Escape to the country & living off savings

Time2count

A few years back my friend lost his wife, 5 weeks from diagnosis to her passing. The speed with which life can change is heartbreaking. It will take you time to process this SYA, fortunately you have your family and friends to support you both during this time and after it.
I'm pleased he's been moved to a hospice and will hopefully now get a more peaceful time.
Also good you had the POA set up which I'm sure is proving useful to manage things on your dad's behalf.

All I can say is to spend all the time you can with him, he knows how much you love him and equally you know how much you are loved. You're sorting out cars and allotments etc but these things can wait. Have the time with your Dad while you can.
Please don't be offended by that last bit, I fully understand we are all different and need to cope in different ways, so if the practicalities help you don't force yourself to be different. Also I totally get that life needs to carry on and things need to be done.
Sorry not really able to articulate this very well. Do what works for you my dear, but try to have as much time with your Dad as you can and say anything you need him to hear (mine died suddenly and unexpectedly so I never had the chance).

Sending thoughts and love to you and your family ❤️ 

jwil

I hope DF gets the peace and care he needs in the hospice.  Thinking of you xx

KajiKita

Oh I’m so relieved that you’ve managed it get the transfer to the hospice. A far better place for him and that will help you. 

Glad the MOT is sorted. That’s one less thing to have to manage …

Sending huge and gentle love to all of you x

KK

Chrystal

Thinking of you all, and sending gentle (((hugs))) XX

Tresinia511

Sya, glad your dad is settled in the hospice and you can be together in a calmer place x

Skint_yet_Again

Thanks Time2count, jwil, KK, Chrystal and Tresinia ❤️

Time2count don’t worry I am not good with words but you articulate well and I understand what you’re saying. The wish to have the car mot’d and shed cleared comes from dad. It’s on his mind and so I will do anything for him. He was so relieved when I told him that the car passed its mot yesterday and is now parked on my drive. Just the shed to sort now. He was always such a practical man but loving with it. 

Payday today so I have transferred £833 for the month. 

I still need to activate the power of attorney debit card and do a bank transfer to my bank for the mot and service paid on my credit card. We are going to the hospice together again today to make sure dad is settled and then we might switch to one in the morning/ the other in the afternoon so we each get a little break to do normal stuff and rest. We have not been staying through the night yet but that may change soon. Time seems to be slipping away 💔

KajiKita

I had a feeling the MOT would be for your dad’s peace of mind. 

Hope your dad is comfortable today and you get some downtime. 

Sending hugs x

KK

SuzeQStan

You are a loving daughter Sya x the peace of
mind you are giving DF is priceless.  ♥️

savingwannabe

Skinty we have the same weather, thunder and lightning here. I am off to the Midlands to visit my parents tomorrow. I am sorry about the eyes that is a big error for them to make. I hope it is rectified v soon. I only have one niece- the other has been gallivanting round the world for the last two years and my parents and do miss them too. Stay strong lovely. I will try to catch up properly when i get back. It will be good to see all the new members as I am an antique lol. 

sheilavw

thinking of you sya at this difficult time x