Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

thorsoak

Oh SS, you must feel so alone! Just wish that we all lived closer, so that we could descend, like a flight of harpies, chuck DS out with a large broom and a bucket of bleach, and clean and clear through for you - and leave your freezer full of food for you, DGD, GDS x2 and sod all for DS!

Hope you feel better soon xxxx

climbthatwallseegar

I have followed you for 10 years SS and have only commented once before today but I am so angry with your DS on your behalf.

I would love to send you an online shopping order with some ready made bits to get you through the next week or so. I know sharing personal address info with complete strangers is obviously a complete no-no but like most people reading your thread I wish I could help!

Savvy_sewing

climbthatwallseegar wrote: »

I have followed you for 10 years SS and have only commented once before today but I am so angry with your DS on your behalf.

I would love to send you an online shopping order with some ready made bits to get you through the next week or so. I know sharing personal address info with complete strangers is obviously a complete no-no but like most people reading your thread I wish I could help!

Thankyou,
That's a very kind thought.
My friend is going to come over after work today and see if there is anything she can do.

I keep dosing off, which is about all I am fit for.
I have cancelled my wedding dress fittings for tomorrow, there is no way I can see me bouncing back so quickly.
I have soup in the cupboards so a bit later I will summon up enough energy to go down to heat it up.
He is sort of feeding the children, it won't harm them to have snacks etc for a day, and pasta two days in a row.
Just feel very disheartened at the moment.
Need to go back to sleep now.
No energy

Savvy_sewing

DS gf has arrived. I have been given a cup of tea and porridge. The dishes are done and the children are dressed.
Dgd appears to have the shivers still.
My water has been topped up, and I am being left to go back to sleep and Gf is organising DS.
I just told her how I feel about him, and how I have nothing left to support him, I have had enough.
They are going out to her house to give me some peace and quiet.
At least I know that there won't be anymore mess while they are out.
So I can switch off and sleep.
Work phone is going off now!

beanielou

I hope they are taking the dgc with them.
Also wish I was nearer to help.

Savvy_sewing

beanielou wrote: »

I hope they are taking the dgc with them.
Also wish I was nearer to help.

Yes they have taken all three children with them.
I have drifted in and out of sleep depending on the noise in the street outside. It's a very busy street but I need the window open for fresh air.
I have just topped up my teasmade and made myself a cup of tea, and actually think I have enough energy to sit up for it now.
That's a huge improvement on 3 hours ago. Although I know my temperature is still see-sawing as I alternate from hot to cold. Just have to wait for the tea to cool down enough to be able to drink it now.
Here's hoping I have turned a corner and am starting to mend. But I will not be dashing about yet.
The ability to make the tea is a huge win for me after the way I have been feeling since Wednesday morning.

ivyleaf

The GF sounds very thoughtful, SS. I'm glad you've managed to make a cuppa with the teasmade xx

Savvy_sewing

I have slowly improved this afternoon, I actually started to think about things, where I didn't care much about anything before lunch. I say lunch but I have only had that porridge.
I am getting hungry now and have actually managed to stay awake for about two hours.
I will venture down stairs in a few minutes and see what I can find to eat. DS etc are not back yet.

Savvy_sewing

I actually feel like saying good morning. The sun is shining out there and I can hear the birds singing.
I had a very mixed night, with the fever, but I think it finally broke around 5am
I managed to sleep again without breaking into a sweat until 8am
I have managed to make myself a cup of tea, venture down stairs and make some porridge. DS has the children and taken them out . I think the gf had words with him.
I am going to have a soak in the bath and then wash my hair, I think I have enough energy for that. Then I will probably sit in my cosy corner with a book if I have energy to stay awake.
I shall ask the GF if she wouldn't mind helping me change my bed before I go back in it, if she comes over at some point today. The other family are having the boys this afternoon so I will have an easy day today. Thankfully.
I have cancelled today's bride so there is no pressure on me and I can take it easy and slowly build up my energy again.
Bath time

hb2

Ss, I'm glad that you were eventually able to rest, in the knowledge that the house was tidy and children being looked after. I hope you feel considerably better today - but please don't be tempted to do too much once you have a bit of energy. It will probably take a couple of weeks, at least, before you are back on full form (((hugs))).