Money Moral Dilemma: Should we pay our friends for hosting a party?

primrose_penguin

They really should have said beforehand they were hosting a New Years Eve party and it would be £6 a head. However it must have cost them quite a bit to supply food and drink, you don't mention how many for, but I would gladly pay them for such a wonderful evening, where could you have gone for such a small amount on a New Years Eve. It is not worth losing a good friendship over, and some people find it difficult to talk about money, perhaps they overstretched themselves financially. Next time though if they host another party I would just ask 'do you want a contribution' to save any embarrassment.

onwards&upwards

The way to respond to this is exactly the same as if somebody farted or belched or did something else embarrassing in public. Just act as if it didn’t happen.

PasturesNew

For £6 I'd just pay it, it's a fair price.
For £20 I might pay it, but it'd be the last communication they ever had from me.

Pollycat

benedictadams wrote: »

if the post hadn't been directly above I would have quoted it

but thought as the two were following each other it would be obvious

and i'm sure I'm not the only one to see that figure and think what are you getting for that ridiculous amount,

I regret to say that it wasn't obvious.

The figure requested was £6.00 per head.
Not £100.00.
Maybe someone on Mumsnet could say what was included in that figure.
If anyone is interested.
Nobody else appears to be discussing the £100.00 per head.

gwapenut

Pollycat wrote: »

I regret to say that it wasn't obvious.

The figure requested was £6.00 per head.
Not £100.00.
Maybe someone on Mumsnet could say what was included in that figure.
If anyone is interested.
Nobody else appears to be discussing the £100.00 per head.

It was obvious to me what benedictadams meant and it seemed a natural follow-on comment, and in keeping with the original topic.

Middlestitch

Either pay with good grace or ignore the message. Sending them any of the daft messages suggested earlier in this thread is just that: daft.

Manlikedave19

This happened to me a few months back and has happened since... a few friends hosted firework night at their place, food, drinks etc and I was invited so I went. There was no mention ever of needing to contribute towards anything, so I went thinking nothing of it. These guys tend to go crazy and spend alot, their choice of course. I left the next day and was surprised to receive a text from one of the friends purely saying "nice to see you on the weekend, we spent £350 so if you can transfer £100 (£50 each) that'll be great" I was surprised to say the least!

I disputed it of course but ive known these guys many years and its easy to see how people can fall out and its definitely wrong when I was given no heads up, if id have known it was going to cost me £100 i wouldn't have gone!

They done a similar thing over xmas since then where they hosted xmas dinner and asked me for £50 as they went crazy and spent hundreds... the last argument was cleared up so I knew about this time but still, why is it costing me £50 everytime something happens now?!

silvasands

Gosh, if I`d had a , "wonderful time", I`d pay up straight away.It`s a small price to pay and wouldn`t want to mess up a friendship for that small a price. Maybe partygoers should have all offered to have made a voluntary contribution towards the food before they went ? It`s a big job getting everything ready..house/food and clearing up.

SuperPikachu

Pollycat wrote: »

I regret to say that it wasn't obvious.

The figure requested was £6.00 per head.
Not £100.00.
Maybe someone on Mumsnet could say what was included in that figure.
If anyone is interested.
Nobody else appears to be discussing the £100.00 per head.

Pollycat you sure do love a forum argument :P

I think it was also obvious what benedictadams meant!

silvasands

Ha..no guessing who you voted for in the election??