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The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb.
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Right.
Things are actually going from bad to worse. It is almost funny, definitely farcical.
I got a message last night from !!!!!!. He misses me. In June I broke things off with him - we were meant to be friends but he kept in touch so sporadically that it was awful. I couldn't understand why and he seemed so dismissive. The occasional chat but then nothing for weeks. And something at the start of term, anyhow I deleted him completely from my phone (have done that about 3 times to be honest, April, May and then June!!) and you all know it has bloody killed me. Last night he explained that he had been seeing someone, it hadn't worked out. He felt awkward messaging me whilst that was going on ! OH REALLY. And he missed me, that he had been !!!!!! and he apologised but he hadn't known what to do (oh !!!!!!) that we had been really close and I didn't really understand but I think he was trying to give her and him a chance? Oh That's nice. !!!!!! WIT.
Any how I told him he had broken my heart and he had hurt me and used me and it was all a mess. That he was not the person I had believed him to be and that person I had trusted and cared for didn't actually exist.
I felt better for not letting him off the hook and being very straight with him. But awful for it all happening, I was quite ill afterwards, barely slept... . 3 years of friendship with him. So much hope and many plans with him. But instead as usual I am wrong about a man!
Any how all done now. I feel sort of free? Desperately upset. But it is a relief.
So since absolutely zero part of my life is going to plan right now I am going to throw myself into the house and work and look forward to next weekend with my friends.
And act as if everything is ok. Until it is. XX
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Maybe that is a good thing…now you know! He’s a bit of a player, keeping you on the hook while seeing someone else. He was all about his feelings and nothing about yours ☹️ But, your eyes have been opened now and that’s a good thing. Onwards and upwards…there is someone for everyone, the hard part is finding them (I know), but you most definitely deserve better!Not all who wander are lost - J.R.R.Tolkien
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I’m glad you feel free. I think it shows you’ve had your time to grieve abs said what you needed to say. Perhaps you feel like you’ve got closure for yourself.
I wish I could give you a hug Buffy. XSeptember 2017 Debt = £25330
Starting afresh.
You can do anything if you put your mind to it. x3 -
You deserve better than to be strung along. If you ever got together you could never trust him. Everyone deserves someone they can trust 😡😡😡January spends - £587.582
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WinterWarrior said:Maybe that is a good thing…now you know! He’s a bit of a player, keeping you on the hook while seeing someone else. He was all about his feelings and nothing about yours ☹️ But, your eyes have been opened now and that’s a good thing. Onwards and upwards…there is someone for everyone, the hard part is finding them (I know), but you most definitely deserve better!Nevertheless she persisted.3
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Willowtree222 said:I’m glad you feel free. I think it shows you’ve had your time to grieve abs said what you needed to say. Perhaps you feel like you’ve got closure for yourself.
I wish I could give you a hug Buffy. Xmilann said:You deserve better than to be strung along. If you ever got together you could never trust him. Everyone deserves someone they can trust 😡😡😡
I need to get on with something. Food I think. thank you all for listening to me. Sorry if I seem confused. I am a mess here now trying to keep it together in front of Mum. Haven't hoovered and the kitchen floor is filthy. Still feel rough.Nevertheless she persisted.3 -
You’re better off without him Buffster, you couldn’t carry on like that. Don’t write off meeting someone, you never know what (or who) is around the corner. Sending you a big hug 🤗I get knocked down but I get up again (Chumbawamba, Tubthumping)3
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Of course you are confused. Dealing with someone who keeps sending out mixed messages is confusing/upsetting & quite a few other **ings.
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Yes Bad memory, it really bloody is.
I made breakfast.
I feel a bit rubbish now. Also I have lost weight, I think because I have spent the week eating cereal at work for breakfast and lunch. It is so much easier than trying to eat anything for real. Tomorrow I have corned beef sandwich but I think I will do cereal on days that are stressful.
Also my BMI is 30.6 and my visceral fat is 12 which is getting closer to acceptable(was 14 at the state of the year) and I have 38 % fat from 40% at the start of the year. So that is all coming down too. I am still do 30 active minutes minimum daily.
List for the rest of the day.
1. Hoover wherever I can
2. Clean out the animals outside
3. take down extension
4. weed the area.
5. Clean inside animals
6. Move washing around.
7. Get petrol (hilarious round here!)
8. do some work.
9. Clean mess in the hall.
10.Put back shelf in car.
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Crikey. Why does life have to be so bloody awkward. Never as simple as you miss him and he misses you, is it?Let's hope that's him closure-d and space cleared for somebody better!RB xxDebt free May 2016... DFW#2 in progress
Campervan paid off summer '21... MFW progress tbc1
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