Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

ivyleaf

Glad to hear you're feeling better, SS.  I feel as if I need to be wearing a badge when I have to go out, to tell people I've got hayfever. 

onwards&upwards

I just hope your son also doesn’t flout it.

pollyanna_26

ivyleaf said:

Glad to hear you're feeling better, SS.  I feel as if I need to be wearing a badge when I have to go out, to tell people I've got hayfever. 

Now isn't a good time for us hayfever sufferers ivyleaf. I seem to be constantly saying hayfever, I've had it since childhood. Maybe we should design a badge. i had to make one for dd when she started school with food intolerences, so much she couldn't eat. Other pupils used to try to swap thieir lunches for her homemade dairy, egg , citrus and so many other ingredients free lunch. People used to offer her chocolate etc when we were out shopping. I ended up with don't feed me severe food intolerences. I made her a sponge based birthday cake from a recipe from a mum with the same problem. Every child woofed it down and minus the icing etc dd would take a slice to school for an occasional  lunchbox treat and everyone would be trying to barter thier treats for her cake.

it was the best sponge cake recipe I ever used and was still baking it when the family were older. it went mssing eventually it was just a newspaper cutting. I tried many times to recreate it as I knew the ingredients but it was never the same.

Hope all well here. You're a bit quiet beanie so hope you're ok

pollyx

Savvy_sewing

I am fine.
 I think I was just pretty run down but already my cough is gone. I have had a nap in the afternoon when DS has supervised tech time with the kids.
 I am looking forward to the sunshine, as we will be out in the garden as much as possible while we can. 

My cress seeds are now visible so we will be engaging in the garden there as well as playing football and trampoline.

 I have three zips to do, but awaiting their delivery out of the several hundred zips I have I don't have the ones I need.
 I have been approached to help make bags etc
but I am rather busy with the family at the moment. 

hb2

I'm glad you are feeling better S_s.

pollyanna_26

Savvy_sewing said:

I am fine.
 I think I was just pretty run down but already my cough is gone. I have had a nap in the afternoon when DS has supervised tech time with the kids.
 I am looking forward to the sunshine, as we will be out in the garden as much as possible while we can. 

My cress seeds are now visible so we will be engaging in the garden there as well as playing football and trampoline.

 I have three zips to do, but awaiting their delivery out of the several hundred zips I have I don't have the ones I need.
 I have been approached to help make bags etc
but I am rather busy with the family at the moment. 

After the flu etc and busy and challenging times it's no surprise you were feeling run down. Although you are having to care even more for the dgc there are no school runs or fuel costs so a bit of a positive there. I'm finding without all the never ending appts it's only now I can see dd and I were pretty much running on empty and constantly pushing our limits.

Of course no one wanted the present situation but for us it has the benefit of slowing things down and being grateful for the simple things in life. We think of all those on the front line whatever they're doing and feel blessed there are so many good people.

I hope each day you will be regaining your health and the sun will keep shining. It's a chance to continue to establish routine and strengthen boundaries while out in the garden etc.

Only hazy sun here today but tomorrow is expected to be a very warm sunny day. Dd has a long way to go until her minimum 12 weeks shielding is over and no idea if that will have to be extended or not . She's coping better than I thought and determined to be positive. It's very strange not to have seen her for weeks but I am winding down a bit and knitting and sorting the garden and as beanie would say we're plodding on.

I read Elaines bog post from !st April " Living a Little Life for a while will be OK!" and I think she's sums things up well. We have to use common sense and think of everyone and there are still lots of little everyday joys for those not badly affected while thinking of those who are.

She used a quote I've had in my head over the years and often said to dd " This too shall pass"  and both of us are keeping that in mind.

Take care all

pollyx

Savvy_sewing

Well said Polly. 

I am taking as much pleasure in the little things that each day brings.
dgd is up and about a bit more and she was up first this morning and played football out in the garden with the boys.
the sun is in and out like a yoyo, so we haven't been out as much as I had wanted but we have certainly enjoyed fresh air. 

hb2

Yes, "This too shall pass" is very apt at the moment. 

pollyanna_26

Good to hear dgd is up and about again. I know she's been with you for ever but now is a time when the bonds between you all will grow stronger than ever as the days go by.

I hope your mum is managing to pass the days and not feeling too alone. I struggled the first few weeks not seeing dd. The house was so quiet I could hear my favourite clock ticking. Tv was pretty dire as the few regular things I watch were replaced with random things I wasn't interested in. The Vera repeats were welcome although I knew the plot already and Whodunnit.

I've settled now and just take each day as it comes.

hb2 "One day at a time" is also very apt. All the things I've muttered to myself or said to dd are proving their worth now as in the past.;

pollyx

hb2

Polly, I have an eating disorder for which I work a '12 step' recovery program. 'Just for today' is a basic tenet of the program - I can do something 'just for today' that would terrify me if I thought I had to do it forever.