Can my ex demand this?

Asonedoorcloses

RobM99 said:

comeandgo said:

When my husband and I were going through divorce there would be no way on earth I would leave the house with him in it. I would be worried I'd never get back in, he could change the locks.   Ask your solicitor for his advice but a valuation can be done with you there.

Totally this. It's your home, your rules. If he doesn't like it, tough. Seems like he wants a valuation to suit his wants. 

I had said that it maybe his house too but its
my home. I got another text this morning asking me to let him know when myself and the children would go out for a couple of hours so that he could arrange for HIS estate agent to come over. He cares not one shred for us

Comms69

Surely at this point if you want a valuation just hire a surveyor. 

JamoLew

while you are still married - it could also be argued that he part-owns items in the house if they were bought with joint assets/income
Sometimes the path of least resistance is the easiest one - you want him out of your life - I get that, but while you are still married and the house is jointly owned, your options are limited

Asonedoorcloses

JamoLew said:

while you are still married - it could also be argued that he part-owns items in the house if they were bought with joint assets/income
Sometimes the path of least resistance is the easiest one - you want him out of your life - I get that, but while you are still married and the house is jointly owned, your options are limited

Very true. But as I said, I have a 7 and 3 year with no car (as he took that!) And we live in a rural area with nothing close by. I'm not sure where he expects us to go?! 

onwards&upwards

He’s still emotionally abusing you.  He’s making sure you have no choice but to keep thinking about and considering him.

AskAsk

Comms69 said:

Surely at this point if you want a valuation just hire a surveyor. 

if i were the court, i would only accept a surveyor's valuation and not an estate agent. 

OP - i would advise you get a surveyor to value the property as they will give you a more honest valuation than an estate agent.  estate agents will always overvalue a property, even when you tell them you want to sell the house quickly and want an honest, realistic price.

honest and realistic are words that do not exist in an estate agent's vocabulary unfortunately.

Asonedoorcloses

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

Surely at this point if you want a valuation just hire a surveyor. 

if i were the court, i would only accept a surveyor's valuation and not an estate agent. 

OP - i would advise you get a surveyor to value the property as they will give you a more honest valuation than an estate agent.  estate agents will always overvalue a property, even when you tell them you want to sell the house quickly and want an honest, realistic price.

honest and realistic are words that do not exist in an estate agent's vocabulary unfortunately.

Okay I look into that, thank you very much

AskAsk

Comms69 said:

AskAsk said:

you don't have to leave the house as it is your house and more than likely the court will award you the house anyway if you have young children.
he doesn't have to show the estate agent round as i think they are more than capable of finding their way around a house.  let's face it, your house is unlikely to be as big as buckingham palace where you need someone to escort you to the different wings!    
i think he worries you will point out all the negatives to the estate agent to devalue the property in your favour.  just say to him that he is welcome to come round if he wants and you can stay out of the estate agent's way when they are there.  it should take no more than 15 to 20 minutes for an estate agent to look round and put a value on the property.

Courts have generally switched to providing occupancy rights, rather than equity rights. (where assets are otherwise evenly split)

i have been told by people who have recently got divorced that the courts now look for a clean break as they don't like court orders that are timed.  people that we know who have got divorced recently have always had a clean break order and the wife with young children have kept the house.

AskAsk

CNH1979 said:

AskAsk said:

Comms69 said:

Surely at this point if you want a valuation just hire a surveyor. 

if i were the court, i would only accept a surveyor's valuation and not an estate agent. 

OP - i would advise you get a surveyor to value the property as they will give you a more honest valuation than an estate agent.  estate agents will always overvalue a property, even when you tell them you want to sell the house quickly and want an honest, realistic price.

honest and realistic are words that do not exist in an estate agent's vocabulary unfortunately.

Okay I look into that, thank you very much

we sold our house last year and we told the estate agent to value it at a realistic price to sell as the house was empty so we didn't want it sitting on the market for too long.

the lowest quote was 700k+.  the house only achieved 650k, so that is a pretty high over estimate.

Comms69

CNH1979 said:

JamoLew said:

while you are still married - it could also be argued that he part-owns items in the house if they were bought with joint assets/income
Sometimes the path of least resistance is the easiest one - you want him out of your life - I get that, but while you are still married and the house is jointly owned, your options are limited

Very true. But as I said, I have a 7 and 3 year with no car (as he took that!) And we live in a rural area with nothing close by. I'm not sure where he expects us to go?! 

Surely a 10 minute walk with the kids is possible? I cant imagine you keep the kids indoors for months at a time