Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my friend to pay for her boyfriend to come to my wedding in 2021?

annabethsar

I'm on a tight budget I can't afford to pay for more than I'm budgeting for. I already pushed the wedding out a year so I could save :A

POPPYOSCAR

Whatever you decide to do you should respect her decision if it ends up that she decides not to go on her own or pay £55 for her partner to go.

I know someone who was put in this position and turned down the invite. The bride could not understand this and was very annoyed, unfairly IMO.

onwards&upwards

Yeah no, you don’t charge people to go to your wedding.

You either invite them or you don’t.

Your friend shouldn’t have asked, she should have just waited until the actual invites came out and then decided. I’m sure if they were still together in 18 months you’d probably invite him, right?

onwards&upwards

annabethsar wrote: »

I'm on a tight budget I can't afford to pay for more than I'm budgeting for. I already pushed the wedding out a year so I could save :A

So have a cheaper wedding, charging admission is not the answer! :rotfl:

Just for the record you also can’t make the bridesmaids pay for their dresses/shoes/hair etc or the best man/ushers for their suits and asking for cash instead of presents in the invites is seriously tacky. :cool:

Gavin83

onwards&upwards wrote: »

and asking for cash instead of presents in the invites is seriously tacky. :cool:

I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where they haven't asked for money.

onwards&upwards

Gavin83 wrote: »

I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where they haven't asked for money.

Get classier friends! :rotfl:

michelle09

silvercar wrote: »

I've never heard of asking people to pay to bring someone to a wedding.

I actually did this - two of my husband's friends turned up with uninvited partners. Was really unimpressed (who turns up uninvited?) but just directed them to the organiser and told them that they could pick up any additional costs if they wanted to stay.

POPPYOSCAR

This thread reminds me of just why I hate weddings so much.

warby68

I might be old fashioned or something but I wouldn't invite people without their partner even if I didn't know the partner. Almost everyone I can think of offhand wouldn't want to go to an event solo. There might be a case for a table of friends or colleagues if they all know each other and know they're a group.

If I couldn't afford it I'd change the style of the wedding.

Forcing people into uncomfortable situations to meet your tight wedding budget is not going to be easy.

As for charging, it seems tacky and opens a can of worms with other guests.Never heard of anyone paying for extra guests for anything.

I'd say save the date for now and you will see if you can accommodate a partner nearer the time and you understand if she would be uncomfortable if you can't and as a result decline.

Pollycat

onwards&upwards wrote: »

Get classier friends! :rotfl:

Or less graspy friends...:whistle: