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Such a shame your friendship ended like this. Her loss not yours. Friends like that you don’t need.I get knocked down but I get up again (Chumbawamba, Tubthumping)3
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My DD who is a drama student writes and performs her own poetry on SM. She did one about a long good friendship ending (a case of breaking girl code with DDs first serious long term boyfriend). A couple of lines from it struck me as I read your latest post.
'How can the end be so different from the start'
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'We both know its gone too far to ever make amends. You chose what you chose in the end'
Your friend has chosen material possessions over your friendship. Thats on her and is no reflection on you.8 -
Her loss. Not yours. She is also a thief.I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
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Als others have said, her loss.But how can she deny that you have possessions in her attic? Especially after you have been so gracious in returning the gift she’d given you….2
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Delurking to say your ex friend clearly knows she is in the wrong as she brought a renta mate for back up.Be proud as that means folk know you are not one to be trifled with. And that she’s a coward.Wouldn’t it be good to be a fly on the wall the day she realises she gave up a friend for a possession. 🤦🏼♀️Lancashire
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Mortgage freedom January 2024 - paid off 7 years early by making overpayments where we could.6 -
Sorry to hear about the bitter ex-friend. You deserve better. Was there anything irreplaceable in her loft? Hope not x❤️Mum 2018
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Sorry about the ex-friend. That's awful about your possessions as well."Good financial planning is about not spending money on things that add no value to your life in order to have more money for the things that do". Eoin McGee2
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Thanks @Sun_Addict @SuzeQStan @beanielou @liselle she doesn't think there is anything in the loft. If I look and find things it will prove her wrong and embarrass her so she isn't letting that happen. It is upsetting that she refuses to let me look. However, it makes it easier in a way as I don't need to see her again. And it is just stuff. Stuff that I've lived happily without for a year. I'm letting her and the remaining stuff go
Thanks @Spendless for sharing those lines. Very apt
Thanks @jwil and @Skint_yet_Again there were things I wanted but nothing I can't live without
If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them
Emergency fund 350/1000
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If she was confident theres nothing of yours in the attic, she'd let you look just to prove you're wrong!3
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Yep! She wouldSpendless said:If she was confident theres nothing of yours in the attic, she'd let you look just to prove you're wrong!If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them
Emergency fund 350/1000
Buffer fund 100/100
Debt Free (again) 25/07/20253
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