Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

pollyanna_26

I hope the painkillers kick in and relieve the pain and you can manage to get it to manageable levels soon.. glad it's clean breaks and will be quicker to heal. You're best hibernating for a while and leave ds and dgd to learn just how much you do in a day.

I'm not someone who swears but I reckon the mum would push me and possibly a saint to make an exception in her case. It seems as though she has mental health issues or is unaware of how to behave. i wonder if her family have sought help for her in the past and it's either failed or she hasn't cooperated. Her mum at least must be aware as she's witnessed the outbusrts and lying. I find it very sad. Who would want to spend their days in such a way.

On a lighter note it's a " Pink supermoon " tonight. It's not really pink but sometimes appears so from rays reflected to earth. I love starry nights and the moon especially the Supermoon. It seems to put into perspective our little bit of the world and the vastness of the universe. Through history people have looked up at the stars, used them to navigate and as I've always done spot the consellations.  The moon has lit the way through all those years. I was born under the sign of the moon and have always had an affinity both with it and the sea.

I'm about to put a big coat on and see if it's clear enough to see the moon while listening to the sound of the sea nearby. We're just little dots in time in history but we may all get through the days ahead one at a time and generations to come see those moons and stars our ancestors and ourselves looked up at.

Take care everyone and pleasant dreams .

pollyx

thorsoak

I would suggest that Ss changes the wi-fi password and only divulges it to DS and DGD once they have done the necessary jobs - and takes the X-box away until everything is done!   Only thing is, I cannot remember how to do it myself - so you will have to google how to do it, depending upon how you access wifi.   xx

Savvy_sewing

I am on 2x500mg co-codamol and 2x200mg ibuprofen every 4/6 hours.
 I am halted in my tracks for most things.
 I used my elbow to pin down an apple while I cut it up for Dgs2 when DS had gone to get the milk!! I can make a cup of tea with one hand but cannot easily fill the kettle. Feeling rather pathetic with what I can and cannot do which is leading to frustration.dgd has upped her game today, and has washed up a few times. I said to her, and DS that they will realise how much I do do un noticed by them now I am not doing it.
although I managed to get the washing on the line with one hand as it was towels. I could sweep the floor but not use the dustpan. 

I am taping the phone with one finger on my broken hand as I cannot hold it in it to use my right to tap. So my elbow is getting the workout as the wrist is immobilised.
little ones aren't quite understanding why I cannot do things for them, but they will get used to it I hope.
 I have tried to read but revert to audio books and shutting my eyes but I did get to sit in the garden earlier.
 I am in bed now though. 

pollyanna_26

Oh Ss you are not pathetic, you are incapcitated and it's important those breaks get a chance to mend. I understand how frustrating not being able to do things can be. I sit around muttering to myself and feeling frustrated at times like that. However it is what it is and you need to be sensible.

As ds had gone for milk couldn't dgd have cut up the apple? As for you hanging towels out if I lived near I'd be shouting at you (observing social distancing as I did.) Hanging washing out is one of the things I struggle with when feeling below par. Either ds when he'd fetched the milk or dgd could have done that.

Remember it's not just household tasks and looking after the boys you do. You sew ,cook, do the housework , shop ,visit your mum and try to get her out for a change of scene, handle the laundry babysit for Biggest. School runs etc when times are normal..

DS and DGD wont be needing to all that ,Just a small nunber.Think before you go to do something and give those bones the time they need for full healing which will be quicker if your not doing stuff. You depend on your hands so much especially for sewing.

Sit in the sun if you can rest and try to catch up on your sleep. Tell ds and dgd you've got a sick note until full recovery. you don't want to damage your hands now and risk future problems.

As my dd emailed to me a few days ago "Stand Down Soldier!)

Stay well all "This too shall pass"

The moon was wonderful last night as were the stars . I hope some of you got to gaze upwards.

Take care

pollyx

KxMx

I know from when Mum broke her wrist, the first week was the hardest. 
As the pain receded she was able to do more and as time went on her confidence grew.
She broke left and is right handed though. 

hb2

I remember my MIL breaking her wrist and finding hanging out washing very difficult. I went over to see her, she had to go out but I 'helpfully' hung out her washing before I left. It rained while we were both out, carried on raining and - since I was now back in my own home - MIL had to go out in the rain to get her washing in again. I wasn't popular!! 

Savvy_sewing

I noticed nobody remembered to bring mine in, or anything else that was in the garden either.
 I get the odd job done for me, but I have to ask unfortunately, but I am not surprised.
next week the boys get to return to the nursery holiday spaces as they are classed as vulnerable children and because of my hand I am going to take them up on it. I have to pay anyway so I will access what I can at the moment.
i had a random care package box yesterday that I wasn't expecting, so I am trying to think what I could team it with.

box red berry cereal, packet lasagna sheets, small tin mixed peas and carrots, tin baked beans, tin chicken soup, packet chocolate biscuits, pack breakfast bars, fresh cartilage custard, two bananas, two carrots and a parsnip.

good job I have stuff in my cupboards to mix and match 
oh and a jar of mint sauce.

 I can't help with the sewing at the moment but I have been able to donate 3 tubes of buttons for them to make the face mask spacers. About 120 buttons so should make 60 straps.

left them on my doorstep to be collected. 

thorsoak

Give them a daily list - from DGD2 getting up and needing a drink (and needing to be washed and dressed, and bed checked) through making breakfast for everyone - and making a tray for you.  Washing up after breakfast, clearing and cleaning the kitchen, putting out the rubbish, puttting on load of washing, clear the living room.   Clean the bathroom.   Hang washing out.  ........and so on!    Go back to absolute basics - and tell them that they absolutely HAVE to do it.

WabbitWabbit

I am sorry but this is not the way things are meant to be and where has the 'we are all in this together'? Teachers have given up their Easter holidays to be there for children of key workers and I am sure that places are limited before and after the Easter break. Your grandchildren have a father living with them who is not working or doing anything at all, he should be caring for his own children himself and not expecting for others to do it and especially during the Easter holidays when schools are normally closed. Many single parents look after and care for their children as well as working. Your son even when working spent his wages on himself...he did not pay off any debts or contribute anything towards the household.
I do feel so sorry for your granddaughter, her one to one care has gone at a very difficult time in her life and she needs you so much, often just to talk over her worries. She now is expected to help look after her cousins and the male role model in her life sits and plays computer games all day.
I do think he needs to leave your home, money that is meant to be there for your 3 grandchildren is being spent on his food and utility costs. He is really not interested in his own children or he would have stepped up to the plate each time you were ill...he never has even with you having to constantly remind him.
I do think you are ill on a regular basis and yes I know it is not your fault but are you really going to look after your grandchildren for the long run?  Looking forward, in ten years time are you really going to be able to handle two adolescent boys?
Those two little boys are not going to be getting the best  start in life that they deserve. They need  love, stability and security of family life with lots of individual time, understanding and support and I just can't see that they are going to get this....I feel you are just too tired most of the time.
You granddaughter is going to need you so much over the next years, she will need lots of guidance and support and I just don't think you are going to be able to offer her this if the two boys remain with you.

pollyanna_26

thorsoak said:

Give them a daily list - from DGD2 getting up and needing a drink (and needing to be washed and dressed, and bed checked) through making breakfast for everyone - and making a tray for you.  Washing up after breakfast, clearing and cleaning the kitchen, putting out the rubbish, puttting on load of washing, clear the living room.   Clean the bathroom.   Hang washing out.  ........and so on!    Go back to absolute basics - and tell them that they absolutely HAVE to do it.

I agree with thorsoak but add bring the washing back in to the list. Clear insructions they can tick off if you can use your right hand may help.

Welll done on the buttons we're fundraising here at the moment for the fabrics for PPE. All checking our machines and ready to go. It's something I know you'd be finding some time to do Ss but with your hand not possible. The buttons will be welcome. Sewers around the uk are joining together to get the protection needed to those on the frontline. I've also seen people making visors in their garden sheds and homes.

pollyx.