Money Moral Dilemma: Should we pay our friends for hosting a party?

harz99

Eileenpamela wrote: »

If you are invited to a NYE party where the food and drink are being provided, maybe you should reconsider whether taking a £9 bottle of Prosecco is inadequate.

I agree it is rather awkward to ask for money after the event, but maybe they were upset at how little guests contributed. Maybe they should have asked their guests to “bring a plate of food” as a contribution to the evening,

But, £9 for two to go to a NYE party that includes food and drink, is “taking the biscuit”, in my opinion. Make a fuss about paying and I doubt you would be invited anywhere again.

Maybe they should have asked for the contribution to be given to charity.

Exactly my own thoughts, "we" implies at least 2 people! How long is one 9 quid bottle of Prosecco going to last 2 of you on NYE, should be a bottle each as a minimum. Reminds me of the parties we hosted in the 70s when people would bring a cheap Party Four can of Grotneys beer and expect to drink my decent quality beer, wine and spirits, and eat our food all night.

keithyno.1

Pay them, then ditch them. You can’t choose your family, but by god you can choose your friends. And who wants friends like that, who are so miserly, penny-pinching and downright cheeky? OK, if they’d asked for a contribution up front when they issued the invites, well that’s another matter, but to bill people retrospectively??!!! Disgusting behaviour, bordering on anti-social.

Your ‘hosting’ friends have made a complete embarrassment of themselves, and they’d get what they deserve if they’re completely shunned by everyone who attended the evening come next New Years Eve.

al223

£6 is cheap but they really should have asked for this before the party, if people hadn't already offered to bring things. The £100.00 mentioned from mumsnet depends what the party was like doesn't it, if it had outside catering, cocktails, entertainment etc, but it is still unreasonable to charge after the event, being billed that much I'd be checking they had insurance and whether it is legal for them to be putting on events and supplying drinks for money etc.

Pay up, assuming it's only £12 then next time you host them at your place for anything, bill them afterwards, make a profit.

JBR999

My wife thinks she would pay up as it is such a small amount, but says that the hosts would no longer be regarded as our friends.
I agree with her with the exception that I'd also ask for our bottle of plonk back! :rotfl:

NemysysX

If they are good friends then they shouldn't be asking for money. Good friends would host the evening without expecting financial reward.

As mentioned, it is such a small amount, as hosts, don’t embarrass yourself.

Mnd

We would pay up, but next time we would have other plans.

I would invite them to any party and would like to say " there is no charge for this do "

Every Christmas I do dinner for 2 of wife's sisters and their husband's, and 1 niece turns up for tea with her 2 children, appetites like horses! and wouldn't dream of charging anyone

Lumid

Strange selection of comments on the forum about the party contribution. Maybe guests don’t have much cash, or maybe hosts don’t. Either way it’s irrelevant. For a good long night out at friends we would take two bottles of wine and beer too, or flowers or chocs. And we would probably have asked if they wanted a food contribution as well, depending how well we knew the hosts. You’re getting not only food but a fun social evening that someone else has bothered to put on for you. And if you don’t drink all the alcohol yourselves, no matter, leave it with good grace as a thank you to the hosts. You can hardly get fish and chips for £6 a head, don’t embarrass the hosts by making a fuss about coughing up.

NemysysX

Lumid, exactly!

NemysysX

Money Saving Experts - Yes
Tight !!!!!! - no.

AngelF

:mad:
WHAT! 'Friends' bill you after an invitation? No way!