40 year old male mid life crisis?

hazyjo

gomer wrote: »

Well of course, it's always the husbands fault when a relationship breaks down.Never anything at all to do with the wife......:cool:

BS. Women are as bad when it comes to cheating.

And I don't think either party can be blamed when a relationship breaks down. If someone cheats before walking, they need to grow a pair. Not saying I haven't done it. And yes, I should have ended it first.

geminilady

gomer wrote: »

I wonder how many of them can say there was no part of the relationship whatsoever that could do with working on at the time?

Sometimes in a relationship you have to just lie back and think of England even if youre too tired, or don't feel sexy, or aren't in the mood, have a headache etc etc because if you don't do it, there are plenty of other women out there who will.

Nobody seems to ask why these men thought with their anatomy and looked elsewhere for the intimacy they weren't getting at home. There are some things you can't expect a man to live without ever having again once you've got married & had kids - sexual intimacy is one of them.

I'd be interested to hear how many of these relationships involved a full & active sex life at the time of the infidelity. My guess is it had probably been lacking for a long tine, but like i said thats nothing at all to do with the wife is it? All the husband's fault for not being content in a sexless marriage.

Lie back and think of England?Are we living in the Victorian era.A relationship is not only about sex.You seem to think everyone who cheats is not getting anything at home.A bit of a warped opinion.People cheat for lots of different reasons it is not always about sex.
By the way I was having sex at least twice a week with my ex when he cheated.Maybe it should have been every day,twice a day lol

badmemory

I made the mistake of getting sick. So much for our wedding vows then. The best thing that happened to me - when he was made redundant & didn't pay maintenance for 3 years. It made me free, no more noose tying me to him. Of course money was just a tad tight but I got over that.

Pollycat

gomer wrote: »

I wonder how many of them can say there was no part of the relationship whatsoever that could do with working on at the time?

Sometimes in a relationship you have to just lie back and think of England even if youre too tired, or don't feel sexy, or aren't in the mood, have a headache etc etc because if you don't do it, there are plenty of other women out there who will.

Nobody seems to ask why these men thought with their anatomy and looked elsewhere for the intimacy they weren't getting at home. There are some things you can't expect a man to live without ever having again once you've got married & had kids - sexual intimacy is one of them.

I'd be interested to hear how many of these relationships involved a full & active sex life at the time of the infidelity. My guess is it had probably been lacking for a long tine, but like i said thats nothing at all to do with the wife is it? All the husband's fault for not being content in a sexless marriage.

I think that's probably one of the most selfish, chauvinistic things that I've ever read on here. :eek:

gomer

Fluffy little kittens xxx

gomer

Pollycat wrote: »

I think that's probably one of the most selfish, chauvinistic things that I've ever read on here. :eek:

Cute little bunny rabbits xxx

gomer

geminilady wrote: »

Lie back and think of England?Are we living in the Victorian era.A relationship is not only about sex.You seem to think everyone who cheats is not getting anything at home.A bit of a warped opinion.People cheat for lots of different reasons it is not always about sex.
By the way I was having sex at least twice a week with my ex when he cheated.Maybe it should have been every day,twice a day lol

I don't think a relationship is only about sex & haven't said that. I have said it is a crucial part of a relationship & very few sexless marriages survive.

Pollycat

gomer wrote: »

It's also true. Sadly.

It's not true in my 35+ year relationship.
If I didn't want sex for any reason, I wouldn't be lying back and thinking of anything.
And my husband wouldn't expect me to do that either.
I pity any woman who feels she has no choice but to have sex even though she's too tired, doesn't feel sexy. isn't in the mood or has a headache because she's scared her partner will go out and find a woman who will have sex.

I notice you have edited your posts and the one I refer to above is no longer there.
But it remains as a quote by another poster.
I'm glad about that.

gomer

Pollycat wrote: »

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I notice you have edited your posts and the one I refer to above is no longer there.
But it remains as a quote by another poster.
I'm glad about that.

Yeah, i decided to just post what people want to hear instead.


Hugs & cuddles xxxx

gomer

geminilady wrote: »

By the way I was having sex at least twice a week with my ex when he cheated.Maybe it should have been every day,twice a day lol

and up until that point the relationship was absolutely perfect in every area?