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40 year old male mid life crisis?
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....And more to the point, don't then make lame 'mid life crisis' excuses (as if the infidelity has just come out of nowhere, like slipping on a banana skin). At least take some responsibility for it and if things aren't going right within the relationship (and I do understand that it's a two-way street) have the courage to address the issue with your partner and try to sort it out (as Pollycat so wisely says).0
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If your relationship isn't as good as it once was or you are not happy, at least have the decency to discuss it with your partner and try to make things better instead of going off and having it away with someone else.
If there's no chance of making it better, at least have the courage to be honest and end it before starting a relationship with someone else.
That applies whether you're male or female.
That might be a problem if your wife is so unattentive to your feelings about any issues in the relationship that she doesn't even notice you are unhappy with your marriage.
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That might be a problem if your wife is so unattentive to your feelings about any issues in the relationship that she doesn't even notice you are unhappy with your marriage.
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Or if you'd already had "the discussion" several times but the relationship did not improve.
Or if the other partner feels that you haven't "got the guts" to leave so are unprepared to change to make things better!0 -
Or if you'd already had "the discussion" several times but the relationship did not improve.
Or if the other partner feels that you haven't "got the guts" to leave so are unprepared to change to make things better!
I quite agree. And not to mention if every time you do try to talk to your wife you get the constant brush off and she refuses to discuss it or entertain any kind of couple counselling, preferring to live in denial. That would definitely be the husbands fault for not having the guts to leave.
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I quite agree. And not to mention if every time you do try to talk to your wife you get the constant brush off and she refuses to discuss it or entertain any kind of couple counselling, preferring to live in denial. That would definitely be the husbands fault for not having the guts to leave.
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Both would be at fault.
The wife for refusing to talk/address the issues. And the husband for refusing to leave an unhappy marriage, and choosing to cheat instead.
To be clear, cheating by husband OR wife is not excusable. You make a choice to do it, when you have better options available.
Most spouses would surely sit up and pay attention if the other announced 'right, I've tried to address this several times and you've not been willing to discuss/address the issues. If you are still unwilling to do that now, then I have no choice but to leave. I am deeply unhappy with our relationship currently is. Do you want to work on fixing it with me?'.
Gender does not come into it. No one here has ever, at any point, said that it is only men that do this, or that they are the only ones to blame. You are clearly projecting.February wins: Theatre tickets0 -
And if they stay with the new woman they find that the woman who was eager for sex when it was a snatched couple of hours whilst the wife was at home looking after the kids suddenly doesn't want sex because she's too tired, doesn't feel sexy, isn't in the mood or has a headache.
And her partner will go out and find (yet another) woman who will have sex with him.
Until that woman who was eager for sex suddenly doesn't want sex because she's too tired, doesn't feel sexy, isn't in the mood or has a headache.
And her partner will go out and....
It's like the storyline for Dr Foster.0 -
I agree. Furthermore i can think of no circumstances whatsoever where the breakdown of a relationship can ever be apportioned to the wife. It can only ever be the husband who is at fault.
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That is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. So every single marriage break-up is the man's fault?!0 -
gabriel1980 wrote: »That is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. So every single marriage break-up is the man's fault?!
He's being sarcastic....0 -
Some things just go straight over people's heads lol
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