Pregnant - what to do? Please help...

grahamliza4

cheltenhamgirl wrote: »

Was this aimed at me?

No - at speranza!

Sounds sickly and bizarre but milk and ginger biscuits are meant to help your sickness. AND if you're still throwing up I find that weetabix are the best thing to eat as they come up easily and don't stick in your throat!

speranza

grahamliza4 wrote: »

So you take everything I say as a personal insult - can I help it if you're a moron?

I have better things to do than report you for this direct personal attack on me, but I will however say that if you spend enough time on these forums to remember people and their posts then you are clearly a very lonely individual.

I have no wish to enter into a slanging match with you either, so please don't provoke me by writing some pathetic whiny post about how you disagree with me an just accept that our opinions differ and this is the way it is.

The only person attacking here is you. Calling me a moron, pathetic and whiny is an attack. I don't particularly *care* that you're attacking me, but you are.

And I had every right to be offended at the insinuation you made that I was a "baby-killer" simply because I am not anti-abortion. These were your words (in a private message). You stated that I was probably only pro-choice because I had killed my own baby (though as I said, I have never been pregnant). I don't forget that kind of thing and I can't imagine how anyone would.

People here ought to see how abusive and hateful you really are because you should not be giving advice to any woman regarding pregnancy.

cheltenhamgirl

speranza wrote: »

No, it was aimed at me. Sorry cheltanhamgirl.

That's ok...i just wanted to check - I'd tried to make my post as non whiny and as open to other peoples opinions as I could. Lets please try not to start this as an pro/anti abortion thread everyone - everyone has been so supportive, it would be a shame for it to all go !!!! up now!

nicola1982_2

cheltenhamgirl how does your OH feel about the pregnancy?

nicola1982_2

Oh and I had terrible sickness - losing over a stone in weight. I ate Weetoes, potato cakes and drank fizzy water. Whatever you do - ignore all the healthy eating propaganda in mother and baby mags when you have sickness - throwing up a mackeral salad because pregnancy and birth told you you need omega 3 is not a pretty experience.

bella4uk

I found myself in that awful situation after splitting with my ex leaving me a single parent with 4 kids and then foolishly getting pregnant to a brief relationship(if you can call it that).....
I got as far as the 1st hospital appointment and had a good talk with the nurse....but I couldn't do it, I was made to feel guilty that I couldn't do it(not by the staff, certain family members)...but after having 4 kids already and plus one miscarriage that devasted me,I couldn't disconnect from the fact that it was a life inside of me.
I'm certainally not against termination but I think in your case you will regret it and even planned pregnacies can throw up uncertainties, it's normal !!!
However I have never regretted my descision no matter how hard I've had to struggle and 9 months later I was a Proud mum to twins!!!!!!!!

grahamliza4

speranza wrote: »

The only person attacking here is you. Calling me a moron, pathetic and whiny is an attack. I don't particularly *care* that you're attacking me, but you are.

And I had every right to be offended at the insinuation you made that I was a "baby-killer" simply because I am not anti-abortion. These were your words (in a private message). You stated that I was probably only pro-choice because I had killed my own baby (though as I said, I have never been pregnant). I don't forget that kind of thing and I can't imagine how anyone would.

People here ought to see how abusive and hateful you really are because you should not be giving advice to any woman regarding pregnancy.

On the contrary - I have had two children so am therefore very knowledgeable in this area.
And I beleive you threw the first punch by calling me a troll.
Abortion is killing a baby - anyone who cannot see this for what it really is has been warped in some way.

Gale_10

I am anti-abortion, so my post is biased, I make no apologies for that.

Some people believe they will meet their offspring in heaven, I don't know if you are particularly religious or not, but if you did have to meet your baby at a later date, what would you say to explain your decision to terminate its life? Why not try and write him or her a letter, explaining why you had to do what you had to do?

Then imagine saying to your child, perhaps when he or she is older, why you decided not to terminate.

Imagine how you would feel about it, imagine how it would feel? Consider how you would feel at every celebration, every year at his or her birthday?

I know someone who was poor, had several children - five I think - and she went to the doctors and was going to have a hysterectomy. The surgeon opened her up - and found she was pregnant. Her surgeon had spoken to her on many occasions as she had had problems for ages, so he knew her quite well. He stopped the operation and sewed her up. When she came to, she said, why didn't you just terminate the baby? He said there are two sorts of women in the world, one sort are the sort that can have an abortion and live with it. He said, you however, MrsX, would regret that termination every day of your life, because you are the other sort.

Just make sure you know which sort of woman you are!

All the best,

Gale

abbecer

I think that no matter how long you have been in a relationship a baby is a huge commitment to each other and changes your relationship anyway. We had been together seven years when we planned our first baby and it was still a massive shock to the system. Things in your relationship will change with a baby regardless of how long you have been together. Some of the changes seem negative (lack of time for each other)but the positives far outweigh. You have such a bond for the little life you have created. It is the hardest job in the world been a mum but is far and away the most rewarding thing you will ever do.

My second son was unplanned and due to postnatal depression I really did not want him. I would say I hated every moment of him been inside me and my husband for refusing to let me go ahead with a termination. Not a day goes by now that I don't feel guilty for what I wanted to do. I am so grateful that my husband had a rational mind and knew that I would regret it for the rest of my life. If you look at my son on my avator you will see why I am so glad he is in my life.

Wishing you all the best whatever you decide.

Love and hugs

Rebecca x

JoJoB

I have many friends now who are late 30s, early 40s, who for various reasons did not have children when they had the chance and all are involved in a race against time to find a man and/or conceive. I have one friend who has always been adamant she and her OH don't want children ever and she is still of the same mind at 40 years old.

My opinion is that unless you are like her and know for certain you do not ever want children then lost opportunities may haunt you at some point in the future. At the same time you cannot make a decision based on what you may feel in the future so it is a difficult one! But equally, making a decision based on fear of how different life will be with the little one would be doing yourself and your relationship a disservice. Whenever you feel "ready" for a baby you still won't be properly ready, not really. It will always turn your life upside down, no matter how prepared you are financially or emotionally. you just have to think of everything being turned upside down as part of the adventure.

Don't be afraid to get on the rollercoaster, you'll love it.