Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism 5 January 2020 at 6:27PM edited 30 November -1 at 12:00AM in Marriage, Relationships & Families 1.8K replies 468.5K views

Savvy_sewing

Happy New Year to one and all.
May you all stay safe and well. 

The one thing 2020 taught me is that I am stronger than I think.

We move into the year at a slower pace, and with the knowledge that this too shall pass. For now it is about taking the time to notice the little things and to continue to build the bonds of our little family.

hb2

Thank you for those wise words Savvy.

LondonLiz

Dear Savvy,

I'm popping out of lurkdom to wish you all the best for the new year.  I started reading your diary back when you had just got the 2x GS's and DS was living with you and have followed silently along ever since.  But I was always a bit confused about the twins and other references to the past, so over the past few weeks with too much time on my hands I've now gone back and skimmed read through all your threads from the very start.  Yes I know that sounds ridiculous but I got hooked.  And I am astonished at what you have been through and taken on and put up with both from the family and social services.  And indeed some of more unkind posters on your threads.

It was strange sometimes,  reading a post and knowing what was going to happen and not being able to warn you or tell you what the future held.  Like time travel I guess - seeing the past but not being able to change it.  

Anyway,  I do hope things keep getting better for you and your little family.  I think 'noticing the little things' is a good motto for us all too.

Best wishes, LL

Savvy_sewing

LondonLiz said:

Dear Savvy,

I'm popping out of lurkdom to wish you all the best for the new year.  I started reading your diary back when you had just got the 2x GS's and DS was living with you and have followed silently along ever since.  But I was always a bit confused about the twins and other references to the past, so over the past few weeks with too much time on my hands I've now gone back and skimmed read through all your threads from the very start.  Yes I know that sounds ridiculous but I got hooked.  And I am astonished at what you have been through and taken on and put up with both from the family and social services.  And indeed some of more unkind posters on your threads.

It was strange sometimes,  reading a post and knowing what was going to happen and not being able to warn you or tell you what the future held.  Like time travel I guess - seeing the past but not being able to change it.  

Anyway,  I do hope things keep getting better for you and your little family.  I think 'noticing the little things' is a good motto for us all too.

Best wishes, LL

Happy New Year!
my that must have taken you a very long time to read, even if you speed read!
you will be relieved that I have slowed down updating , due to the trolls that finally wore me out.
life is difficult at times, I must admit having the children home 24/7 is very difficult. It is much easier in the warmer weather.  Luckily the nursery was open today so I only had one of the boys.
Twin2 is still with us, although I don't see much of her as she is residing in the campervan on the drive. 

DGD is struggling with her mental health issues and this morning was not a really good one, we had tears and shut down. But with a little time I did get things moving on, despite the fact that I wasn't feeling well. Luckily both boys are in school in the morning until lunchtime anyway. 

Savvy_sewing

Gosh February already!
 I have tinkered a few times with the sewing but not very much. January was about self preservation after overload in December.
The assessment for DGS1 has been done and we expect the results back this week, and the proposal of what help he needs.
life is not easy, but the school are starting to have a few better days.
Twin2 and DS are due to move into a two bed mobile home today, in a village not far away.
He still has work.
He still sees the GF but it appears they don't want to live together.
Twin2 didn't want to go back to Cornwall so sharing with her brother was the best option we could come up with.
Biggest now has a new full time job, her divorce is through. So we're hoping for a better year in 2021, just like everyone else.
 I am struggling to find what I want on here these days and it took me nearly 40 minutes to find my thread again!
 I am challenging myself to no new clothes ( except possibly tights) for 2021 as my wardrobe is bulging.
Both boys have had a growth spurt so it is time to cull their clothes. I had too buy Dgs1 new clothes at the weekend, in Sainsbury's. Only place in the town that is open with Covid restrictions.
I am accessing free food from Olio app, so we are going to be doing a frugal month using what I can access and the store cupboards. 

I hope everyone is well and stay safe in these troubled times. 

pollyanna_26

Savvy_sewing said:

Gosh February already!
 I have tinkered a few times with the sewing but not very much. January was about self preservation after overload in December.
The assessment for DGS1 has been done and we expect the results back this week, and the proposal of what help he needs.
life is not easy, but the school are starting to have a few better days.
Twin2 and DS are due to move into a two bed mobile home today, in a village not far away.
He still has work.
He still sees the GF but it appears they don't want to live together.
Twin2 didn't want to go back to Cornwall so sharing with her brother was the best option we could come up with.
Biggest now has a new full time job, her divorce is through. So we're hoping for a better year in 2021, just like everyone else.
 I am struggling to find what I want on here these days and it took me nearly 40 minutes to find my thread again!
 I am challenging myself to no new clothes ( except possibly tights) for 2021 as my wardrobe is bulging.
Both boys have had a growth spurt so it is time to cull their clothes. I had too buy Dgs1 new clothes at the weekend, in Sainsbury's. Only place in the town that is open with Covid restrictions.
I am accessing free food from Olio app, so we are going to be doing a frugal month using what I can access and the store cupboards. 

I hope everyone is well and stay safe in these troubled times. 

It's good to hear from you Savvy. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's wondered how you all are and if you're keeping well.Hoping DGS1 gets the package of help to support his needs.

DS and Twin2 will hopefully be ok in a mobile home. It's good to hear he is still working. Wishing Biggest all the best in her new job and better days to come for her and the children.

I bookmark the threads I follow so just need to check in my profile to easily access each one. It's much quicker than searching the forums

Self preservation in January was a good idea following Christmas. You need to lok after yourself as much as possible.

I've found like you I have more than enough clothes so tights, socks and underwear are probably all that will need replacing when needed .

I've heard of many people using the Olio app and they find it a great help.

Hope all is well with your mum and Twin1 and DGD is making progress now she has suitable support.

Wishing you all good health. Things have come a long way since the difficult early days so long may it continue.

Thinking of all the regulars and readers here over the years and hoping all are safe and well.

I don't think any of us imagined we would still be in these strange times nearly a year on but it is what it is so as beanie says Keep Plodding.

pollyx.

hb2

Thanks for the update Savvy, you have been in my thoughts. 
I think that just surviving January was the priority for many people and suspect that February might be more of the same.

It's great to hear that things are moving on for your family, I really hope that better times are ahead for you all.

24ta

Great to hear things are moving in the right direction. take care