Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

They are also lazy now. No sign of the hyperactivity they had as children. Then they were on ritilin to calm them!!!

Seaxwyn

Mooloo, I really think you should talk to the social services about options for the girls. It's clear to all of us who read your diary that you are wearing yourself out. You can't carry the whole burden of the girls and the babies for ever. And - importantly - they need to find out if they are capable of standing on their own two feet. I think the social services dept has been shocking leaving you to cope with it as you do - and they need to tell you what other options there are.

Savvy_sewing

I think that I am just too tired at the moment! I should have been able to cope. I did before. I just need to try and re evaluate things. Turn my mental attitude from the negative that its in at the moment. Perhaps I could ask for a home help? Wonder if they would help me there. What worries me, is that if they do leave home, will the babies be taken away from them? I worry that they will not cope, and that the babies will end up in foster care somewhere. I couldnt bare that.

Savvy_sewing

This coming week, we should be having a visit from the new social worker, and she is going to start to come twice a week. Perhaps that will help the girls focus better?
I think I need to decide what I can do at the moment to sort me out? I love my job, but it is hard work. I wonder if I am doing too much?Perhaps I need to step back a bit and look at what I am doing and whether I should have an easier job, or as my doctor said stop working. I wonder if it is time to give in to my neck/back spine problems and take live a bit easier. But that would mean living on an even lower income, and I am not sure I want to live on benefits.
If the girls do get rehomed at some stage soon, I will also have to move home as the benefits wont pay for such a big house for just me and my son? I am not sure i am well enough to move all over again. Not yet anyway.

Savvy_sewing

I am struggling with my arm/neck today, and I am wondering if I am going to be fit enough for work tomorrow? I wonder if I should be ringing my area manager and asking for a few days off to rest my arm? But I worry then that the shop will go down hill, as my assistant doesnt have any omph. I have about 8 or 9 days holiday still to use (as well as my holiday in October), I wonder if it would be a good idea to ask to use up a couple of those? I need to go back to the doctor about the anti-depressants too. ?

Savvy_sewing

To start with, Now I am going to see if I can find out what incapacity benefit is. So I think there is another forum on here I can study. I really am in two minds as to whether I just need a few days again, or whether it is time to hang up my coat!?

Keeping_Motivated

Could you compromise and work part time?

What about Carers Allowance for the twins could you enquire about that?

As for the girls could all their money be paid direct to you or they give it over to you and you literally allocate an amount per day than can have for them and keep the rest for board and babies essentials like milk and nappies?

Could you write to your local MP with regards to not getting any help? I know people write to their MP about Tax Credits and CSA etc and have been successful.

KM x

Savvy_Sue

Is it completely beyond a twin to put baby in buggy and walk down to nearest shop and buy more nappies / formula etc with their own money? Even on a Sunday shops are open!

DS3 has 'lost' his key, probably at his friend's house. I've told him I'll lend him the spare, but he's to pay to get a new one cut this week. He wants to know why he should do that, why he would WANT to do that, why we need a spare. We said, to teach him how to look after things and that losing them costs HIM money, that without a key (I'll have the spare back next weekend!) he won't be able to get in, and and we need a spare for next time!

Savvy_sewing

The twins have both run out of money this week! (again). I am struggling to try to get them to do a budget. They seem to withdraw everything the minute it hits the bank. I did used to get Twin2s money into my account, and then ration her, but without their permission to have the money paid to me there is nothing that I can do. I dont have power of attorney over thier money. Unfortunately. We seem to have slipped through the net on most things. The learning disabilites team said that they were unable to help the girls. (after one hour visit?).
I think I shall ask the leading Social Worker to show me what she has done, and where she is intending to go with this new helper.? I think I want a meeting with her, without the conference people and without the twins.
I shall contact her when she gets back off of her holiday.
Re writing to the MP, I suppose that I could, but I wouldnt know where to begin with a letter, and what to ask for.

Savvy_sewing

I am dreading what they will be up to when I go on holiday with BF and DS in October? 10 days on thier own..... God it just doesnt bare thinking about at the moment. ( I have told SS along time ago that I will be going.) Even before BBJ was born!
When I think about it, I had a vague impression that they were only expected to be with me for about 6 months, while they were assessed? Well its now 9 months for all of us together.