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  • beanielou said:
    Buffy, I don't know how you do it  xx
    Well I don't really. 
    My sister said something today that chilled me, that mum would be in a home if it wasn't for me. Part of me was glad of the acknowledgement of what I do but it scared the other part of me. The part of me that hoped she would get well and I would get some time and freedom back. I was quite chilled by it all (in the traditional sense of the word) 
    Nevertheless she persisted.
  • mothernerd
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    Hugs Buffy.
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  • Hugs, purrs and puppy cuddles from here Buffster. 

    However - can I politely disagree with your last sentence?  You put in so much effort already.  I think what is needed is for other people to acknowledge what you do and accept the changes that are needed for you to be able to relax. 
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  • Hugs from me too. Xx
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    Starting afresh.

    You can do anything if you put your mind to it. x
  • milann
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    It sounds a very stressful time atm Buffy. You really need to get some time for you. Would respite be an option for your mum…..she might not like the idea of it. But whilst she is having a ‘helpful’ phase….could you explain how tired and stressed you are and NEED a break to continue to care for her.  I’m not sure if you get any financial benefits to care for her….but if you do could you get a care overnight for her so you can stay over at a friends or a night away. I’m just throwing ideas into the pot which I’m sure you might have thought of…..but just in case you haven’t. 😉
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  • stymied
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    Don’t forget you have your animals. They are special and you love them. You also have training and experience. And you have good friends that you genuinely get along with and enjoy spending time with. Just trying to say please don’t feel like you’re starting from nothing / a wholly negative place x
  • badmemory
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    Does it help to know that one sister has acknowledged that without you Mum would be in a care home?  Hopefully as one has the other will also do.  Whilst they may never be much practical help it may be that they will be supportive in getting Mum to accept some professional (ie not YOU) help.  I do hope so.
  • Thanks XX 

    Today was a bad day. The transport didn't show for mum, the car is going cost 360 and work is a JOKE. 

    And don't mention petrol. Not a bloody word. 

    thank you so much for your support. I will write more when am less strung out. I have tea, I am day dreaming about rabbit housing. It calms me! 
    Nevertheless she persisted.
  • milann
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    Hope your rabbit housing dream becomes a reality 👍
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