Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my friend to pay for her boyfriend to come to my wedding in 2021?

SuperPikachu

annabethsar wrote: »

Also you all went completely off topic some of you...!

Happens every thread tbh.

silvercar

annabethsar wrote: »

I have just been reading the responses to my post and some of the ones I have gotten are brutal, also about my character and stuff... some of you can be nasty! Also you all went completely off topic some of you...! I only asked about a dilemma. I think I know what I'm doing now with the situation. So thank you for the helpful reviews I know what to do in regards my friend. Thanks Anna

So nice to see a genuine poster pop in to an MSE dilemma, usually people think they are made up.

People can be harsh, particularly when they assume they are responding to a fictitious problem and so don't think there is anyone to offend.

Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding!

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74jax wrote: »

Once you had recieved the invitation if you wanted you would ask to see the gift list. It would be unheard of to give the gift list with the invite (rightly so I think).

When we got married 7 years ago, when we were asked we just said we didn't have one. A few people pushed us so we just said donations to rnli and people were offended. Can't win :rotfl:

A good thing about the old manners was that if a guest was quite poor or struggling they could still give a nice gift without drawing attention to the fact. Asking for cash put those people in a difficult situation.

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silvercar wrote: »

So nice to see a genuine poster pop in to an MSE dilemma, usually people think they are made up.

People can be harsh, particularly when they assume they are responding to a fictitious problem and so don't think there is anyone to offend.

Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding!

This wasn’t an MSE ‘official’ moral dilemma, the OP posted it herself.

Pollycat

annabethsar wrote: »

I have just been reading the responses to my post and some of the ones I have gotten are brutal, also about my character and stuff... some of you can be nasty! Also you all went completely off topic some of you...! I only asked about a dilemma. I think I know what I'm doing now with the situation. So thank you for the helpful reviews I know what to do in regards my friend. Thanks Anna

Some posters have been supportive of you.
It would be nice to hear what you 'are doing now'.

silvercar wrote: »

So nice to see a genuine poster pop in to an MSE dilemma, usually people think they are made up.

People can be harsh, particularly when they assume they are responding to a fictitious problem and so don't think there is anyone to offend.

Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding!

As posted earlier, it clearly wasn't a 2 line MSE MMD. There was far too much information.

pickledonionspaceraider

I think it is really naff, when people ask if they can invite their own guests to a wedding, and expect it to be at your expense

This guy is a virtual stranger - do you really want your wedding day to include strangers, at your expense?

I would have said no extra, and left it at that