40 year old male mid life crisis?

Pollycat

I'm not going to respond to that poster again.

I think he is de-railing the thread for whatever reason and corell's frank, heart-breaking post deserves more than discussing a chauvinistic's view of women roles in the bedroom.

gomer

Pollycat wrote: »

I'm not going to respond to that poster again.

So that's a no then.

Gycraig

It's the newness that's doing it and the age. You go home and your 52 year old wife who is bringing up the kids and stressed is nagging you / hasn't made an effort / hasn't had time. You see her at her worst some days.

On the other side you see a 28 year old young and full of energy, wants sex all the time and is exciting.Its not real life though that original lust will fade, you will move in together and you will see her at her worst when she's !!!!ed off about work and hasn't done herself up.

Not slating the wife it's real life it's so much easier to be the perfect woman 2 times a week for a few hours than it is every single day.

Known a lot of men make this mistake and beg to go back only to be told to fk off

Pollycat

Gycraig wrote: »

It's the newness that's doing it and the age. You go home and your 52 year old wife who is bringing up the kids and stressed is nagging you / hasn't made an effort / hasn't had time. You see her at her worst some days.

On the other side you see a 28 year old young and full of energy, wants sex all the time and is exciting.Its not real life though that original lust will fade, you will move in together and you will see her at her worst when she's !!!!ed off about work and hasn't done herself up.

Not slating the wife it's real life it's so much easier to be the perfect woman 2 times a week for a few hours than it is every single day.

Known a lot of men make this mistake and beg to go back only to be told to fk off

And if they stay with the new woman they find that the woman who was eager for sex when it was a snatched couple of hours whilst the wife was at home looking after the kids suddenly doesn't want sex because she's too tired, doesn't feel sexy, isn't in the mood or has a headache.
And her partner will go out and find (yet another) woman who will have sex with him.
Until that woman who was eager for sex suddenly doesn't want sex because she's too tired, doesn't feel sexy, isn't in the mood or has a headache.
And her partner will go out and....

gomer

Pollycat wrote: »

And if they stay with the new woman they find that the woman who was eager for sex when it was a snatched couple of hours whilst the wife was at home looking after the kids suddenly doesn't want sex because she's too tired, doesn't feel sexy, isn't in the mood or has a headache.
And her partner will go out and find (yet another) woman who will have sex with him.
Until that woman who was eager for sex suddenly doesn't want sex because she's too tired, doesn't feel sexy, isn't in the mood or has a headache.
And her partner will go out and....

I agree. Furthermore i can think of no circumstances whatsoever where the breakdown of a relationship can ever be apportioned to the wife. It can only ever be the husband who is at fault.


*Hugs* :A

74jax

Pollycat wrote: »

And if they stay with the new woman they find that the woman who was eager for sex when it was a snatched couple of hours whilst the wife was at home looking after the kids suddenly doesn't want sex because she's too tired, doesn't feel sexy, isn't in the mood or has a headache.
And her partner will go out and find (yet another) woman who will have sex with him.
Until that woman who was eager for sex suddenly doesn't want sex because she's too tired, doesn't feel sexy, isn't in the mood or has a headache.
And her partner will go out and....

I've heard of this so much. Secret sex or forbidden sex.....

Gavin83

I'd imagine as a 40 something year old man you're starting to feel old, well past your prime and frankly not feeling great about yourself. If a much younger woman pays an interest I'd imagine it's extremely flattering. Some men will take the compliment and move on, some will take the opportunity to cheat. I expect in a lot of cases their wives won't find out either. I suspect if the wives do find out it's because the husbands generally aren't happy anyway and either want a huge kick to sort it out or actually want to leave their wives.

I used husbands cheating on their wives but you could swap the genders and the same would apply.

geminilady

gomer wrote: »

and up until that point the relationship was absolutely perfect in every area?

Obviously not no relationship is perfect.

gomer

And that was my exact point. The relationship was already in trouble. The infidelity didn't just pop out of nowhere

Pollycat

If your relationship isn't as good as it once was or you are not happy, at least have the decency to discuss it with your partner and try to make things better instead of going off and having it away with someone else.
If there's no chance of making it better, at least have the courage to be honest and end it before starting a relationship with someone else.

That applies whether you're male or female.