Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

Savvy_sewing

well I am pleased to say DGS managed a fairly good day in school yesterday. I played with the trains on the floor with him for nearly two hours and then Daddy took over. When I collected his brother it was a little more fraught trying to get them to share, but we managed to calm meltdowns relatively quickly. DS stayed and is staying the next few nights and I am taking DGD and going to Biggests tonight for a break while her children are with their Dad. So I am going to finally have some respite. I am taking my diary, my planner and a pen or two. A bottle of wine and a meal deal for tea. 

I am going to sleep in (hopefully), and DGD is going to play with the dog and bring her things with her. Hopefully we will watch a film or two together and possibly go for a walk if the rain holds off. 

I have had a letter with details of the plan for DGd to access time to talk, and a referral for the school to work on a EHA plan. 

Let's hope we find what all three children need.
 I have given the last few sewing jobs to the other seamstress ( except a bag of name tapes), and have successfully turned down work this week.
 I have joined a closed Facebook group for people dealing with children with attachment issues, and I feel less alone already. My friend pointed me in their direction, and last night she came round for a natter. We sat out in my cabin at a suitable distance and put the world rights  over a bottle of wine and a box of chocolates. 

DS did the bedtime routine and I got a reasonable nights sleep as the children didn't wake up until 7.10 am. ( Dgs1 did wake or yell out briefly but his Dad was in like a flash so I didn't have to even get out of bed. 

geminilady

So glad you are getting a break,it will do you the world of good as will have the chat with your friend.Enjoy your lie in x

hb2

I agree, Savvy, some 'time off' will do you the world of good

beanielou

So glad that you are having a wee break.
MUch needed I think 

beanielou

7.10 is a better time in the morning 

Savvy_sewing

beanielou said:

7.10 is a better time in the morning 

Bliss!

essex123456

Amazing - sounds like Biggest even though she has gone through her own breakup has made some space for you and dgd to have some relax time, and also encouraged DS to step up a little bit - what a star.
Do you remember SS how cross you were with her when you were on holiday last summer and she tried to make DS step up? I'm just saying this because it shows that sometimes you can sit back and breathe and let others take the strain/

Savvy_sewing

I think we are helping each other, as it should be. She gets to go see friends have a bbq and stay out while I get to look after the dog, but actually just chill, read and relax.
Dgd and I have been to Aldi and bought a few treats for tea and for in front of the tv. I was originally sitting in the garden but it keeps going cold when the clouds come out so I have plonked myself on one end of the sofa and DgD was on the other until a few minutes ago, and the dog between us. 

I have been reading a book on my kindle app, but just finished it. 

Not sure what I will do ( or not do) next.
 I have exchanged our holiday voucher from Easter and booked us into a caravan park for the week of my birthday, with Biggest, her 3 and my 3. So only 9 days to go and we will have a trip to Dorset. 

thorsoak

It sounds as if you have had the sort of day that you have all needed!

Savvy_sewing

I am feeling much better. Enjoying the sunshine sitting in the back garden at Biggests. I woke a few times, but went back to sleep easily, and didn't get up until just gone 8 this morning.
 I have been writing in my diary, filling out my planner and looking at what I can and cannot do moving forward.
dgd seems a little more relaxed, and has taken the dog out for a walk. 

I have found the dog quite comforting as well. He follows me everywhere.
is sitting here by my feet at the moment.
 I will be going home in 2hours, so I will see the boys before they go out with their other family.DS will be off to his GF.
I expect to be tidying up the house after being away for 2 nights. But that's ok. If I expect a mess then I won't be disappointed. 

I really am considering changing my business model moving forward in the Autumn.
reverting to teaching once distancing is sorted out, and then to be creative in my cabin, and use it for my enjoyment. Possibly selling on line items of stock or makes. But that will depend on how my hand recovers. Teaching will be less demanding on my physical abilities and more on my knowledge.
The priority is now to get the help dgd and DGs1 needs to help their mental health etc.
as is my mental health going to have to be moving forward.

it is glorious sitting in the sun, listening to the world going by, and thinking more clearly about things.
Little steps hopefully will get us in a different position eventually.