Feels like im going under!

stymied

Please check in @NiteEyez1980 x

Flossymuldoo

Please let us know how you’re doing @NiteEyez1980

elsien

Only if he wants to. He has no obligations to anyone on here at all. We hope to be of help, but if NiteEyez feels it’s not going to be if benefit, his decision to make. 

EssexHebridean

elsien said:

Only if he wants to. He has no obligations to anyone on here at all. We hope to be of help, but if NiteEyez feels it’s not going to be if benefit, his decision to make. 

Perfectly put. That’s how the diaries work - you write, or you don’t write - but no guilt attached either way. 👍🏼

NiteEyez1980

Hi guys, 

Thank you for your support. 

Please do not worry, and I apologise for causing  concern  to those who've shown such care.. 

I am back home and what's more my wife and I have had some extremely frank and honest conversations. 

In short my wife has expressed some post serious miscarriage (nearly died) ptsd  from a couple of years ago and what's more has been honest on her feelings about where our life has been and is going.

Her friends took her away for a few days to in effect bring to her arte toon her behaviours, what she is about to lose, grossly unfair treatment of me and the overall direction of travel of her life. 

She has explicitly apologised wholeheartedly to me and in front of her family and friends. 

She has admitted alot of past issues which whilst openly admitted as no excuse for her behaviour have contributed. 

In  order to make every attempt to save the marriage I have accepted  this, under the proviso that any further unreasonable and vindictive behaviour will result in the end of the relationship and there will be no more shed episodes. 

I have spoken to my gp about all this, have counselling from work booked in  and also an electronic secure diary should it be needed 

I am hoping this is a genuine change, and I'm probbaly too forgiving in allowing this chance but despite all that has taken place, there does seem genuine remorse, acknowledgement, and guilt. 

Time will tell and I will keep you posted. 

Thank you for caring and apologies for worrying everyone. 

Sncjw

NiteEyez1980 said:

Hi guys, 

Thank you for your support. 

Please do not worry, and I apologise for causing  concern  to those who've shown such care.. 

I am back home and what's more my wife and I have had some extremely frank and honest conversations. 

In short my wife has expressed some post serious miscarriage (nearly died) ptsd  from a couple of years ago and what's more has been honest on her feelings about where our life has been and is going.

Her friends took her away for a few days to in effect bring to her arte toon her behaviours, what she is about to lose, grossly unfair treatment of me and the overall direction of travel of her life. 

She has explicitly apologised wholeheartedly to me and in front of her family and friends. 

She has admitted alot of past issues which whilst openly admitted as no excuse for her behaviour have contributed. 

In  order to make every attempt to save the marriage I have accepted  this, under the proviso that any further unreasonable and vindictive behaviour will result in the end of the relationship and there will be no more shed episodes. 

I have spoken to my gp about all this, have counselling from work booked in  and also an electronic secure diary should it be needed 

I am hoping this is a genuine change, and I'm probbaly too forgiving in allowing this chance but despite all that has taken place, there does seem genuine remorse, acknowledgement, and guilt. 

Time will tell and I will keep you posted. 

Thank you for caring and apologies for worrying everyone. 

I hope things change for the better for everyone. 

Did she talk about the money side of things as that is a big factor in all of this. Is she prepared to change her lifestyle so you all can have a better life in the future? 

ladyholly

I hope for all your sakes the changes are permanent. One thing stucl out is that friends have shown their support for you  by removing her from the situation and by the sound of it talking some sense to her.

Very pleased to that you have been to the GP and got counselling at work. I wish you all the best for the future and sincerely hope things get better for you and your wife. Has your wife sought help for issues?

Flossymuldoo

I am so glad you’ve posted. You’ve kept popping into my head and I was worried about you.

I hope things are on the up for you now!!

Singlespeeder

Great news NE! Hopefully the brinkmanship is over and you can both move forward without you being foisted into the flippin' shed ! Good to hear about the GP too.

MrsPorridge

Such good news and a step in the right direction.