Complaint from next door neighbour

warby68

KinderScout2019 wrote: »

I sometimes has teleconference with Canada colleagues, some calls with families and friends, and some calls to the bank too... The scary part is I thought I was in a private and safe place when I made these calls, but my neighbour has been listening all the times.

Now you are the one over-reacting.

Her first step was clumsy but not a declaration of war and she isn't spying.

Best advice, as before, is to try to diffuse the situation face to face with niceness. It may not work but it should let you know what she's like. This will guide any next steps.

However, its unlikely to need anything more than you toning things down in the late evenings now you are aware how much the sound travels.

If you respond in an unfriendly way or don't address the noise, that's when it might escalate.

prowla

KinderScout2019 wrote: »

Yes, this is the first warning from the neighbour. After a deep thought today, I really think this letter is rude and unnecessary.

Actually she could just tell me she can hear I was watching youtube and telephone call, I will immediately avoid that. Especially the phone call, it is my privacy, I don't want my neighbour to hear my conversation! It is scary to imaging she has been listening my phone call that I made at my house in my room.

So, have you heard them banging on the wall before?


EDIT: Ah - I see you say in an earlier post that you haven't.

Mickygg

Marvel1 wrote: »

Not allowed to flush the toilet

Not allowed to hoover a carpet?

No running the washing machine?

No having a shower or a bath?

I printed some documents earlier, can't so that again it was noisy.

Best I take out my smoke alarm too, they can be noisy if it went off!

I hope you don't own a vehicle, it's not just your next door neighbour you are disturbing.

I hope you live alone like me, that way there are no conversations between 2 people taking place.

Ok this is very OTT.

coffeehound

Mickygg wrote: »

Ok this is very OTT.

Seemed to me like reasonable examples of how it’s not possible to be silent all the time.

Norman_Castle

KinderScout2019 wrote: »

Yes, this is the first warning from the neighbour. After a deep thought today, I really think this letter is rude and unnecessary.

Actually she could just tell me she can hear I was watching youtube and telephone call, I will immediately avoid that. Especially the phone call, it is my privacy, I don't want my neighbour to hear my conversation! It is scary to imaging she has been listening my phone call that I made at my house in my room.

I expect she thinks explaining to you that you're noisy shouldn't be necessary and has chosen the easy option for her of writing a letter. Any apparent rudeness is probably pre empting an argument from you.

Your neighbour doesn't want to hear your conversation. Scary for you, tedious for her.

Norman_Castle

Marvel1 wrote: »

Not allowed to flush the toilet

Not allowed to hoover a carpet?

No running the washing machine?

No having a shower or a bath?

I printed some documents earlier, can't so that again it was noisy.

Best I take out my smoke alarm too, they can be noisy if it went off!

I hope you don't own a vehicle, it's not just your next door neighbour you are disturbing.

I hope you live alone like me, that way there are no conversations between 2 people taking place.

coffeehound wrote: »

Seemed to me like reasonable examples of how it’s not possible to be silent all the time.

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Norman_Castle

PasturesNew wrote: »

Some people can live their entire lives without ever having a noisy neighbour. A few years ago I was living next door to a holiday let - most of the time I heard absolutely nothing as an assortment of different holidaymakers rented it week in, week out - then one day a new set arrived and for the whole week it was like a pack of stampeding elephants every time one of them went up/down the stairs. Once they left, nothing again.

I'm linked to four different flats and over the decades there has been a turnover of tenants. There has been no change to the property but the difference in noise between tenants is vast. Some are almost silent to the extent you don't know they are there, others are absurdly clueless about how much noise they make.

Marvel1

Mickygg wrote: »

Ok this is very OTT.

Exactly, that's my point, you cannot be silent all the time.

Norman_Castle

Marvel1 wrote: »

Exactly, that's my point, you cannot be silent all the time.

You've missed the point. No one is being asked to be silent.

parkrunner

KinderScout2019 wrote: »

Yes, this is the first warning from the neighbour. After a deep thought today, I really think this letter is rude and unnecessary.

Actually she could just tell me she can hear I was watching youtube and telephone call, I will immediately avoid that. Especially the phone call, it is my privacy, I don't want my neighbour to hear my conversation! It is scary to imaging she has been listening my phone call that I made at my house in my room.

According to the letter the first warning was the daughter banging on the wall when the noise was disturbing her.