Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

beanielou

Also sorry to hear this.
Poor wee sausage, probably the only way he knows to verbalise.
Hope he settles down soon.

Savvy_sewing

I guess it's going to be one of those days.

thorsoak

Poor little chap!  Its not surprising after the last week, but it is so aggravating for you.   Just carry on as you are doing - just wish we could all help!  Take no notice of the poison queen - obviously she has a feather in her knickers!

Savvy_sewing

thorsoak said:

Poor little chap!  Its not surprising after the last week, but it is so aggravating for you.   Just carry on as you are doing - just wish we could all help!  Take no notice of the poison queen - obviously she has a feather in her knickers!

Love it!
There is not much I can do about it. 

Autism is what it is and we will have good days and bad days. I just have to get on with it. The school asked if I had support from Social's but too be honest I don't think there is much they can do that is any different. But I will call them tomorrow when I don't have little ears around. 

WabbitWabbit

If I were in your position with the boys being so young and your granddaughter entering her teen years I would apply for every benefit available and I do think you should have housing benefit and council tax relief. Two young children are exhausting when you are a mother in your twenties or thirties and you must be doubly so.
I think you should keep  business ticking over on a smaller scale so that you are not forgotten and when things are easier you can then build it up again.You still can work when getting Universal Credit but am not sure how many hours.
I  hope that you don't let you son come back to stay but I do hope that he wants to visit and spend time with his children on a regular basis. I find it hard to read of all you have done for your son especially financially as he does not seem to be very  grateful and when you ask if he can spend time with his children so you can get some work done he is unable to do that.

Savvy_sewing

I have cut my hours down to three days a week at the moment and posted that on my Facebook page. Although I am yet to do the website.
The other granny has taken them to the stables this afternoon which has allowed me to pay money into the bank, do a mr T shop, and collect an order for biggest. Dgd came with me. We just had a very early dinner, (or a very late lunch), and I have chosen to put my feet up now until the boys are back.
just keeping an eye on the weather as I have a lot of bedding on the line.
I am not going to encourage DS to come home, and I will be applying for housing help once my tax credits paperwork is returned from the Social means test assessment. 

I will just keep an eye on the budget and plod on where I can.

now cup of tea and pudding. 

beanielou

Plodding is always good

Savvy_sewing

Glad to say boys behaved for their other family and came home tired. Staggered bedtime and no problems, although both mentioned Daddy's absence.
He has two teeth extracted today and is apparently in a lot of pain. His GF has been messaging me about what he is proposing to do.
 I messaged back that I no longer have any expectations of him, that I love him but as he said on Saturday he wants to make his own decisions so it's up to him and I won't expect anything anymore.
She told me that he was worried about my hand, and I should rest etc. I was rather blunt and said that as I am committed to repaying £800 a month on debts that I have no choice but to work. They were worried that I might loose my hand. I am more worried that I might default on the debts!
shut eye time.
Tomorrow is another day and I hope Dgs1 is calm and gets to stay in school till 1pm and I get 3-4 hours of work done.

thorsoak

He was darn lucky to find a dentist that was prepared to see him!   I have lost two fillings - and cannot be seen for at least another two months!    Hope GF isn't trying to soften you up - "worried that you might lose your hand" sounds hollow when he wouldn't do a hand's turn for you!

beanielou

800 a month on debt. 

That is a lot.