Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

Pondskater

Hi SS I hope you are doing ok. I have followed your thread for the last few years and have been gobsmacked by all the stuff you have had to deal with and still kept your head above water. Keep swimming!!

beanielou

Hope you are feeling a wee bit better.

Savvy_sewing

I am fine now. Just tired. I had my blood tests taken today so if there is anything that is untoward then I hope that it will show, but I am hoping it's just from stress and nothing else.

 I had to get a new phone today as one of my grandchildren decided that it was ok to dribble into the phone ( despite its case), and in the time I had nipped to the loo the damage was done and the screen went along with the fingerprint touch ability. 

Yesterday I was sitting for Biggest during the morning as she was having a job interview.
I have been doing a few sewing jobs but not many. Or as many as I should be doing.  I really need to focus.

Savvy_sewing

I finally finished another waistcoat for one of my gentlemen, I shall hopefully deliver it today to him, but my car is going into the garage this morning after I have done the school run. The bracket under the car that holds the spare wheel is being replaced. Not cheap but I need the tyre out of the back so I can use the back seats and the boot.
Dgd is not in a good place at the moment, and getting her to school is a constant battle. Yesterday was a very difficult day, and she has also become very rude and cantankerous. I am at my whits end every morning and exasperated by night.
DS sort of helped yesterday while I did my Wednesday babysitting for Biggests little ones. But my kitchen looked like a bomb had gone off when I got home after the babysitting and meeting my friend for our weekly chat over a meal and a drink, unfortunately I didn't go into the kitchen until after he had gone out to his GFs. 

I am not thrilled because he had planned to stay out, so it means that I will have to face it this morning!
social funds have stopped as they change from Fostering to SGO allowance so I am over £600 down in the income bracket at the moment. So I have stopped the automated payment into the childrens saving pots as I cannot go overdrawn in that account and I am now perilously close to empty. So chasing them for the last week to no avail.
looks like today is going to be a busy and bity day. 

The boys have been awake for about an hour. So I am all Paw Patroled out. 

beanielou

Your DS does take the proverbial. 

I try to not say too much but he definitely hinders you. 

Hope the council get there act together on the money front. 

thorsoak

Savvy_sewing said:

I finally finished another waistcoat for one of my gentlemen, I shall hopefully deliver it today to him, but my car is going into the garage this morning after I have done the school run. The bracket under the car that holds the spare wheel is being replaced. Not cheap but I need the tyre out of the back so I can use the back seats and the boot.
Dgd is not in a good place at the moment, and getting her to school is a constant battle. Yesterday was a very difficult day, and she has also become very rude and cantankerous. I am at my whits end every morning and exasperated by night.
DS sort of helped yesterday while I did my Wednesday babysitting for Biggests little ones. But my kitchen looked like a bomb had gone off when I got home after the babysitting and meeting my friend for our weekly chat over a meal and a drink, unfortunately I didn't go into the kitchen until after he had gone out to his GFs. 

I am not thrilled because he had planned to stay out, so it means that I will have to face it this morning!
social funds have stopped as they change from Fostering to SGO allowance so I am over £600 down in the income bracket at the moment. So I have stopped the automated payment into the childrens saving pots as I cannot go overdrawn in that account and I am now perilously close to empty. So chasing them for the last week to no avail.
looks like today is going to be a busy and bity day. 

The boys have been awake for about an hour. So I am all Paw Patroled out. 

Sorry that you are having such a problem with DGD Ss, I think it could well be wrapped up with adolescent hormones as well as her anxiety about school and home, and I remember how hard it was trying not to turn into that adolescent myself when having altercations with my daughter ....the fact that we were having the same sort of argument that I had with my mother some 25 years earlier - but I had turned into my mother, and DD into me - and she would say the things to me that I actually didn't dare say to my mum!    The only suggestion that I can make is that you make it clear to her that until her attitude changes, there are no "Granny treats" :-(       She is old enough to understand this when the little ones cannot.    I'm not going to comment upon DS -  you know my feelings about him - but oh boy - do I sympathise about Paw Patrol - in my case, it is Peppa Pig - my little twins (now 22 months) come in to me when I am working on my laptop and go "oink oink" - and the other night I dreamt that I was getting into a taxi - and it was driven by Miss Rabbit!

hb2

beanielou said:

Your DS does take the proverbial. 

I try to not say too much but he definitely hinders you. 

Hope the council get there act together on the money front. 

I second that! xx

Savvy_sewing

I know that DS is taking the proverbial.
everything I say goes in one ear and out the other, if it goes in at all.
with him not here I just get on with things.
Dgds foot was bruised and slightly swollen today so back to the doctors after I had taken the boys to school, and after examining it back to the hospital for an X-ray.
sent home with instructions to ice and elevate. But no broken bones.
 I have missed a phone call from the NHS as I was driving home, it says it will contact me again soon. So don't know what that is about.
 I had to postpone the work on the car, move my 10am customers to tomorrow and this afternoon, and the 11 to 2.30, and then dash to deliver the old fella's waistcoat before collecting DGS's from school and nursery. 

So hardly any sewing done again!
at this rate I will be sewing Saturday afternoon when boys are with other family.
talk about having to re-organise everything!

At least being self employed and working from home makes life easier.

social have not replied to my messages and requests. So I don't know when I will get my next money in, so I think I will be robbing Peter to pay Paul a bit For a little while.
not the end of the world just a little inconvenient. 

sarathebest

Just so you don't worry those calls from the NHS are very often surveys relating to a recent use of NHS services.

pollyanna_26

sarathebest said:

Just so you don't worry those calls from the NHS are very often surveys relating to a recent use of NHS services.

I often get those calls. They're a call centre or often something nothing to do with anything. Had a random Dr speaking about his services once. Looked him up and he was a well known fake trying to fish for private patients. I just respond to calls or messages from our surgery, hospitals my dd attends and clinics ditto.

Ss Has dgd still got her double appt tomorrow with the GP? I'm hoping that may begin to give some clarity on the situation. None of us are able to properly work out what is the problem but I doubt it's just hormones etc.

Sorry to hear about the money not being paid. You must be fed up as it's happened in the past. Fingers crossed they sort it asap.

For whatever reson DS seems to be focusing on the GF. I know you mentioned she's on benefits but would it be possible he could move in with her and pay his way. with everything above board? Depends how well he's been paying down the debts but should help your wellbeing . It isn't fair to be constantly having to change your day to sort out the things he hasn't done. You've enough to do without being let down and upset at least you wouldn't need to feed him ( sounds harsh but he wont change)

Hope all the poorlies have recovered and dgds foot heals. Dd picked up Norovirus the weekend before last followed by flu so same old, same old here. I wouldn't mind but she'd only been out once and was mainly indoors apart from a quick trip to the village for a breath of air.

Take care

pollyx