40 year old male mid life crisis?

smithers1981

Update we now officially split she’s still in house with daughter I’m at mums until I find place to rent. She says she not selling house we joint owners with joint mortgage.

Prob £100k equity I would sign over in lieu of child support which I rejoin would be £26000 over next 7.5 years is this realistic?

smithers1981

PS we not married

Pollycat

smithers1981 wrote: »

Update we now officially split she’s still in house with daughter I’m at mums until I find place to rent. She says she not selling house we joint owners with joint mortgage.

Prob £100k equity I would sign over in lieu of child support which I rejoin would be £26000 over next 7.5 years is this realistic?

No chance of staying with your much younger girl friend?


Have you taken legal advice?

smithers1981 wrote: »

PS we not married

You referred to her as your wife throughout your earlier posts.

onwards&upwards

smithers1981 wrote: »

Update we now officially split she’s still in house with daughter I’m at mums until I find place to rent. She says she not selling house we joint owners with joint mortgage.

Prob £100k equity I would sign over in lieu of child support which I rejoin would be £26000 over next 7.5 years is this realistic?

Good for her!

You can’t not pay child support.

smithers1981

Well that option is a no go then surely the 50k equity I give her would be more beneficial than 300 per month plus if I had my own house I could have daughter more often.

Pollycat

smithers1981 wrote: »

Well that option is a no go then surely the 50k equity I give her would be more beneficial than 300 per month plus if I had my own house I could have daughter more often.

Where has the other £50K equity gone that you mentioned here:

smithers1981 wrote: »

Prob £100k equity I would sign over in lieu of child support which I rejoin would be £26000 over next 7.5 years is this realistic?

Have you considered she may be entitled to some of that equity in the house plus regular child maintenance?

Are you married or not?

Child maintenance is intended to look after the needs of your child on a day-to-day, week-to-week, month-to-month basis.
How is having £100k equity (or £50k) in the house your daughter is living in going to buy her new shoes when she needs them?
And why do you think you'll only be paying child maintenance on your 9 year old daughter (as per your profile) until she's 18?
What if she goes on to further education?
You may be paying until she's 20.


Where has your figure of £300 per month come from? Is it based on an estimate using a calculator, plucked from the sky or advice from a bloke down t'pub?


Who says you will be entitled to a 50/50 split?
My friend got 60/40 to her - she stayed in the house.
I've heard of 70/30 splits too.

I think you need legal advice and I'd hope your wife (or whatever relationship she is to you) will do the same.

ETA:
She may be entitled to a share of your pensions if you have any too.
Of course, you would be entitled to a share of hers too.
My friend came out pretty well on that front. She had a small pension, he had a very good occupational pension. It was all shared (from the start of the relationship).

gomer

Did the girlfriend get dumped?

gomer

Why use a whole paragraph when a few words will do lol :rotfl:

gomer

I reckon she got the elbow when it hit the fan. Either that or wifey noticed he was suddenly joining slimming clubs & buying that stuff they sell for thinning hair at the chemist and started following him then put 2 and 2 together

Et voilà, marriage over & gf dumped lol



......or maybe the gf just looked a bit *ahem* 'different' without the beer goggles?

chesky

Post 15 - 'girl at work gone cold on me'

She's no fool.