Complaint from next door neighbour

Smodlet

Marvel1 wrote: »

Every time I watch TV, my headphones are on, but I'm thinking when toilet flushes as its also close by the wall! :eek:

I know I can't hear them and you think they can't hear me, one of my nephews just said can I report them (next door) as they can hear is them talking :rotfl:

Again, illustrating my point that those condemned to live in attached properties can hear each other all the time, hence the need for consideration all the time... Or you can make your neighbours' lives hell, as they can yours. Had decades of that; don't need another day.

Murphybear

Smodlet wrote: »

Again, illustrating my point that those condemned to live in attached properties can hear each other all the time, hence the need for consideration all the time... Or you can make your neighbours' lives hell, as they can yours. Had decades of that; don't need another day.

Not necessarily true. If the properties are well built there shouldn’t be excessive noise all the time

My parents moved into a brand new post war council house in 1954.

I lived in it until 1973 and in those 19 years I never heard a peep out of the neighbours.

onwards&upwards

Marvel1 wrote: »

I know my earing is bad and need a hearing aid or something but :embarasse

Definitely go and get your hearing checked, aids these days are tiny and unobtrusive but make a huge difference. My neighbour doesn’t think she needs them but the TV is unbelievably loud, I think it’s dead easy for it to get nudges up a couple of numbers each month and because it’s gradual you don’t notice. My grandma also has her TV insanely loud but she refuses to wear her hearing aids so she’s a lost cause!

onwards&upwards

Smodlet wrote: »

Again, illustrating my point that those condemned to live in attached properties can hear each other all the time, hence the need for consideration all the time... Or you can make your neighbours' lives hell, as they can yours. Had decades of that; don't need another day.

Not all the time, I can’t hear anything my neighbour does except when she has the TV or music on. Can’t hear her talking, hoovering, moving around, closing doors etc.

My last place I had a ‘normal’ level of noise when I moved in, occasional music when he had friends round on a Saturday night, some DIY every now and then, then a tenant moved in who was a nightmare, constant loud bass from his music, slamming doors, shouting etc. Then the last one I literally never heard a peep, same house three different sound levels, only one of them ‘all the time’.

coffeehound

It's funny, but I'd love to have neighbours who have TV or radio on at a normal volume during the day and into the night, and who have phone conversations and visitors.

This is the second flat I've lived in with creepy workless single male neighbours who are at home 99.998% of the time and who apparently sit in pin-drop silence all the time I'm at home.

This one goes to bed at 8pm so I'm tip-toeing around from then. Shortly after I moved in he balled through the floor because I had the TV on (pretty quietly) at 9.45. He then rises at 4am and deliberately makes noise because I haven't met his stringent curfew rules. Looking forward to the day I move out, as indeed I have in every place I've ever lived, come to think of it.

Doozergirl

Smodlet wrote: »

Personally, I can't STAND noisy, inconsiderate neighbours and I think this thread has really sorted the rich from the poor: Namely, the likes of Doozergirl and Davesnave, who variously "own a building company" and "have the smallholding from heaven in Devon" (paraphrasing) compared to those of us condemned to live the other side of a wall from whatever pig-ignorant chav-from-hell fate/their landlord chooses to inflict on us.

How very rude. You don't know my life, nor my background. I share a party wall and I can hear my neighbours but I'm happy to live and let live, as are they as we've rubbed along happily for five years. If I had an issue, I'd speak to them with some respect, making the automatic assumption that they didn't know that there is a problem, rather than upsetting them with passive aggressive notes. It's clearly made the OP anxious to the point of feeling threatened.

I note you then move on to refer to chavs and tenants, so I see that snobbery, and reverse snobbery is alive and well.

People from all walks of life have to share party walls and people from all walks of life can be noisy. People from all walks of life can be anti-social and people from all walks of life can be oversensitive.

People from all walks of life can equally be rude and judgemental.

First rule, be nice. Don't drag me into a conversation by insulting me, trying to create an imaginary class divide. You don't know me and Davenave wasn't even on the thread.

staffie1

coffeehound wrote: »

It's funny, but I'd love to have neighbours who have TV or radio on at a normal volume during the day and into the night, and who have phone conversations and visitors.

This is the second flat I've lived in with creepy workless single male neighbours who are at home 99.998% of the time and who apparently sit in pin-drop silence all the time I'm at home.

This one goes to bed at 8pm so I'm tip-toeing around from then. Shortly after I moved in he balled through the floor because I had the TV on (pretty quietly) at 9.45. He then rises at 4am and deliberately makes noise because I haven't met his stringent curfew rules. Looking forward to the day I move out, as indeed I have in every place I've ever lived, come to think of it.

I wonder whether he thinks you’re abnormal.

Norman_Castle

coffeehound wrote: »

It's funny, but I'd love to have neighbours who have TV or radio on at a normal volume during the day and into the night,

You've probably got them. "Normal" volume isn't measured by whether the neighbours can hear it. Your "creepy, workless" neighbours sound respectful and considerate.

coffeehound

staffie1 wrote: »

I wonder whether he thinks you’re abnormal.

How do you mean exactly?

Norman_Castle

Smodlet wrote: »

Again, illustrating my point that those condemned to live in attached properties can hear each other all the time, hence the need for consideration all the time...

onwards&upwards wrote: »

My last place I had a ‘normal’ level of noise when I moved in, occasional music when he had friends round on a Saturday night, some DIY every now and then, then a tenant moved in who was a nightmare, constant loud bass from his music, slamming doors, shouting etc. Then the last one I literally never heard a peep, same house three different sound levels, only one of them ‘all the time’.

The point being, without consideration you are likely to hear them all of the time as helpfully demonstrated by you.