have the card, also Mum didnt like "lying" about the situation, to be able to get the card back.Of which of course I can understand). :eek:
I realise that my Bankrupcy was over 18 months ago, so I should have heard from the official reciever that I was passed the first hurdle, but I havent. So I am wondering if they too "lost" the change of address letters I sent in Feb/March when I moved.
Something else to add to the to do list for the following few days.
I have reserected my page a day diary, (not the one I ramble on, that will sell for major TV film rights!!! :rotfl: )and put an entry into Tuesdays page next week. I have decided I am still too emotional this week, and Monday is a bank holiday, so it will have to wait until Tuesday.
Stilll having trouble with my left arm. Think typing on the computer has not helped me. So I definitely know that a job in an office is not going to help me.
What next? Glass of wine? Maybe, but I dont want anyone to think that I will become an alcoholic if I drink a glass in the middle of the week! I had a small glass the night before last. ....Mnn maybe one would be ok. Not starting the medication until Saturday..
Where is the will power????Sorry its gone. Glass of wine coming up.:beer:
Sorry no wine glasses to show in the symbols.

Savvy_sewing

Been looking to see about Asda deliveries after someone said they take electron, but although my nearest store is within 4 miles away they do not deliver here. So thats another false start to get deliveries.
I am aware that my local tesco is only about a mile if that away but it is the steering of the trolley, the filling of the bags, the carrying into and out of the car, etc that my arm doesnt like, and that is why I used to like it being delivered. Perhaps a lobby to Tesco why dont they take electron on the internet delivery but they do in the shop???

Errata

Most supermarkets will find an assistant to get stuff off the shelf and put it in your trolley, push your trolley, do your packing, take it out to the car and put it in the boot for you, if you explain to them you can't pick, move, lift, carry any of your shopping. Cetainly Sainsbury's, Asda an Morrisons do so I doubt if Tesco will be any different. HTH

Keeping_Motivated

Hi Mooloo I hope you are enjoying your glass of wine by now.

Is there not another way to pay for your shopping so you don't lose you ability to have Tesco deliveries. How about one of your Twins opening an account but you using it and them not having access to it just so you can put shopping money in it and order your food? Could you give BF the cash and use his card details to pay for the shopping by ordering the shop while at his house?
I don't blame you not liking not having the ability to do this because of your shoulder and the amount of food per week you need given the amount of adults and babies in the house.

I hope you find a solution.

KM x

Savvy_sewing

I had a couple of glasses of wine, watched Taggart then went to bed early, at 10. Waking at 5.30!! But I stayed in bed until nearly 7am!! Wrote my diary and sort of milled around this morning. I did do some ironing, 10 items. Only because I needed a top to go with my skirt. Then I though as the iron was on I would do a little. I have even remembered to have some breakfast! Muesli for me.
I am just about to go out to work. Not looking forward to it, as after two days in assistants hands its going to need tidying up, re stocking and a lot of sorting. All physical stuff. This afternoon I dont have anyone on the till, so I will have to do the till myself as well.! Agh. Wish the adverts for volunteers would bring me foreward some lovely people to help in the shop!.
Re the shopping, I think that I will have a chat with BF about it tonight. We have never had joint finances even when I lived there. But this would be different.
Re people picking and packing, I suppose its because I dont look ill etc, I dont like asking when there are people out there with worse conditions then me. But I will see if I can be brave enough to ask.
I havent been to the shops properly in about a month! Its been all little bits here and there and I am not sure I have remembered to update my signature every time.!
The cupboards are full of odds and sodds but nothing much left of the fresh stuff. I intend to just get fruit and vegetables for tonights meal, in my lunch break. Then aim to visit a supermarket tomorrow after work, if I can muster up the energy. We need shampoo etc etc. And if I look a lot of things for the babies too!!

Surfbabe

ah my Mooloo the things for the babies aren;t your responsibility !

Hope you feel a bit better today and that the shop is not much work.

Savvy_sewing

Ah I know the things for the babies are not my responsibility, but if we are going to go to the supermarket it is cheaper, (I will charge them for what I get). I just dont want to run out of nappies or babymilk when I am out.

The shop was as predicted, in need of some TLC. I had rotated the blouses before the volunteers came, and done a few other things. It was a hectic morning trying to produce things for the ticketers to do, as all three sort tubs were completely empty. Nothing for them to tag. Yet all the bays of donations were solid!.
The steam rails were also full, so I had to steam, price, and fast track the blouses, skirts and trousers, oh and shoes, handbags ........it just went on and on. My prayers were answered, I had a new volunteer turn up to work on the shop floor, and one of the till workers who normally only comes in on a Monday came and did some work upstairs. In 4 years she had never been upstairs sorting or any other jobs. She loved it. Then I persuaded a lady who only does one hour a week, to stay for 3 hours, doing a bit of sorting, a bit of ticketing and even had a go on the till......
Gosh I wish I could have home so easily organised and sorted!!!
The landlord stopped me last night to tell me that the flat next door is coming up in a few weeks time. (the last lady obviously hasnt stayed long then?) and he wants to know if I want it for one of the twins....
It was an idea a while ago, but I need to talk to housing to see if we can get her benefits, without me loosing out on here, and also if the Social would support her in a flat. If she is next door, at least we would be able to seperate the twins, but be close enough to help her out, and get her sorted? But I am worried that if she has her own place will she just let it all go to pot? Dont want to fall out with the landlord.? Lots to think about today.
Another day without the assistant, but I have a good volunteer on the till all day so one less thing to do.
I am trying to be upbeat and positive. The twins are supposed to be having 2 hours worth of help with the routines today, from the helper Social organised. So perhaps I will get home from work to a reasonable home, instead of the picture worthy of Agies Cleaning programme.!!!
Time to get dressed.