Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Seaxwyn

I am not surprised you have snapped - you have had so much to test your patience.

Your son and your daughter's BF (or let's hope ex-BF) had it coming and let's hope that scumbag really is out of your life now.

I really feel for you, you are in an impossible situation, don't feel bad about losing your cool.

Savvy_sewing

Seaxwyn wrote: »

I am not surprised you have snapped - you have had so much to test your patience.

Your son and your daughter's BF (or let's hope ex-BF) had it coming and let's hope that scumbag really is out of your life now.

I really feel for you, you are in an impossible situation, don't feel bad about losing your cool.

That scumbag is sitting on the wall opposite our house, and isnt budging.:mad:
My son has managed to get a lift back home, and I just sent out £5 to the mum of his mate and asked her to keep it for the next time he doesnt have anymoney to get back.;)

I have given the lecture to the two left at home, about how and why mums in a stress and cant they see they are killing me, that its up to them to make things better. That I have strived all my life to give them things, and to make things better. I have told them that I could have walked but I didnt. That I havent turned my back on them despite a lot of misdemeanors on all of thems behalf over the years. But that at 46 I feel like a little old woman, and I feel that I have burned myself out trying.
Why do I always have to get to screaming pitch before they listen?

Now I am sitting here in tears trying to compose myself, and just feel so inadequate to have lost the plot. I know, I know, you will tell me otherwise. But there is no point, cos I am still going to be mad with myself for loosing it so spectacularly.!!!:o
I think I need yet another cup of tea, and maybe a hotbath to soothe all the different aches and pains away.
I was supposed to be surfing the net for a break away with BF for our "Anniversary", but I am not in the right mood much now.
K deep breath and a motivational talk needed. (too myself).

surely life could be a bit easier? well a tad?:eek:

Keeping_Motivated

Oh Mooloo that post choked me up abit. I know how you feel having lost it etc but I really do hope its done the trick for the kids to realise how far they are pushing you.

As for the w****r ex BF I hope he is gone now and if not or if he knocks again just phone the police then he realises you are not messing around and enough is enough.

I hope you are managing to unwind.

KM x

CarolynH

Well done Mooloo! You were overdue that. Hopefully they will listen.

Your kids are all adults (or DS is almost there) and should be able to act with a bit of courtesy and think about being considerate of others.

If I were you, I'd lay down the law while you're on a roll. You're fabulous loving mum, but you're not a slave/doormat and you can't be a team leader without a 'team'.

((((HUGS))))

Savvy_sewing

CarolynH wrote: »

Well done Mooloo! You were overdue that. Hopefully they will listen.

Your kids are all adults (or DS is almost there) and should be able to act with a bit of courtesy and think about being considerate of others.

If I were you, I'd lay down the law while you're on a roll. You're fabulous loving mum, but you're not a slave/doormat and you can't be a team leader without a 'team'.

((((HUGS))))

Unfortunately, I really don't feel as if its well done. I feel I let it all go, becuase I lost it.
My son and I did the recycling stuff together, and although it hurt my arm a bit more, it got done. I have tried to talk to him while we were doing it. I still dont think that they actually understand my condition, becuase I dont tend to give in to it, until I am at no 8/10 on the pain ricter scale.
At times like this I feel that I am on overload.
How come, I can manage to keep my resolve and "manage" at work, but when it comes to home its a major struggle and I feel completely swamped.
I wonder if I was at home more then would things be better, but I think I would be glued to the computer, and thats not helping my arm or neck. And I would be even more frustrated.! I dont think anything else would improve. Which is sad to say.
Tomorrow perhaps when I have slept on it, I will bounce back again. I dont feel strong though, and I need to feel strong to move forward.

I dont intend to let the ex-boyfriend of twin2 back in again. He has had more chances then anyone deserves. On that one I think I will stay resolved.:eek:

I dont think my rant will make any difference with my Son. It certainly doesnt seem to have worked with twin2. Twin1 is still away.
I miss the baby, but I dont miss the arguements between the twins.

I have been looking after BBJ while his mum went out with an old friend, for an hour or so. So it gave me a chance to switch off.

As you can tell I feel very negative tonight.!
I need a holiday.
DBF and I have been looking at long weekends away, and I think I really do need that.:T Even if we dont see eye to eye over the kids at times. :rolleyes:
To be honest I just crave a normal life. Where I can share my ups and downs with my man, not pour my heart out through my fingers flying over a keyboard, or writing in my diary. I just know that if I dont let it all out, I really will go doo laally tap!

something_girl

Have just started following your posts here, not entirely sure of your domestic set up, but you come across as a really well articulated, sensitive and caring person and for that, I send you a hug. Hang in there.

Savvy_sewing

Ah, the domestic set up.:eek:
I am a single mum of 4. Eldest lives with her fella in Towcester. I live here in Oxford. 2 years ago, I lost the pub that I was running up in Belper, Derbyshire, and I came down to Oxford to be with/near my BF.:D
Twin1 decided to stay in Belper, and twin2 and DS came with me to Oxford. Twin2 didnt like living at BF,s and moved out on boxing day.
DS and I, got a 2 bedroomed flat, about the time my bankruptcy went through. (a year ago this week).
Then twin1 announced that she was expecting a baby and wanted to come home. So we re arranged the flat, I moved into the sittingroom, and she had the bedroom.
We prepared for her baby.:cool:
Low and behold within a few weeks twin2 announced the same. She was living with herBF, but there was a lot of issues going on, he dabled in Drugs, didnt work, and there was never any money. There are issues with health, and the Social decided that it was not safe for her to live with the father. So Twin2 had her baby, and had to come home to me.:rolleyes2 That meant that there were both girls and both babies in the main bedroom, my son had his room, and I lived in the sittingroom. :eek: All through this time I had been working, and became ill, I have Spondylitis in my neck, which has affected my left arm, and I was then off sick from October(as baby1 was born), and all through until February. Social were supposed to help rehouse us, but they didnt. :mad: I found a local landlord that would accept housing benefit, and we moved into this house. So we all have a room of our own. And at the moment I have my own seperate sitting room, but I will eventually loose it to a bedroom for one of the babies as they get older.
I have struggled with benefits, and having the girls Disabilities reckonised, as all their records were still in Northampton medical records... That is still an on going matter. I am now back at work, full time, its been a gradual process. But really I had been advised by my doctor/neurologist, and Physio that I should give up working. But I am not used to not working and dont, want to rely on Benefits. (Yet). One day I may have to, but I hope that that will be a long way off.
So there you are, in a nutshell, the basis of why I am here, why I go a bit do lally every now and then and wish for a normal life.
all this has been on here somewhere, probably in bits and pieces, as I started writing on the Grocery Challenge, and then on Hypno's, and then I thought that I was probably hijacking Hypno's thread too often and started my own.

I realise my BF doesnt like it, but it helps me to sound off, looking on here helps me to realise that I am not the only one with problems, and the various challenges keep me going.:T I have been motivated for quite a long while by this site. I have managed to find a home for us, I have managed to get a second car when the first died. I have as you can see by my savings total, managed to find some savings to give us a disaster fund. For that I am proud.:beer:
I have kept the family going through it all. Mostly. But at times I do just want to give up. I wonder if I can stay strong, if its worth it all. If I should have said no to the twins. then I look at the babies and know that I would not have done it any other way.

angelfairy

Thank you for posting re 'domestic set up'.

I too am a late comer to your thread and hadn't worked my way through it all, so very much appreciative of the update.

Savvy_sewing

OH I wouldnt bother working your way through it all, it would take for ever, cos I off load a lot!!
Although I dont tend to be on here over the weekend, until maybe Sunday evening.
I try to escape to my BF's house so that I keep my sanity.!! Today we are going to the new Jamie Oliver restaurant, as DF's eldest son has landed a job there, and we are the Guineu Pigs for the service practice. But hey, its a meal out that I am not cooking. I dont feel 100%, had a bad throat on top of the normal aches and pains, but I am definitely going to go.!

Savvy_sewing

Dazi wrote: »

Hiya Mooloo
although I have not posted on your thread for ages, I do read it. I followed you over from the DFW board.

I know where you are coming from re the MSN, although I use it to keep up with family and friends when OH's daughter is here it drives me mad!!!!!

She used to have a pc in her room but its broken, i think it needs new fan but we don't have the money to get it fixed and we do have 2 laptops so it is NOT a need, just a want.

Therefore she uses her dads laptop when she is here at weekends and all you hear all weekend is doodledupdupdup when she gets a new message, during the week i turn the sound thingy off, but she turns it back on grrrrrrrrr.

She brings homework with her and I tell her if she turns MSN off she will get homework done quicker .....I then get the 'my stepmum is an alien' look and loads of attitude.

Glad to hear you are doing ok with your breadmaker, I love mine but not sure I love the hips it is giving me :rotfl:

You did well on your reduced meat from the co-op, all we seem to get in our reduced bit is a few very small lamb chops that still seem to expensive to me:eek:

How is the baby play area going?

Dazi xxxxxxx

Dazi, just a thought, my parents computer used to over heat, as it was in an area that was quite confined. My dads answer was to take the casing off at the back, and to put a normal household fan blowing on it, to keep the air around it circulating..... Wonder if that would help with your main computer problems.???

Still havent got the baby room done. DS is having a few friends over tonight, and they are stopping in there on the sofa bed, so perhaps I will then have the umph to finish it. I am aiming for Sunday afternoon to have a blitz. Now that payday has arrived I am going to order the babies those walking chair thingys and I say a lovely play mat with inflatables, it will set me back a bout £100 though!! So I have delayed until Payday. Must remember to do it through one of the cash back sites as well.
(Without MSE I would never have dared to use them!!).