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Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism
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When I find a poster who is so hostile in all posts, it exercises my curiousity to find out what makes them tick ....so I check on previous posts. I found your posts, and found these posts which seem to have a parallel to Ss posts. As you say, this is a public foru, and posts are available for all and sundry to see. I just find it a shame that you cannot see how easily you could have been in the same position. You say, and I agree, that you do not feel you have to explain why - yet you expect Ss to do so.
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That is such a silly statement, how could I easily be in the same position? Do you mean position then or position now?
Why do you think that our posts are parallel?
I did not want to go into reasons why son has paid me back and why SS's son has not, nor would I ask her.
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I actually have not asked you anything or gone through your previous posts and for some reason you asked me about a post I made 8 years ago.
Negative and aggressive? Just because I question who is caring for her children when SS is sewing masks and scrubs all day. The children should be her priority not a set of scrubs or a mask.
I am sure I am not the only one who questions this and I don't think you have the answers as you are not SS.1 -
WabbitWabbit said:I actually have not asked you anything or gone through your previous posts and for some reason you asked me about a post I made 8 years ago.
Negative and aggressive? Just because I question who is caring for her children when SS is sewing masks and scrubs all day. The children should be her priority not a set of scrubs or a mask.
I am sure I am not the only one who questions this and I don't think you have the answers as you are not SS.
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So on an open forum you can't say anything if you disagree or have a negative view.? You can though be negative and snide towards anyone that questions SS. Why bring up a post from eight years ago and then expect me to explain why my son paid me back and SS's has not.
If you just want to chat with everybody agreeing why not have a blog, an open forum means others are allowed to express their views, negative or not.
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WabbitWabbit said:I actually have not asked you anything or gone through your previous posts and for some reason you asked me about a post I made 8 years ago.
Negative and aggressive? Just because I question who is caring for her children when SS is sewing masks and scrubs all day. The children should be her priority not a set of scrubs or a mask.
I am sure I am not the only one who questions this and I don't think you have the answers as you are not SS.
'I am sure I am not the only one who questions this and I don't think you have the answers as you are not SS'.
Not sure why anyone thinks they have the right to question this at all?? - other than the children's social worker or someone who has genuine safeguarding concerns ……..??
Mama read so much about the dangers of drinking alcohol and eating chocolate that she immediately gave up reading.6 -
WabbitWabbit said:So on an open forum you can't say anything if you disagree or have a negative view.? You can though be negative and snide towards anyone that questions SS. Why bring up a post from eight years ago and then expect me to explain why my son paid me back and SS's has not.
If you just want to chat with everybody agreeing why not have a blog, an open forum means others are allowed to express their views, negative or not.
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Gosh I have upset the apple cart some what.
as Gizmo said. The children are in school, and Nursery.
dgd is in and out of my cabin while I am working, and if the wifi worked out side she would probably have her laptop in at the big table. But I don't have enough data on my hotspot too be on line. But I have a Wifi extender on order now that I am earning again. That will help.
I am not going to defend DS. I have come to the end of my tether to be honest.
what ever I do or say he is not going to change the way he is. Unfortunately he doesn't seem to comprehend what is expected of him and no amount of trying is getting anywhere.
where does my money come from?
I am self employed. I run a business.
I also am lucky enough to get tax credits and child benefit.
so because last year my income dropped dramatically with all the family changes and I closed the shop, it has meant that I have used all the savings, and used my credit to juggle.
But I am earning again and I will submit my accounts and then HMRC will adjust my allowances accordingly.
I am entitled to spend my money how I like.
I pay my rent, my council tax, and all my bills. The children have all they want and need and the cupboards are usually pretty well stocked.
if I choose to buy a camper ready for the future, then I will. The brakes need bleeding and a pipe replacement which I will have done when I am ready. Meanwhile DS is sleeping out there to give me my front room back and to give him a room.
He does annoy me as much as ever. I wish I could tell him to go, it's on the tip of my tongue a lot. But then I stop myself as knowing that he is around is only just slightly better than wondering where he is and what he is upto and if he is in a gutter somewhere.
Next week the boys will be in Holiday Club 3 days, which I pay for. This allows them stability in their routines and gives me the time to keep on working.
I have worked all my life, ( except for about 4 years when I was seriously ill, and trying to sort out the twins and their babies. I worked on my health, and I adapted my life and built up my business from scratch. I try very hard to get the right work life balance. I study business courses and I try to support my family as best as I can.
I agree that sometimes I let off steam and moan about the family and how it gets me down. However I bounce back and try to be positive and keep trying to look for answers to support the family.
I find it near impossible to give up on people, especially family even though they all drive me nuts.Right let's hope that everyone is up to speed with things, that I am who I am and I will continue to work, I will always do what I think is best at any one time, and I will diversify and adapt and try. That is my nature.
Moving on the boys and I are going to have a lazy day.DGD has gone to see her Mum, and to stay with them for a week. The government has allowed children to move between two households and as after 3 months and non of us have been ill, or in contact ( knowingly) with anyone unwell, the risk assessment is that she can go.When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.13 -
Savvy, I'm sorry that you have felt driven to defend yourself here - again
It's not difficult!
'Wander' - to walk or move in a leisurely manner.
'Wonder' - to feel curious.6 -
hb2 said:Savvy, I'm sorry that you have felt driven to defend yourself here - again
unless they are walking in my. Shoes they are not really able to comprehend that some people's lives are complicated.
I just happen to be one of those whose life is not the norm.
When Dgs2 was sleeping I bagged up the masks, and messaged the lucky customers whose orders I could fill, and I am getting a satisfactory trickle of BACS or Paypal messages, and collections are being arranged for those not out for the post office.
I have caught up with all the washing.It's been a gentle day.When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.3
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