Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

My optimism seems to have gone with the lengthening of the day,

Tashja

Oh Hun

Hope your day wasn't too bad.

Did you get hold of Social Worker over the other GP's ??? Pehaps if they realised what a pr!ck their son is they would lay off a little. Not good that a few hours isn't enough for them - if it was my grandson or son I would want to spend time with him even if it was for 15 mins

((hugs)) because you sound like you need them - nice to hear the shop done a few good days too - I don't think we have hit target for months !!!.

T xx

Savvy_sewing

Tashja wrote: »

Oh Hun

Hope your day wasn't too bad.

Did you get hold of Social Worker over the other GP's ??? Pehaps if they realised what a pr!ck their son is they would lay off a little. Not good that a few hours isn't enough for them - if it was my grandson or son I would want to spend time with him even if it was for 15 mins

((hugs)) because you sound like you need them - nice to hear the shop done a few good days too - I don't think we have hit target for months !!!.

T xx

Hi, I have better days. But sometimes I can cope, some I cant.
Today the social worker rang me back. She said we should not let the threat of solicitors worry us. But she flagged up about the mess. Now I have to confess thats what I bang on about all the time. But then I also have seen some of the homes near me, and over the years homes of mums I knew, and know that my home is not quite as bad as she is making out. I broke down in tears today at work, (thats where she phoned me back), I feel so guilty that I cannot keep the house, look after the girls, babies, and a lot of other home factors, as well as keep my job, my boyfriend and my life for me too.
Perhaps I want my cake and eat it. Perhaps i want simplicity. I dont know but it really upset me.
When I broke down, I asked what would happen to them if I said thats it, I cant do this anymore.... Panic set in with the social worker. Now of course its set in with me. she had said that twin2 and bbj would have to go into a mother and baby unit but there arent any. Now I am worried that she will use my moment of weakness and take them all away, whether they want to go or not?
Shop was a bit slower today, but I wasnt on the ball so much.
Had to leave early to go to Physio therapy.
the bus ride was a bit rough and that didnt help with my problems in my neck. By the time that I got home from work I was in agony.
My physio said that I cannot keep going much longer. (funding) but that if I can trust someone to learn the technic that she uses, which is simple, then she will teach them. So I hope that my BF will do it for me.

By the way what shop do you run? is it also a charity shop?

forgot I had signed up for quidco till I read something ont he grocery thread, and linked in. I have a massive £2.46 to my name. ? I tried linking to Mysupermarket, and then to tesco to do a basic tesco order, but not sure that any of it will give me any funds back, either via quidco, or points on mysupermarket. But i did get a £5 off of the delivery, via the Tesco voucher thread on here.
Now the whole reason i logged on, hours ago, was to see if Barclays was working yet!!!
Good night all, I better go.
Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day/
Assistant manager went home early yesterday, had the morning off, and only came in at lunchtime as she knew that I had the hospital. She didnt do that much work, but at least as a key holder I could go!!

lil_me

Mooloo, you shouldn't be expected to do absolutely everything, you're doing amazing just managing to cope with what you have without the hassle off the Social peeps. I am sure they do realise you are doing an amazing job and wouldn't take any of them away.

Keep smiling, it won't be long before those babies are cheeky teenagers, enjoy them x

Savvy_sewing

Well its nearly time to leave for work again. It seems to come around all too fast these days.!
I woke at the usual 6.15 but then I reset the alarm for 7.45 as I was so tired. (My early night was not as early as I had planned in the end).
So apart from washing up a few bits while I waited for the kettle to boil, I havent done anything productive.
Twin2 is just up, although I woke DS he reckons he is still not well. I must admit he is coughing a lot. He was sick in the night. (Was that something else or due to the coughing?.) Twin2 didnt go to work last night as she is not feeling well. Will she manage to work much longer?
Twin1's BGP is awake, but although I woke Mum she hasnt yet surfaced.
The guest that we had only stayed one night in the end. She went back home to get some of her stuff but her car broke down so she couldnt get back.

Savvy_sewing

ps. the thought of me still having to be the mainstay when those babies become cheeky teenagers is enough to send me to an early grave!!!!!
I hope that things would be easier by then. (Perhaps some nice Knight in shining armour will whisk the mums off and look after them for ever? No, oh bums!!!)

Seaxwyn

Hi Mooloo, nothing to say except I think you're fantastic.

As for the messy house - well I don't see why that's any of their business! So long as noone is in danger of getting lost in the mess. If a social worker came here I'd be on the blacklist right away as our home is always a state. But it makes me cross as the social worker is surely there to help you and reduce your stress, not increase it.

Savvy_sewing

Seaxwyn wrote: »

Hi Mooloo, nothing to say except I think you're fantastic.

As for the messy house - well I don't see why that's any of their business! So long as noone is in danger of getting lost in the mess. If a social worker came here I'd be on the blacklist right away as our home is always a state. But it makes me cross as the social worker is surely there to help you and reduce your stress, not increase it.

Hi Seaxwyn,
I have the day off today, I am off to Physio therapy for my hip this time!.
I agree my home is a bit messy, especially where the girls sit, but its not a complete disaster zone, and it does get cleaned regularly,(just not every day). Its just that the social worker probably lives in a palace with her lot.!
I find that unfortunately this particular social worker is not as nice as the first one. (Or the second one that came to do an assessment,). She is very hard nosed type of person. But then I suppose in a lot of cases she needs to be.
I have seem plenty homes that are worse than mine, Often in my life. When I lived on "single Mum Alley", in Towecster there were a lot of the childrens friends homes that were disgustingly un hygenic. Places that even my kids didnt want to go in. I helped a lot of those mums get routines, get help, and even cleaned for them myself when depression, and everything else would set in. Often Distressed to the eyeballs through debt. Living on the poverty line and giving up.
We may be messy, we may not have a brilliant income, but we have most of the luxuries in life around us, and the house has food at all times. The bathrooms are clean, etc. But thats the problem, once someone has put their nose in for something, they put it in for everything!!.
After Physio today, if I can move anything, I will try to reiterate the regime again, and stand over the girls and try again, to get them to put away thier mess. (I.e. DVD,s and CD's, clean washing, and a few dirty cups and plates).
Then we will once again be living in a show home!!!!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Now its time for me to rumage through the clean washing and find something to wear to go to physio. No gym clothes in my closet unfortunately.!

As you can tell, my mind is upbeat, but my body is not!!.
Onward and upward my mum would say, when I was feeling down. I think actually thats half of why I am down. My parents are so far away at the moment, and have been since April. They are not home until August. The odd text message is not quite the same as a chat on MSN!!.

Where was I, oh yes, Clothes. Catch you later.

Keeping_Motivated

Moolo I am still thinking you should be claiming DLA? I mean you can still work etc as it doesn't affect your dla but you can claim help for mobility and for helping with certain jobs in your home and with the probelms the twins have you should surely be able to claim for a cleaner as with your physical pain its a struggle for you to keep on top of things, work and be a carer for the twins. As I sais befor etry the disability board and apparently it is best to ask
the CAB to help you fill in the forms. If you were awarded something maybe you could pay for a cleaner to help you?

Take care
KM x

Savvy_sewing

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Moolo I am still thinking you should be claiming DLA? I mean you can still work etc as it doesn't affect your dla but you can claim help for mobility and for helping with certain jobs in your home and with the probelms the twins have you should surely be able to claim for a cleaner as with your physical pain its a struggle for you to keep on top of things, work and be a carer for the twins. As I sais befor etry the disability board and apparently it is best to ask
the CAB to help you fill in the forms. If you were awarded something maybe you could pay for a cleaner to help you?

Take care
KM x

Hi, thanks for your comments. I am not sure that I am "bad enough" to get DLA, at the moment, but maybe in the future I would be.
But its definitely worth having a look into though. The worst they can say to me is No.
I will just have to find the time to get to the CAB and hope that thier waiting list is not too long. When I wanted advice over my Bankrupcy the wait was 3 months, and of course that was too late for the help.!!
I am sorry if i come over as a bit synical, but I have been refused so much over the years I am weary of trying to do things at times.
I suppose if i was seen by the doctors etc on my bad days, then yes I would be elidgable for help.
I will continue to ask for help with the twins, and I wont give up on them. (At least at the moment I still believe that there is things that they can do for the girls that currently are not being done. ).
We have a old school friend of the girls staying with us at the moment. She has had to escape the clutches of an Albanian husband who would beat her up. So guess who they come running to. Me.
I had a reputation of helping battered wives when I was younger, and here I am again.
At least she is helping around the house, so I have an alie in the home at the moment. But it does mean that the Babyroom is going to be on the back boiler for a few more days.!! ( I have just heard that she has been offered a job with twin2 in the same Pizza parlour, so at least she hasnt sat on her laurels in getting work.)/ Just not sure what the landlord will say about her being here. (could she be a carer for the girls? Me?).
Tomorrow my eldest is coming over to visit, but I cant get the day off work. she is going to bring the youngest BBJ's highchair, and take DS to the dentist for me. I am hoping she will come into work and meet my colleuges, and see me of course!!.
Time for me to have a look at that other board that you mentioned and start to read a few things about what I may or may not be elidgable for.
:T