Progress not Perfection

IzzyBee

I’ve said it before you need a medal as big as a frying pan I couldn’t do what you do I know MR SA. has had a life changing illness which is very sad no one deserves that but your life has changed completely as well and you have coped brilliant and are still doing you are amazing and you should tell yourself that every day 

enthusiasticsaver

Another cheerleader for you SA.  I think the way you have coped with the life change and constant demands from Mr SA is incredible.  I get though that you have little option other than to get on with it.  

Sun_Addict

Aw thank you all, I'm genuinely touched by all your kind messages 😊

He can be very challenging at times. In fact he's driving me nuts right now as he's said he'll make a start on painting my office tomorrow while I'm at work. Reminded him that all the woodwork will need wiping down first as it's dusty and you can't paint over dust. I don't know how he thought he could get down to the skirting boards as he can't get that low down. He said what am I supposed to do sit and watch TV all day. My response was well that's what you usually do. I wish he could help but he'll just make a mess and I certainly don't want him getting in the way when I'm painting in there as it's only a small room. He struggles with gripping things in his hands so you can imagine why I'm worried about him wielding a paintbrush or roller full of paint 😬There are some things I'd like him to help with but this isn't one of them.

Anyway...

Worked in the office until just after lunchtime then finished up at home. 

The rest of the BnQ order arrived this morning so everything is ready. I'm planning to wipe down and paint the woodwork on Saturday. Now I've got a deadline to get it finished by this has spurred me on. 

I've dropped off the first 4 items of the foodbank donations for my reverse advent challenge. There is a huge dumper cage at work like you see in the supermarkets and it's almost full already. 

Today's exercise has been walking to/from work, then Rick's advent challenge day 4 and Zumba. 

Money wise did my mid-week finance check a day late and cleared the cc balance. 

Not a NSD as I stopped off at Lid! on the way home. 

jwil

I just want to echo everyone else, you're amazing!

foxgloves

It's a shame Mr SA isn't attracted to the jobs you actually DO want him to do. I bet you've hidden that loft pole!

dawnybabes

Our loft is full of ‘useful crap’ that my DH stored up there, I’ve decided each time I go up I will bring 3 items down to dispose of ……

Sun_Addict

Morning all, happy Friday.

Working in the office today, glad to get away from Mr SA to be honest. 

He was really testing my patience last night. After arguing with him about painting, I felt so stressed I decided to do the Rick advent challenge then get in the bath with a glass of wine, candles and a Christmas magazine to unwind. Despite leaving him with ample beer to watch TV with I caught him sneaking an extra can when he thought I was out of the way. I took it off him and put it back in the box then took the box upstairs with him. Why he does this I don't know, I catch him doing it on a regular basis. I wouldn't mind but he didn't even finish the beer he was drinking and I put it back in the fridge this morning. Just another one of his 'naughty boy' things I guess. I really feel like he's wearing me down at the moment. I've told him he'll eventually wear me down so much I won't be able to look after him.

Anyway...

I'm finishing at 12 to meet friends for lunch so that will be nice. I haven't told Mr SA, there's no need for him to know, I won't be home any later.

I'm thinking about booking a day off work before I break up for Christmas just to come into town on my own and finish off any bits of Christmas shopping and generally just have a potter around by myself. I know it will be busy but if I go early I can be done by lunchtime. I thought I could go for a coffee, wander round then treat myself to lunch before going home. 

I'm really pleased with the Christmas tree from BnQ. To say it was only £20 it's really full. Mr SA found a tub for it so it's stuck in the soil as it's for the patio rather than indoors. I just need to put some lights on it. 

Today's exercise is walking to/from work and Rick's advent challenge day 5. 

Baileys_Babe

Yes, book the day off work and have a day in town to yourself.

If I was in your position I might consider going to work at the usual time and working for an hour or 2, so Mr SA is not suspicious and trying to muscle in to your town adventure or constantly pestering you on the phone or coming to meet you (check up on you).

Sun_Addict

Baileys_Babe said:

Yes, book the day off work and have a day in town to yourself.

If I was in your position I might consider going to work at the usual time and working for an hour or 2, so Mr SA is not suspicious and trying to muscle in to your town adventure or constantly pestering you on the phone or coming to meet you (check up on you).

I’m planning for it to be a day I usually work in the office and leave at the same time so he doesn’t twig. I can go for a coffee and wait for the shops to open. I’ll be back just after lunchtime and will say I’ve finished early. I don’t want to take my laptop with me so I couldn’t go into work first. 

Baileys_Babe

Sun_Addict said:

Baileys_Babe said:

Yes, book the day off work and have a day in town to yourself.

If I was in your position I might consider going to work at the usual time and working for an hour or 2, so Mr SA is not suspicious and trying to muscle in to your town adventure or constantly pestering you on the phone or coming to meet you (check up on you).

I’m planning for it to be a day I usually work in the office and leave at the same time so he doesn’t twig. I can go for a coffee and wait for the shops to open. I’ll be back just after lunchtime and will say I’ve finished early. I don’t want to take my laptop with me so I couldn’t go into work first. 

Good to hear you have a plan, going for a coffee is a much better choice than going to the office, what was I thinking 🤦