Progress not Perfection

ladyholly

Are you still in touch with the carers group? You really need some respite no matter what Mr SA wants. I think its time you looked after you .

Cherryfudge

Get yourself down to your GP or mental health nurse if the practice has one. It's something that needs attention and the fact you've mentioned increased concerns recently over how he presents (falls, sleepiness) shows you are always having to be vigilant, which in the longer term isn't sustainable without it affecting you.

Having to WFH to keep an eye on him is taking away the outlet that helped you keep going, so that needs to be mentioned too.

Your Christmas and holiday savings are doing nicely! I love that you start to save for Christmas 2024 before Christmas 2023!

Sunshine_girl2

I'm surprised you have gone on this long SA without feeling like you do now. I'm sure your employers have Employee Assistance package and that includes helping with mental health . Could be worth giving them a call , I needed them once and the help I got was invaluable to my situation. 

badmemory

Just wanted to thank you for letting us know about Zumba.  I was doing a crossword last night & would never have known the answer.  It was an alphabetical one so all answers in order A to Z.   When I got to Z all I could think of that fitted was rumba - then daylight dawned.

Makingabobor2

Do seek help for yourself SA. Looking after your mental health is so important. 

MatyMoo

I wonder if the falls assessment could be tied in to some respite care somehow?

I have no idea how you have coped for so long, however it does seem that Mr  Sa’s episodes are getting more frequent which has meant you working from home more often & for longer periods without getting out & interacting with other people. That too can bring you down. 

enthusiasticsaver

I am not surprised your MH is suffering SA. I think it is a wonder you generally sound so upbeat given all you have to cope with.  If you don't look after yourself you won't be able to look after Mr SA so if it is getting to the point you cannot leave him even for work maybe exploring some respite care would be a good idea. The carers support group also seems a good idea. 

Blackcats

You do such a lot to look after MrSA, work full time and run your household single-handedly.  It sounds like it's a good time to get some support for yourself.  You deserve a few hours to yourself when you are confident that MrSA is being looked after so that you can relax in whatever way you chose.  Another vote for you seeking support for yourself.

RelievedSheff

SA you look after yourself.

If you need some time off work to recollect have some. I'm sure your employers will understand.

Onebrokelady

I can only agree with everything everyone else has said SA you need to put yourself first for a change ❤️