Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

pollyanna_26

I'd forgotten about your penny challenge. It's amazing how it adds up. When the £2 coin was issued I became very obsessive about not spending them. After a couple of years I counted them and there was over £700 worth. I bought things needed for the house and that money went a long way. Mind you the woman in the banks face was a picture when I pulled out  numerous change bags each containing £20. The bloomin things weighed a ton.. Never managed that many again but it became such a habit it was worth doing. I'd probably have spent it on chocolate or something over those years.

I'm glad ds and dgd have pulled their weight today. Pleasant dreams .

pollyx

Savvy_sewing

onwards&upwards said:

Savvy_sewing said:

onwards&upwards said:

From gov.uk

• In general, you should not be visiting family members who do not live in your home.
• You should keep in touch with them using phone or video calls.
• Where your relatives are elderly or vulnerable, you may leave your home to help them, for example by dropping shopping or medication at their door. You can also help them to order online. If you are a regular, formal carer, you may continue to help them as you usually do if that care is essential for their normal daily living.

Most people are following this and it has helped the NHS and it’s staff not to be overwhelmed, although it’s still been really rough, I’m not going to lie.  If everybody had decided to make their own exceptions and their own rules it would not have worked.  We are all missing our loved ones and we would all love to see them, but we have to persevere, it won’t be forever. 

Reminding people of this is not vilifying, or treating them badly.  Of course the poster can work, but they shouldn’t be having family and friends round, that’s all there is to it.  Nobody else should either.  

So if Biggest's had been just an employee you would have not said anything.
 If her husband was a tradesman ditto!
Biggest has worked for me before she had her Baby, and is therefore returning to work. 

Her husband runs a business on the side repairing things. So I could easily argue that I had a tradesman in to put up the shelves etc so that the employee can work better, at the 20ft other end of the cabin. 

So to be honest, I will try not to be rude, but I am not going to bother replying to you anymore after this.
we were not a family having a jolly!

Now politely....

She's not an employee though...

Anyway, I'm just going to pop you on my ignore list, this whole thread is frustrating. 

I wish your granddaughter all the best, I really really hope that things work out well for her somehow. 

Actually she invoices me, so she's a subcontractor technically, although the scrubs work we were both doing as volunteers. The paid work she will have a percentage of. 

Just unsubscribe from the thread and then you won't have to be frustrated anymore. As the meerkat says
"simples"

Savvy_sewing

I apologise that I have come across as rather rude to some, I really have just lost my patience rather unusually for me.
 I cannot say it is because of isolation as I had been working from home for quite a long time.
 I think that dealing with all of the unusual issues of our life and family is frustrating me, along with the inability to tackle some of the things that I need to do and because of this or that ailment I am unable to.
My patience with DS and his inability to engage properly with any of us is waring out.
My frustration with the contrary Mary that DgD has become, and my lack of sleep because of Dgs2 are all taking their toll on me.
so I need to sort out my self. I cannot change them, so I need to change my attitude as I really don't like feeling like this.
 I feel like escaping into the cabin the minute I am up.
 I have to change that feeling. 

About the only thing DS didn't grump at me yesterday was when he said he was going to reapply for his Theory test next week when he gets paid.
 I think if the camper was Road worthy he would probably disappear! Part of me is wishing he would and part of me is trying to come to terms with the fact that I will have to revert to my plans for caring for the children on my own completely. Sometimes I think it would be easier as I would know exactly where I stand. 

Right moan time over. Apologies.
 Time for action!
after all, if I don't like my life I have to change it. 

Pondskater

Hi Ss, I have read your threads most days for several years now. You have the patience of a saint. No, I'm not saying your a saint, you are just human like the rest of us but your determination and grit to face and deal with everything that is thrown at you has amazed and shamed me....I could not have coped with the things that you have had to do. Like a lot of your followers I get frustrated with your two steps forward and one step back life but you always pick yourself up, dust yourself of and carry on. Be proud and carry on supporting that family of yours, they don't know how lucky they are. Stay safe.

hb2

Savvy, I don't think you have anything to apologise for on this thread! Asking questions, disagreeing with your actions is one thing but not when it crosses the line and starts putting the verbal boot in. In these difficult times, we should be especially kind to each other, not cast the first stone

tooldle

I think it is good to be having this discussion, as it does throw up where people have different interpretations of guidance. Here in Wales our law is a lot stricter than the English version. To give a couple of examples, we had a boiler service apt booked for what turned out to be the first week of lockdown. Having assumed the service would not go ahead, I was surprised to get a call on the day in question, setting out the conditions under which the service would take place. In our particular case the company was responding only to customers with older boilers, where the risk of potential harm is seen to be greater. All other service was considered to be 'non-essential' work and is on stop for the time being.

My workplace is closed and all of the staff are now working from home. Although the buildings are locked and the services are all off, there is a need for some visits to make checks, or obtain essential equipment. We have a permission system in place for this where cases are considered on a case by case basis. If the visit is deemed essential, permission is given in writing and a time slot is offered to attend. Staff are then met at the relevant door by a member of the security team who facilitates access and ensures the person leaves safely and securely. When travelling to the workplace we are advised to keep a copy of the permission on hand, as police are stopping vehicles and making checks. This might seem a little over zealous, but on reflection a lot of staff do live a reasonable distance away from the workplace, and commutes of 90 mins or longer are not uncommon. Better to have the evidence to hand, than to be complacent and risk a fine. 

Molly41

Savvy_sewing said:

Molly41 said:

I just have to say that I am absolutely disgusted at the way some posters have treated Moo.
I know her in real life and her cabin where she works is huge bigger than many offices and she can easily self isolate from another person. In all my dealings with Moo she has never compromised my personal safety and I am a vulnerable person and has followed all the rules stringently. She is using her skills to help scrubs for a local hospital  - desperately needed. Unbelievable how judgemental some people can be hang your heads in shame you sanctimonious so and so's.

Thanks Molly41,
Dont Fret, your. Dresses are ready by the way! I will parcel them up for you tomorrow. 

 

Thanks Moo just want people to note that I paid Moo contactlessly and my DH is collecting from doorstep as to follow guidelines x

Savvy_sewing

I have had to stop early today. I tripped over coming into the house at lunchtime and have jarred my hand, grazed my good hand, and bruised my knees!
My sewing machine I was using is needing some TLC I think and wasn't sewing very well, so I gave up and went for a hot bath and reach for the pain killers. Today is just not going to be as productive as I had wanted.
 I did enjoy the walk to school, and back, and I was going to order until I fell.
I gave DS and Dgd a list of requests to help me. No surprise that they have only done one job each (ish). 

Although dgd did get me a plaster and make me a cuppa when I fell.
 I have managed two small online sales of habadashery, and masks. Every little helps. At least the business account has just tipped back into the black. That will encourage me to keep trying tomorrow.
DS has started the dinner, that is one job he is now doing regularily since I hurt my hand. So I am stepping back and letting him. 

I have reverted to reading some business books instead now.

it sounds as if Wales is following the rules France have? My brother has to fill a form in and take it with him if he is going to the shop or to feed the horses.

tooldle

We definitely don't have forms for shopping etc, here in Wales. What we do have is a good number of cases where persons have been fined or in some cases prosecuted for breeching the law. 

KxMx

Home made face masks are definitely a hot must have item.

I bought one a few weeks ago and just got another two on Etsy.  Leopard print, snow leopard print and a blue peacocky pattern.
Why shouldn't I look stylish

In anticipation of two things, an easing of lockdown/ me getting out more and an official recommendation to wear them in certain situations.