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Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism
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It would be nice to think that love conquers all but it doesn't. It's certainly not conquered your son. I think if you are not getting the help for the boys that the boys need [ and it may take some time to figure that out] it might be time to think of alternative measures. There's no shame in saying I can't cope, you are allowed.
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So what was the intervention team saying then when they were there.
Good that they saw the boys at their worst.I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
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Now on the last page.
So no help from intervention team.
What a waste of time.
What does it take for them to do anything to help?I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.3 -
beanielou said:Now on the last page.
So no help from intervention team.
What a waste of time.
What does it take for them to do anything to help?
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LadyHarris said:beanielou said:Now on the last page.
So no help from intervention team.
What a waste of time.
What does it take for them to do anything to help?
However I would expect the intervention team to offer some concrete help to the person looking after them under a court order & more than completing another family tree as I see no benefit in this.I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.3 -
Your son’s teenage years were impacted by you being preoccupied with his sisters and their offspring. Look how that turned out. Now your granddaughter is in the exact same situation, do you think she will fare better?6
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I think DS's teenage years were impacted by him not growing up and becoming an independent responsible adult due to M feeling guilty. Remember the mums mantra SS, this too shall pass, any mum of two small children who aren't sleeping through and acting out would feel exhausted :-) but if DS isn't supposed to have unsupervised access don't allow that to happen because you are exhausted, could you not sort something out with DGD e.g. she entertains the little ones for a while whilst you get a rest or get on with some jobs? In fact that might help DGD feel more included and begin to understand responsibilities if she has a role.1
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essex123456 said:I think DS's teenage years were impacted by him not growing up and becoming an independent responsible adult due to M feeling guilty. Remember the mums mantra SS, this too shall pass, any mum of two small children who aren't sleeping through and acting out would feel exhausted :-) but if DS isn't supposed to have unsupervised access don't allow that to happen because you are exhausted, could you not sort something out with DGD e.g. she entertains the little ones for a while whilst you get a rest or get on with some jobs? In fact that might help DGD feel more included and begin to understand responsibilities if she has a role.Norn Iron Club member 4738
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essex123456 said:I think DS's teenage years were impacted by him not growing up and becoming an independent responsible adult due to M feeling guilty. Remember the mums mantra SS, this too shall pass, any mum of two small children who aren't sleeping through and acting out would feel exhausted :-) but if DS isn't supposed to have unsupervised access don't allow that to happen because you are exhausted, could you not sort something out with DGD e.g. she entertains the little ones for a while whilst you get a rest or get on with some jobs? In fact that might help DGD feel more included and begin to understand responsibilities if she has a role.10
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The children ‘play up’ wherever they are and whoever they’re with.I agree it would be a huge mistake to expect the granddaughter to take responsibility for the small children. Just another way of reminding her that her wellbeing is always sacrificed for the sake of theirs.5
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