Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

beanielou

Just popping in to say 'Keep- plodding' !!!

hb2

S_s, I'm sorry that someone is going out of their way to make things more difficult for you

JIL

Why report you? I dont understand what you are being reported for? What does the person reporting you hope to achieve?  

I hope I'm reading it correctly and ss feel it's the person doing the reporting that is being malicious.

pollyanna_26

Molly41 said:

Why should you stop SS have read it and presume they have told you that you don't have to stop? It is your place to vent your place to receive support otherwise you would be so isolated x

Ss Listen to your real life flesh and blood friend Molly. Don't allow anyone to drive you from your safe place. You've got through worse times with trolls etc in the past and will again. Molly is right. Don't isolate yourself .

pollyx

KxMx

I agree, keep posting! Whoever is reporting you surely won't get any satisfaction now since Social have dismissed the reports as malicious.

I'm sorry you have been frustrated again by DS. I think it's fair to say you know he isn't going to change. The cause of GS's coming to you was not after all just down to poor parenting by ex-gf.

What needs to change perhaps is him moving out so you are not in effect enabling something which will only disappoint and hurt you time and again.

Sorry to hear about DD and school. As well as hormones, school dynamics and normal youth angst, she now has to cope with sharing you after you became her stability, and be reminded all over again about her brothers.
Plus see her mum with more children in a family unit that doesn't include her day to day. She must wonder what is wrong with her. I hope she can find some help and a way forward.

I know at that age no matter how much people told me an indifferent father wasn't my fault, I felt for a very long time there was something wrong with me and that caused his behaviour towards me. 

(I do apologise if I've mixed anything/anyone up as only followed you off & on)

How are your aches and pains today? Luckily my SAD has been kept at bay this winter by taking a friend's dog out twice a week. But I am throughly sick of the cold and miserable weather... This winter has been so long and no end in sight yet. I feel the cold easily so am still needing to dress up as the Michelin Man every time I go out!

tooldle

Savvy_sewing said:

Twice now the Social have been informed by the same person (unfortunately they cannot tell me who), that I am being reported for my posting.
they have read and decided that it is actually malicious and are noting that in the file. 
But it is very disappointing that there is someone who dislikes me enough to do this.
so I am going to try to stop. 
Why they cannot just mind their own business and stop reading it if my life bothers them I don't know.

I think it is worth saying that whatever has been done and by whoever, it does not necessarIly translate into someone disliking you. There could be concern for you, or indeed involvement in the situation. Try not to read anything into it. 

Savvy_sewing

I have succumbed to the vomiting bug that dgs1 had last week. I had to stop my sewing and come in, and was violently ill for several hours yesterday. I have no energy today, and I have retired to my room. I did see my 9am customer and DS did step up to the plate and deal with the children, and after two nudges he did get them ready and take them to school.
 I have had the other Seamstress return some work and given her two more jobs to do.
 It is just taking the pressure off me while I adjust.
re the social they said maybe I would want to stop posting for a while just because of the caller.
 The reason I have the SGO is because I am able to do a better job than DS, and so the fact DS is annoying me, until He is able to move out etc, appears to be the callers concern, and because they could identify me. Although social have said that they must have known me from my previous avatar name. 
I will find it difficult to not post after 13 years. I did try before.
as Molly says, this is my outlet and where my virtual friends etc are.
 I am going back to sleep now, I am worn out. 
I have cancelled babysitting for Biggest and won't be going out tonight with my friend. 
Luckily DS is not working until tomorrow night.

pollyanna_26

Sorry to read you have the vomiting bug now, Norovirus has been doing the rounds for months here. You'll already know lots of fluids help prevent dehydration so keep drinking. Hope you get the chance to sleep as much as possible. Put your needs before DSs wants. As the hub everything revolves around you need time to rest and recover especially as you recently had flu.

You mention the caller re SS. Has someone actually phoned them? I think anyone here would tell you here if they were concerned for you or pm you. It sounds bizarre someone would involve SS which would never occur to most people.

Take care and get well soon,

pollyx

hb2

Oh S_s, a vomiting bug was the last thing you needed!

Savvy_sewing

Managed a short sleep.
 I think they had emails from the concerned person because I think by the sound of the sage guarding team they must have sent a link to here.
But they have said it is not a safeguarding issue. 
It does just knock me when people who don't really know me are contacting  the Social and naming me though. 
But if anyone really wants to research me then they have a lot of time on their hands or misguided ideas of how to help me.
what they expect to happen or they expect to gain is beyond me.