Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

CarolynH

A bit of 'losing it' from time to time can be helpful. It's done now, there's no changing it. You just have to move on, which is whys i suggested trying to work 'with' it rather than against it IYSWIM. Keep hanging on in there hun.

Savvy_sewing

I am trying to be motivated. I have managed to do 3 no sorry 4 loads of washing. DS's friend has been helpful and carried it out to the line for me to hang out. Its a dull overcast day, but as its not raining I have put it out.
the gas bill arrived yesterday, £105.61. and for the first time in many a year I have not worried about opening it, and I know that I have the money to pay it.!! I cant believe how much that has lifted my spirits.
I am slowly working my way through a few boxes,in the babies room, tobe,,, and hopefully there will be an end result.
I feel well enough to go back to work tomorrow. I still have a bad throat but its improving.
DS is fixing his bike outside..So he and his friend can go off and meet the girls... (gulp).
I am trying to get twin2 to move off of the sofa. So far she has managed a little move, and has put the baby into the highchair, and is giving him a bit of bread. While she makes some homemade chew bar, that they enjoyed me making a few weeks ago.
Can I get her to do much more today? Who knows. Its like trying to move an immovable object!!!

Js_Other_Half

Mooloo wrote: »

I am going to order the babies those walking chair thingys

Do you mean the walkers that the children sit in? If you do, then they're not recommended these days...sorry to interfere.:o


http://www.babycentre.co.uk/baby/safety/babywalkerexpert/

Savvy_Sue

Plus, for baby equipment, I'd be asking on Freecycle, or looking on Freecycle ...

Although what I came on to say was that I am a great believer in the occasional bout of 'controlled shouting'. Every now and again, when the boys were much younger, I would - like most mums - lose it, and start shouting. And every now and again, I would think "I could stop shouting now", but decide to carry on briefly, just to make sure they understood that I really wasn't having it. Whatever 'it' might have been.

Now, I say "when the boys were much younger", but actually it's not so long ago that I came in and found that the youngest had not done those things he ought to have done. And I let rip! Probably because he was expecting me to give him a lift before I'd had a chance to have a cup of tea, and it just wasn't fair! Anyway, this 'letting rip' was broadcast all over the house, even though it was clearly directed at DS3, and after a while DS1 came downstairs and said "Well hello to you too!" At which point we both giggled and I said hello to him.

So, it doesn't work if you shout all the time. And in your position I wouldn't want to wake the babies or upset them. But if that's the only way you can find of getting across to them that you're tired, you've had enough, and it's time for them to get off their posteriors and HELP, then don't feel bad about it.

We're just back from a couple of days away ourselves. All looks surprisingly ordered, at least no worse than when we went away. DS3 seems to have behaved, and was even doing Maths revision when we came in!

Savvy_sewing

Js_Other_Half wrote: »

Do you mean the walkers that the children sit in? If you do, then they're not recommended these days...sorry to interfere.:o


http://www.babycentre.co.uk/baby/safety/babywalkerexpert/

Hi, thanks for your observations.
I would like to say that it is a careless mother that is the danger really.
I would not have the children in a walker without supervision. and the room has nothing in it to burn, scald, or access to any poisons etc as in this article. The room that is for the babies will be baby safe. The babies will not be left on thier own. They will not be near a stair or anything else hazzardous.
But I can see the problem could occur. Nothing is 100% safe!.
I used the chairs with my 4 children and never had a single accident. But I will be dilligent.
Mothercare sell them and they have safety features. I will be careful I promise.

Savvy_sewing

Right, its Tuesday already!!
Nothing major has been achieved on the home front.:o Its good that Twin1 is back, although the mess is increasing by the minute. HOpefully tonight I will be able to get some of it started. I will of course leave instructions for the girls to do things while DS is at school and I am at work.
The social worker is coming here to see twin2 today. At 9.30, so I had hoped that the front room would have been done, I did the washing up etc, that didnt get finished last night. But as she was sitting on the Xbox a few minutes ago, I dispair. I have just said arent you going to do the front room at least?? She has (had) 2 hours then to get it done before the woman arrived. If she put her mind to it, she could do the whole house!!!. :rotfl: :rotfl:
Well I must get ready for work soon. I have got dressed, and written my hand journal, and I have been trying to sort out twin1's computer, but to no avail.
Today is a mile stone in my relationship with my BF, we have been seeing eachother for 4 years. So its a sort of Anniversary. So if your reading this, Happy Anniversary... Hopefully we will see each other tonight.
Twin2 has a job working for a certain Pizza company, starting today, so I am babysitting BBJ. (Got that a bit wrong, but it is her first evening at work, so I felt a little torn.) She is at least trying to do something about her situation. I just hope that she can keep it, and that we manage to get the baby into a better routine, so that its easier for me. Especially as normally by the time I got back in from work I am exhausted!!.
Yesterday I had to finish off a stock take, of the new goods we have. There is masses of Jewellry to sell. Wonder if I can get some of it promoted today? Apparantly HO think we should sell £115 worth of it a week.?? Erm??? Nope, not in my shop...
Twin2 is still in bed. (How she managed to get her and BBP in their I have no idea? its a tip!). Think I will wake her as I leave for work now.
Tomorrow is my day off. So I will crack the whip then. I will do it with them< and hope that it will be transformed. Perhaps some inspiration from the Flylady somewhere. (Do they still do that thread?)

Time to go to work. See you later.

Savvy_sewing

Wednesday evening already. Its been a heck of a start to the week.
My meeting with the social worker was annoying. It also took 1 and 1/2 hours, so I over stepped my lunch break. Which would not normally matter, but the powers that be sent me a Regional support worker, who was waiting at the door when I arrived in the morning. She stayed all day. so was well aware of my long lunch break, And the fact that when I got back I was so upset I had to have a cup of tea, and a sob or two before I got on with my work!!.
The Social worker complained about the mess in the front room and in the twins bedrooms. (Well I saw that one coming, I did try to get them to do that) but then she went on about the fathers access etc, anyway she said that she could not agree with me over the access of the father to the baby, and she said that twin2 had to take the baby to the family centre today, and leave the baby with the Dad. etc.
Well today, he was outside when Twin2 left for the family centre, and he persuaded her that he would take the baby up to the centre, and she could collect him later.!! He then took the baby off, and didnt turn up at the family centre, so the police had to be called.!! Here we go. I got home to her in tears. (I had taken DS to a hospital appointment), The father did bring the babyback after many a franctic phone call, but it set the day for a bad one, and the stress over it all sent the mum to bed.
We have been blitzing the frontroom/kitchen this afternoon. The girls have started on their rooms, but its going to be a long haul. I am not sure if I will manage to get it all done now, its baby time.
Perhaps we can do a bit more tomorrow.? Its nearly me time, as I need to charge my batteries for work tomorrow.
Oh yes, and we had a visit from the health visitor today, for twin1's baby. She said that the baby chairs are ok if used correctly. But I am looking at the space and I will decide if I will get them later. But I will get the floor mat when its back in stock.
Rent paid for another month. A few other bills to pay, but the funds are now in place. The difference having the funds under control is quite liberating!!

Tashja

Hi hun

What a nightmare day - surely SS can't agree to baby's dad being left with baby after the stunt he pulled today - that is shocking

My baby (8 months) has a baby walker - she can't get anywhere near the quoted speed on carpet I am always with her while she is in it - in fact all 3 have had walkers and (touch wood) we have had no accidents at all.

Hope you manage to get the tidying done.

((hugs))

T xx

Savvy_sewing

Hi Tashja, and everyone else,
Hopefully today will be a bit easier. I have spoken to the SS, and they have arranged a meeting for monday at 10am. They want the father, my daughter and possibly a representative for him and her,. But not to take the baby to the meeting.
Then they will discuss that he cannot do what he did etc, etc. They are going to chase up whether he went for his first meeting with the psyhcologist. (doubt I spelt that right?), and see what they have to say about it all.
I think I will order the baby chairs, I never had problems with my lot, and now they have speed limiters on them!!.
The front room/kitchen, the main room that the twins and DS use, is done. It was a pleasure to walk into it this morning!.
I have hung out 2 washing loads, twin2 carried it out to the line for me.
I have lowered the whirlygig line so I am doing it at about chest level, which is easier for my left arm.
There is another wash load on. I did manage to get DS to change the duvet covers in his room. (Why is that always a battle,?) but I couldnt move the babies cot to get into the airing cupboard, so he has ended up with Thomas the Tank Engine, and a cover covered in "cows, and cow print", childrens covers!!!! Ah well at least they are clean. He is 15!!!
There is a difference in twin1's room, but not a lot of difference in twin2's as yet.
I have asked for more to be done in their rooms today, but I have got to go to work this morning so I will have to just find time to ring them during the day, and prompt them.
I was going to test a sewing machine that came in at work last night, but I was just too tired. Will have to do that tonight, as there is a customer interested in buying it.
There was a lot of bric a brac trashed yesterday, as it was out on the shop for too long. As its selling price is below £5, we cant afford to forward it on to other shops.( the cost of the van drivers time to move things on, is not worth it). Thats really upsetting me. I wonder if there is a way we can sell it on a job lot to someone? Or some other way of getting money for it.
Luckily clothing is bought on, so are bags and shoes not fit for sale. Even the books are now bought by another company. So its just the Bric a brac that really needs sorting out.
I am determined that we are going to reduce the amount of stuff that we send currently to landfill. (My eco friendly plans).
Back to me, and mine.
Everyone is up and moving now. Its time for my shower and time to go to work after that. Fingers crossed that its going to be a better day.
Have a good one, everyone.

shellnkeeley

hiya have been reading your posts and think you are amazing for coping with everything you have, I was looking at your last post about things that you are unable to sell in the shop, don't know if it would even be possible but could you advertise things on free sites like gumtree or loot and people could come to the shop to pick the items up and the money goes in the till? that way there would be no confusion about money being owed to the shop etc. and it wouldn't cost anything for the advertising