Can my ex demand this?

AskAsk

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

no.  the wife doesn't work as she is at home looking after the children as they are young.  this is often the case when the children are young though.

in exchange, the wife doesn't get the husband's pension.  pension, especially final salary pensions, their current value will often be huge.

onwards&upwards

JamoLew said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

One of the many inequalities than men have to endure that feminists ignore sadly - but that's a whole different topic/thread

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

Maybe it will change when men start to step up more and do a more equal share of parenting?

Comms69

onwards&upwards said:

JamoLew said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

One of the many inequalities than men have to endure that feminists ignore sadly - but that's a whole different topic/thread

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

Maybe it will change when men start to step up more and do a more equal share of parenting?

And women do equal share of the income generation?....

onwards&upwards

Comms69 said:

onwards&upwards said:

JamoLew said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

One of the many inequalities than men have to endure that feminists ignore sadly - but that's a whole different topic/thread

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

Maybe it will change when men start to step up more and do a more equal share of parenting?

And women do equal share of the income generation?....

The two are inherently connected though, aren't they?  If men did a truly equal share of parenting, they might start to experience some of the same setbacks that working mothers do that help to limit their earning power.

thepurplepixie

When I got divorced my solicitor said he'd get me the house, 2 young children at the time.  I said no we'd split it.  He thought I was being a fool but I asked him if he thought I'd want my children spending weekends with their dad in some squalid bedsit, would I want them growing up thinking I had a nice house and he lived in some substandard place.  Their dad is dead now, we split the equity and both bought houses, I eventually remarried but he didn't.  When he died my kids inherited the house so I think it all worked out for the best.

Marvel1

comeandgo said:

When my husband and I were going through divorce there would be no way on earth I would leave the house with him in it.

But it was ok the other way way around?

Comms69

onwards&upwards said:

Comms69 said:

onwards&upwards said:

JamoLew said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

One of the many inequalities than men have to endure that feminists ignore sadly - but that's a whole different topic/thread

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

Maybe it will change when men start to step up more and do a more equal share of parenting?

And women do equal share of the income generation?....

The two are inherently connected though, aren't they?  If men did a truly equal share of parenting, they might start to experience some of the same setbacks that working mothers do that help to limit their earning power.

Such as? Just curious which setbacks we’re discussing so as not to jump to any conclusions 

onwards&upwards

Comms69 said:

onwards&upwards said:

Comms69 said:

onwards&upwards said:

JamoLew said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

One of the many inequalities than men have to endure that feminists ignore sadly - but that's a whole different topic/thread

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

Maybe it will change when men start to step up more and do a more equal share of parenting?

And women do equal share of the income generation?....

The two are inherently connected though, aren't they?  If men did a truly equal share of parenting, they might start to experience some of the same setbacks that working mothers do that help to limit their earning power.

Such as? Just curious which setbacks we’re discussing so as not to jump to any conclusions 

You know full well and you will not be drawing me into a pointless debate as I know you are fixed in your opinions of women.

onwards&upwards

Marvel1 said:

comeandgo said:

When my husband and I were going through divorce there would be no way on earth I would leave the house with him in it.

But it was ok the other way way around?

When they separate and one leaves, for one of them it is their home, for the other it is not anymore.  That should be respected.

Comms69

onwards&upwards said:

Comms69 said:

onwards&upwards said:

Comms69 said:

onwards&upwards said:

JamoLew said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

One of the many inequalities than men have to endure that feminists ignore sadly - but that's a whole different topic/thread

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

Even when both parents work?
Surely that's not fair in 2020

Maybe it will change when men start to step up more and do a more equal share of parenting?

And women do equal share of the income generation?....

The two are inherently connected though, aren't they?  If men did a truly equal share of parenting, they might start to experience some of the same setbacks that working mothers do that help to limit their earning power.

Such as? Just curious which setbacks we’re discussing so as not to jump to any conclusions 

You know full well and you will not be drawing me into a pointless debate as I know you are fixed in your opinions of women.

Well I don’t have a fixed opinion on women; just a fixed opinion on your world view- there’s a difference...