Can my ex demand this?

sammyjammy

He sounds dreadful so how do you even know the EA is actually an EA, stick by your guns and only allow access if you are present, does he still have a key?

Comms69

You cant stop him coming in, whether your there or not. But you arent obliged to leave on his say so

burlingtonfl6

It's his house!
He could move in if he wanted to

burlingtonfl6

sammyjammy said:

He sounds dreadful so how do you even know the EA is actually an EA, stick by your guns and only allow access if you are present, does he still have a key?

She can't stop him entering the house.

AskAsk

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Comms69

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

Asonedoorcloses

JamoLew said:

CNH1979 said:

Hi all,
New here, just wanted some advice about a dilemma I'm in. Basically my soon to be ex husband and I are separated and are going through court to sort our finances out. I currently live in the house with our 2 young children. We are required to get our house valued and I have had 4 estate agents over to give me estimates. My ex would like to get his own estate agent over to get it valued but he wants me out of the house when he arranges one. I rarely go out as my children are young and I have no transport, we live in a very rural area and there is nothing close by. Is he entitled to demand that leave in order for him to come and show an estate agent around? He has not been in the house for a year and to be honest I do not want him in here without me being present as I do not trust him not to snoop around my things.
Can anyone give me some advice as to where I stand on this please?
I do not want to appear awkward if this is brought up with the judge.
Both of our names are on the deeds and we both contribute to the mortgage.
Many thanks 

he "owns" half the house and has a legal right (unless otherwise stated) to enter and leave as he wishes
When he left - did he leave anything behind ?

No nothing of his is here at all

Asonedoorcloses

burlingtonfl6 said:

sammyjammy said:

He sounds dreadful so how do you even know the EA is actually an EA, stick by your guns and only allow access if you are present, does he still have a key?

She can't stop him entering the house.

No, I never have! He wont step inside when I'm here, he cant even look at me! I have never stopped him or said he cant come in, all I've ever said is I'm not going out!

Asonedoorcloses

burlingtonfl6 said:

It's his house!
He could move in if he wanted to

He wouldn't dare lol Can't bare to look at me let alone be in the same room. By the way I need to add that I did nothing wrong, I ended the relationship as he emotionally abused me for years and is a classic narcissist. So please dont all judge by the fact he cant stand the sight of me, its purely because I ended it and he hates that. 

RobM99

comeandgo said:

When my husband and I were going through divorce there would be no way on earth I would leave the house with him in it. I would be worried I'd never get back in, he could change the locks.   Ask your solicitor for his advice but a valuation can be done with you there.

Totally this. It's your home, your rules. If he doesn't like it, tough. Seems like he wants a valuation to suit his wants.