Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

Thanks for that suggestion. I will ask the powers that be if it would be feasible.
Just been doing my Tesco Shopping, trying to keep within my grocery challenge is getting harder to do as the prices go up. Will have to spend a bit of time on the June Challenge and see if I can get some inspiration. Managed to get a £6 off code from this site though, so Yipee, better than free delivery.
So much has been going on, I havent really been on or even near the computer for days!!.
Now its so late, I will come back tomorrow perhaps, if I get the chance.

~Chameleon~

The bric-a-brac sounds the perfect thing for carbooters to buy/sell. I'm wondering whether you have a volunteer, or could possibly recruit one, that would set up stall at a carboot with all proceeds going directly back to the charity, expect perhaps the fees for the stall

Alternatively, do you have a local freecycle group? Many of these have a cafe group attached whereby you're allowed to sell items so there may be carbooters that would buy up a box of bric-a-brac items they could sell on.

Just a couple of ideas there and if I think of anything else I'll post back.

Also wanted to say what a great inspiration you are Mooloo :T :A I don't know how you cope as well as you do! I found your thread a few weeks ago and have been following it ever since

Savvy_sewing

Well today is my precious day off of work. I had been looking forward to a lovely lie in, but I had to get up at the same time, and be moving earlier(joints wise I mean), as I had to go to the school to see the year head. DS has been truant again yesterday afternoon. He did go in for an exam yesterday morning, then he went walk about after it!!
He can look me in the eye, and tell me that they are wrong, he was there etc. He is trying to make a fool out of me.!
When we sat in that Office the woman said that she was shocked that he would lie to his mum, (I had to choke back tears as he admitted to her he had lied to me!). I knew he was lying, but I just wanted him to admit it to me last night, when I asked him what was going on.
I am beginning to feel that the Yoyo feelings of depression are just never going to go away. Is it depression, or is it Desperation?????
Monday was the meeting with the Social over BBJ.that was also another unpleasant meeting. The father was banging on about Access Monday, Wednesday and Fridays. The social want Twin2 to go to Mother and Baby on the Tuesday.
Twin 2 had written notes in her book saying her feelings etc, and when she was asked this all, she clammed up, so I took the liberty of reading out some of the thoughts. Basically she doesnt want him to have access again until the phsyciatric results, and until he is definitely off of drugs, and done anger management for a while. The Father got angry and walked out. His representative followed him out. The Social said it would have to go to court if thats what Twin2 wants. So while father was out of room I suggested that she took BBJ to the Saturdads, on a Saturday morning, and tried leaving the baby with him UNDER SUPPERVISION, for those hours.
So when he returned to the room, I said, that I understand Twin2's decision, but that I also understand that the dad needs access. I said that it is too much for her to be expected to go to the family Centre for 4 hours a day, and that there is travelling time, and not much quality baby time in all that!. So my suggestion of the Saturday only meeting has been agreed. The social worker also brought up that the dad must leave us alone, and not text, phone or turn up outside here anymore. That he must respect the families privacy and Twin2/s right to some life etc.
So now we see if he does anything stupid this Saturday!!
Witht he help of the Solicitors, we have finally Won one of the cases against the council benefits charges for her time living with him, and that has been a big relief to me, however that only dealt with one months debts.(£1500 odd). There are still over £2,600 worth of debts through lack of housing benefit funding when she was made to move home to me, and leave her flat, while he stayed living there, and would not get out. (We had a hell of a time gettign him out of there, it was only when he was due to go into prison that we got the keys off of him. ). So the solicitor is now going to try to deal with that.
Offering some of her other creditors £1 a month, has brought forward mixed reactions. Some have said that they will not proceed others are going ahead. So its not all plain sailing or happy results.
I just received a whopping bill for my timeshare in Portugal, that I was not expecting. (Timeshare only thing I had left after loosing everything before/during and after the bankrupcy!). NOt so sure I will be able to keep it going. Doubt its worth much on the resale market, so I will have to do some study as to the reason why the prices have hiked so much. (Cost of Euros hasnt helped!!). On this occasion I wont write down the amounts, as my BF has a tendancy to read this, and he stipulated that he didnt want to know what it costs me. So I will keep the figure to myself. (He already must know that it is a scary amount as I had a deep intake of breathe when I opened the letter infront of him!).
Got to disappear for a bit, problems with movement in the other room!! Whats new??

Savvy_sewing

I was looking forward to taking the family out in the car to Millets Farm, a gardencentre, food pyo, and small farm animals. And farm shop. I had hoped that it would be a nice treat for everyone. But I have had another riot act read, as still nothing has been done, to hang out the washing, or do the washing up etc. When I speak to the twins it goes over their heads, until I shout!!. I am so fed up of the battle.
Maybe I am not doing so well as you think that I am!!.
Doesnt look like today is going to be a very good one unless I can find a way through all of this. Divine inspiration out there???

Js_Other_Half

Mooloo wrote: »

Divine inspiration out there???

Divide and conquer .

Give each person a task to do - with a time limit - either with a timer, or an alarm on their mobile?

good luck.

Savvy_Sue

And take those who have done what you asked, and leave behind those who haven't?

DS3 has suddenly realised, it seems, that if he wants a lift in the evening, he'd better do what I've asked before I get home!

Savvy_sewing

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

And take those who have done what you asked, and leave behind those who haven't?

DS3 has suddenly realised, it seems, that if he wants a lift in the evening, he'd better do what I've asked before I get home!

Thats what I did. I gave the ultimatum of you do this job, you do that, or we dont go.
Twin2 did what was asked, but twin 1 didnt. So I took out twin2 and BBJ, and left twin 1 and BGP, at home. She did ask if I would take the baby with me, but I said no, which was very hard. But the baby is only 9 months old, so she is not going to have suffered the consequences really. Just my own guilt. Of course it meant we only had the afternoon, and the clouds started, but at least the rain stayed off until the evening, and twin2 was quite happy. BBJ actually slept through most of it, but twin2 could see that it was a place that the babies will like in the future.
We had a little picnic on the grass there. It was relaxing, and nice to have a one to one with her.
I went to my DBF in the evening, and delegated the washing up, etc as usual.
I have just come home at 8.30 before leaving any minute for work, to find that nothing has been done. Everyone is still asleep, apart from DS, who I hope has gone to school. I will be telephoning them to check a little later on.
Thanks for the help. I will be dividing and delegating as suggested by "other half", and I will look into a few cookery timers. That seems a good Idea. I can set it for 30mins or something and then get them going.
Actually many years ago when the twins were little I used to set a timer to do the housework, etc. Made me do a bit of a flylady, before I started on the sewing machines for the day/night etc.
Got to go off to work. (Least when I delegate there it gets done!!).:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Have a good day everyone.

Seaxwyn

Hi Mooloo, I'm sorry to hear things are so tough and I think you are coping admirably, even if it doesn't always feel like it. Glad you had a nice outing with Twin2.

Savvy_sewing

Sometimes I just think things are sent to try me!!.
Yesterday I had a run in with one of my Volunteers who was a bit mouthy, and I was a bit short with her, so after I had appologies, (due to stresses of the day) I went to buy her some flowers to say sorry. While looking for the money in my purse, I managed to drop £15 and loose it in seconds. Two young girls stood beside me melted into the background very fast.!!.
The school rang about DS being behind, and I had already had a meeting the day before about his truanting, etc. I was not the happiest of bunnies!!.
The twins are a burden sometimes, but I have thought about the other options of having them rehoused, but not sure I could really go through with it. So I am hoping that I will regain my strength over the next few days, build back my resiliance and be the strong Mooloo again!!.

Savvy_sewing

Glass of wine time and a wind down I think. I have sorted out the main spends on the grocery challenge, need to iron out the nitty gritty bits and pieces before they take up the rest of my spending power. Loosing that £15 yesterday was annoying. I have spent a while searching for places for my daughter to live (the eldest is currently staying at my Mums but she has to be out of there by the end of July when they come home). The last place she was renting was sold over their heads. As she is sensible and doesnt have a baby like the twins , the council cannot help her. When is life ever fair? She needs a roof just the same as any one else does.
BBJ has gone to sleep for me quite easily, even though he was due a feed not long after he went down, but his mum will be home in about 30 minutes so she can take back over again.
Seems so strange being at home (think I said that earlier?).