Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

onwards&upwards

Savvy_sewing said:

Have you all finished bashing me?

Have you always taken anything that isn't full on fawning over you as 'bashing'?  

None of us are perfect, but we should all be able to admit when we've got it wrong and graciously accept a bit of constructive criticism. 

Savvy_sewing

If you have followed me you would know my reactions most of the time.
 I don't expect people to "fawn" over me.

I have read, digested, and explained my reasoning why I acted. I have apologised as well. 

There is no need to keep repeating.
sometimes I feel more patience than other times to criticism, I am only human after all.
you can stop worrying, I will not ask anyone for help again.
 I will work on my scrubs and the essential work , and if people need their clothes repaired then I will still leave them for the appropriate time, continue sanitiser etc. I will not ask Biggest to help grade, sort the donations then. I will tell the coordinators that I can't make that deadline for scrubs. 

I get it. Ok.
 I am just not in the mood right now. 

onwards&upwards

My colleagues are dying from this, you can't guilt trip me. 

I'm glad to hear you will be following the lockdown rules from now on.   Maybe you should just focus on looking after your granddaughter and letting your arm heal. 

Savvy_sewing

onwards&upwards said:

My colleagues are dying from this, you can't guilt trip me. 

I'm glad to hear you will be following the lockdown rules from now on.   Maybe you should just focus on looking after your granddaughter and letting your arm heal. 

I have no intention of guilt tripping anyone.  It appears that it is you ( and a few others) who have managed to do exactly that to me. 
it is obvious that you and I see things differently.  I have been very careful.
We were doing what we could to answer a call out and use our skills.

Now I don't intend to keep going on about it.

pollyanna_26

I came on here last night after going awol for a few weeks while sewing scrubs etc. I was pretty shocked at the venom of some posts tbh so decided to sit on my hands and think things through before posting.

My son is a key worker Senior Train Driver. DD1 is working from home after pausing a phone conversation to order all store managers to close the North of England and Scottish shops as it became known that shops were beginning to close a few weeks ago. DD2 is a key worker Senior Safeguarding officer working from home but also doing some hours in the local Montessori nursery she did her nursery nurse training at 22 years ago and helping to care for both key workers children and te vulnerable ones needing the regular structure of nursery. Yongest has been under sheilding for quite some time after Superdoc phoned and upped self isolating to minimum 12 weeks possibly longer.

I have read Ss description of her day with Biggest and later her husband. I don't believe she was wrong as Biggest was a long way apart in the cabin and then her husband was alone in there. It's unlikely Biggest is working at the moment and her husband works abroad so without flights is literally grounded.

I think there is a bigger picture to look at in the pressent circumstances. My son in law an armed police officer with many years of service left the force a few years ago after being trapped in a loft with a man armed with a very large knife. Lack of back up due to cuts was the final straw and he suffered post traumatic stress for a number of years afterwards.

Anyone working in the NHS over the past decade or so willl be aware how funding cuts have affected the jewel in the crown. Most may recall the study by the World Health Organisation a few years ago to test whether the NHS could cope with a major emergency. That followed the growing problems with seasonal flu outbreaks, norovirus and various bugs leading to wards on lockdown and patients piled on trolleys, chairs and often sitting on the floor in corridors. Ambulances were stacked up outside waiting to hand over patients and get back to the next job. The verdict was the NHS was near breaking point and not prepared for a real emergency.

I find it pretty shocking that PPE and other vital equipment is being bought from far flung corners of the world . Probably a lot cheaper but much of it is still somewhere en route. For most of youngests 35 years we have spent a lot of time in hospitals etc and over the last 12 years or so I have noticed the changes. I've seen things held together with duct tape, Cubicles with bloodstains on the wall and curtains and a lack of basic hygiene.

When I was very small I was nursed in a real nightingale hospital. I remember being very scared away from home and visitng hours very limited then. However I never forgot the bright white walls, the light flooding through big windows and the fresh air when those windows were opened daily rain or shine, I had a little school friend whos big sister was a trained Nightingale nurse. Although we were in and out of each others houses I never saw her sisiter in her uniform. Her mum very proudly showed me a treasured photograph of her on the day she passed her training and got her uniform.

When my dad left the navy at the end of WW2 he retrained as a chef and worked in local hospitals cooking everything from scratch with fresh ingerdients , meals suited to patients dietary needs all cooked on site ,

I believe outsourcing meals, cleaning and other services to the lowest bidder has had a big impact and lowered standards. Min wage and ar times zero hours contracts hasn;t continued the loyalty and pride staff used to have.

I remember the first time I saw staff from our local hospital shopping in the neaby Tesco superstore in their uniform. I couldn't believe my eyes.

From the point of infection control hospitals shoud have in house laundries, catering and cleaning with the budget to do so.

As one who's been sewing scrubs. I would have not have been able to close my ears to those pleas from all staff to senior surgeons , Ss has been sewing all her life. I added to my teaching salary sometimes by sewing. Any seamstress  who doesn't proritise hygeine when working wouldn't last long.

I do believe that people need to weigh up the present situation and realise exactly where the blame lies. No one expected a pandemic but the NHS and all frontline services need the funding to do their job.

Now we're going to be without the EU we're pretty much on our own. Not what I wanted but everyone made their choice. Every time I stand in the pharmacy looking at the meds short or difficult to get i know licence holders and manufacturers are trying to up their prices and involved in arguments with the NHS,

Well I seem to have written a small book. Stay well eveyone.

BTW Before anyone mentions fawning, I have never fawned either here or in real life. I've followed Ss through the years. I have disagreed with her sometimes and said so. However I've never been nasty or rude as that isn't the sort of person I am.

Born in the North and raised in the North I'll speak my mind but kindly.

polly

Savvy_sewing

Monday has come around fast this week.
It has been 4 weeks since I broke my hand.  

Today only Dgs1 has school, so I will be concentrating on trying to stimulate the other two, and have another conversation with DGD when Dgs1 has his nap. 

We are getting some progress about what is going through her mind etc, and I am trying to find ways to uplift her.
 I didn't get much sewing done yesterday obviously, and probably won't be able to today. Today is more pottering around the house, and doing those jobs.
 
Time for tea, breakfast and getting the kids dressed.
Have a good day. 

thorsoak

pollyanna_26 said:

I came on here last night after going awol for a few weeks while sewing scrubs etc. I was pretty shocked at the venom of some posts tbh so decided to sit on my hands and think things through before posting.

My son is a key worker Senior Train Driver. DD1 is working from home after pausing a phone conversation to order all store managers to close the North of England and Scottish shops as it became known that shops were beginning to close a few weeks ago. DD2 is a key worker Senior Safeguarding officer working from home but also doing some hours in the local Montessori nursery she did her nursery nurse training at 22 years ago and helping to care for both key workers children and te vulnerable ones needing the regular structure of nursery. Yongest has been under sheilding for quite some time after Superdoc phoned and upped self isolating to minimum 12 weeks possibly longer.

I have read Ss description of her day with Biggest and later her husband. I don't believe she was wrong as Biggest was a long way apart in the cabin and then her husband was alone in there. It's unlikely Biggest is working at the moment and her husband works abroad so without flights is literally grounded.

I think there is a bigger picture to look at in the pressent circumstances. My son in law an armed police officer with many years of service left the force a few years ago after being trapped in a loft with a man armed with a very large knife. Lack of back up due to cuts was the final straw and he suffered post traumatic stress for a number of years afterwards.

Anyone working in the NHS over the past decade or so willl be aware how funding cuts have affected the jewel in the crown. Most may recall the study by the World Health Organisation a few years ago to test whether the NHS could cope with a major emergency. That followed the growing problems with seasonal flu outbreaks, norovirus and various bugs leading to wards on lockdown and patients piled on trolleys, chairs and often sitting on the floor in corridors. Ambulances were stacked up outside waiting to hand over patients and get back to the next job. The verdict was the NHS was near breaking point and not prepared for a real emergency.

I find it pretty shocking that PPE and other vital equipment is being bought from far flung corners of the world . Probably a lot cheaper but much of it is still somewhere en route. For most of youngests 35 years we have spent a lot of time in hospitals etc and over the last 12 years or so I have noticed the changes. I've seen things held together with duct tape, Cubicles with bloodstains on the wall and curtains and a lack of basic hygiene.

When I was very small I was nursed in a real nightingale hospital. I remember being very scared away from home and visitng hours very limited then. However I never forgot the bright white walls, the light flooding through big windows and the fresh air when those windows were opened daily rain or shine, I had a little school friend whos big sister was a trained Nightingale nurse. Although we were in and out of each others houses I never saw her sisiter in her uniform. Her mum very proudly showed me a treasured photograph of her on the day she passed her training and got her uniform.

When my dad left the navy at the end of WW2 he retrained as a chef and worked in local hospitals cooking everything from scratch with fresh ingerdients , meals suited to patients dietary needs all cooked on site ,

I believe outsourcing meals, cleaning and other services to the lowest bidder has had a big impact and lowered standards. Min wage and ar times zero hours contracts hasn;t continued the loyalty and pride staff used to have.

I remember the first time I saw staff from our local hospital shopping in the neaby Tesco superstore in their uniform. I couldn't believe my eyes.

From the point of infection control hospitals shoud have in house laundries, catering and cleaning with the budget to do so.

As one who's been sewing scrubs. I would have not have been able to close my ears to those pleas from all staff to senior surgeons , Ss has been sewing all her life. I added to my teaching salary sometimes by sewing. Any seamstress  who doesn't proritise hygeine when working wouldn't last long.

I do believe that people need to weigh up the present situation and realise exactly where the blame lies. No one expected a pandemic but the NHS and all frontline services need the funding to do their job.

Now we're going to be without the EU we're pretty much on our own. Not what I wanted but everyone made their choice. Every time I stand in the pharmacy looking at the meds short or difficult to get i know licence holders and manufacturers are trying to up their prices and involved in arguments with the NHS,

Well I seem to have written a small book. Stay well eveyone.

BTW Before anyone mentions fawning, I have never fawned either here or in real life. I've followed Ss through the years. I have disagreed with her sometimes and said so. However I've never been nasty or rude as that isn't the sort of person I am.

Born in the North and raised in the North I'll speak my mind but kindly.

polly

Well said Polly! x

LadyHarris

Polly Whilst i  agree with some things you have said your post does not detract from the fact the government guidelines that state if they don't live in your house they should not be visiting full stop .  It has also been suggested that 2 meters is not enough space to stop the virus spreading . Just also to put a balanced view out there many hospitals do have a laundry still and in London at present many of the large hotels are taking in the nurses uniform/scrubs to wash for them as well 

Savvy_sewing

No body has been in my home. 

The cabin is some 60ft from the house. 

Access is by a side gate. 

But I do understand the concerns. 

We are not all going around willy nilly. 

I have scuppered myself this morning as I have sliced the top of my finger on a tin can lid at the bottom of the washing up bowl! Looks like DS had soup yesterday evening. 

pollyanna_26

LadyHarris said:

Polly Whilst i  agree with some things you have said your post does not detract from the fact the government guidelines that state if they don't live in your house they should not be visiting full stop .  It has also been suggested that 2 meters is not enough space to stop the virus spreading . Just also to put a balanced view out there many hospitals do have a laundry still and in London at present many of the large hotels are taking in the nurses uniform/scrubs to wash for them as well 

Those government guidelines have had a subtle change over time. Currently they're shifting back and forth regarding advice for the over 70s. I'm sure there are hospitals with laundries but none for years in this area. I firmly believe that uniforms should be in work only. Wandering around shops in them does nothing for infection control for both patients and staff.

I'm more concerned at the moment at the very subtle push towards heading out of lockdown. It's not being said but buttons are being pushed and if enough people take the bait the blame can be put at their doors rather than the powers that be.I'm not a naive youngster. In my 71 yeaars I've lived through many different scenarios and can see behind the headlines.very clearly. The current focus is on the economic fallout and how to concentrate on sorting that asap. I'm happy to be proved wrong but social history tends to follow patterns and I've seen this scenario in difficult times in the past.

polly